Sugarkane Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Swfc how to you move on without any bitterness or anger though? I don't know how. Link to post Share on other sites
1784 Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 1784 - if you mean that she wants me back, i dont think so. Actually, no, that's not what I meant. I just meant that she is still trying to make her presence known in your life. She doesn't want to completely let go nor does she want you to forget her. It's an ego thing. Breakups happen but people generally don't want to be disliked by anyone. Your ex wants to let your mom know (and in turn let you know) that she's actually a really good person! lol. Personally, I think it's a pretty rotten thing to do. My ex did it as well. She kept contacting me periodically and sending me packages in the mail. I remember asking my mom at one point "Mom, what kind of a person breaks up with you and then keeps contacting you?!?". She replied, quite simply, "Only an a**hole does that". Good job, mom. More often than not a breakup means that the two parties have agreed to go their separate ways. And when I mean separate ways I mean just that. You go this way and I go that way (of course things like children make this a lot harder). But the point is, usually it's way too sensitive a situation for the two people to keep one another in each other's lives. It just always stings, ya know? This especially goes for contacting your ex's mom. There are just certain things you're gonna have to let go of after a breakup. Your ex's family is certainly one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author swfc_77 Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 (edited) 1784 - thats quality advice my friend, and i'd never looked at it like that. i took it as thought she was trying to worm her way back in, in some ways. as for telling my mother about how many partners she had been with, i just put it down to her trying to prove something to me and probably herself, i dont know, i didn't see the message. maybe it was a "i'v found it hard to get over this and only been with 1 person since" sort of message. it does get really, really tiring when they continue to contact you, but hope fully its stops for good now. sugarkane - i just kind of grew out of being bitter and angry about it all, and she was a class 1 bitch to me. but i just couldn't be bothered with her anymore. sometimes i would have conversations in my mind with her, you know like what i would like to say to her if we met. but after 2 mins i'd snap out of it and tell myself im not seeing her again so whats the point, and if i did get to chat with her, what i say would mean nothing because she is so self obsessed and she knows best (she thinks) she wouldn't take any of it on board, she'd actually turn and twist it all into a big arguement. nothing was ever her fault and somehow she'd always compare things i'd done with things she'd done in the relationship, like trying to put 50% of the blame onto me. im not perfect, im good but not perfect. lol. but i can walk away from that relationship knowing that i did ok and she was a lucky girl. its history now, lifes too short to be looking back and trying to work things out, so i kind of told myself "i cant be arsed with it anymore" thanks for the feedback, some good vibes going on here and even better advice. cheers Edited June 20, 2011 by swfc_77 Link to post Share on other sites
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