reggio Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 For married people only please. If you wanted to experience a threesome before you got married and you didn't, would you ask your spouse now that you are married? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 Originally posted by reggio For married people only please. If you wanted to experience a threesome before you got married and you didn't, would you ask your spouse now that you are married? no. Link to post Share on other sites
fredrolin Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 my wife and I both have had fantasies of having threesomes; MMF & FFM. At one point we were seriously trying to figure out how to get one started. I really don't remember how the subject came up. I believe most women would be against the idea and would see you asking as an indication that you want sex with another woman. Try to bring the subject up without asking straight out and see if her response is favorable or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Juggs Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 It's always a tough subject when you enter the serious relationship/marriage realm... Unless you have a seriously strong realtionship and are both very confident and secure people, I would leave it as a fantasy and not bring it up. If you still into feeling out the waters, though.... I would just discuss the topic, not outright ask.... Just bring it up as a topic over wine or something and see how your partner feels about it... You can judge from their how you wish to procede. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted April 16, 2004 Share Posted April 16, 2004 there's a time and a place for experimentation like that: it's called college no, I wouldn't bring it up to my husband, because my idea of marriage is keeping the relationship between the two of us! Link to post Share on other sites
confused88 Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 I have brought it up with my wife - and she agreed it was an interesting fantasy but anymore than that made her VERY uncomfortable. Guys - keep it a fantasy! Link to post Share on other sites
soccorsilly Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 If it is made into a reality, it could ruin your marraige. A couple NEEDS to be so strong to survive that and make the rules to play by. My SO and I have takled about it, and I doubt we would ever act on it--sometimes it is fun to role play with toys and talk and to imagine. If it were to happen with me, I would have to hire a third! There is no way I could ever do it with someone I know, or someone I might run into again. MAYBE (a big maybe there) a weekend in Las Vegas and a hired gun specifically for the event and then send her on her way home and leave my gf an me in the hotel to wallow in the afterglow! Link to post Share on other sites
fredrolin Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 like I said, the wife and I have talked about getting a 3some going. But we are more inclined to doing a MMF. sure I would love to do a FFM, but the thought of my wife doing me and another guy excites the hell out of me. I wouldn't want to touch the other guy; we would both do my wife. --- With a FFM 3some there is usually lesbian sex in the mix; sure I would dig it but the wife isn't too keen on it. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 there's a time and a place for experimentation like that: it's called college So true! Link to post Share on other sites
Greta Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 Originally posted by fredrolin But we are more inclined to doing a MMF. sure I would love to do a FFM, but the thought of my wife doing me and another guy excites the hell out of me. I wouldn't want to touch the other guy; we would both do my wife. --- My husband feels the same way! I also agree with some of the other posters, you have to have a really secure relationship and some things are just better left as a fantasy. But if you really want to pursue it and want to gauge her reaction, try bringing it up during one of those scenes in an adult video - eg. 'that looks like fun, what do you think?' or 'Hey, why don't we try that sometime! {playfully} --- ( that is of course assuming that you & your wife watch adult movies together) Her reaction to your question should give you a pretty good indication as to her openess to the idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 Nope, I started a thread on this subject before and I have to agree that some fantasies are better off being fantasies. Although, after I started that thread, ( and I haven't posted this update ), my wife confessed that she and her sister-in-law kissed and felt eachother up.....I was shocked, hurt, and turned on in some twisted way....I feel like she cheated on me and she hasn't apologized yet..... Link to post Share on other sites
Smalls Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 now im not married but was in a serious relationship a couple years ago and we talked about it over an dover. it was hot and nice to talk about but as far as it happening it should obly be talk and a fantasy. i have many friends who lost their relationship over it! Link to post Share on other sites
sandytea Posted April 20, 2004 Share Posted April 20, 2004 As someone who did do it (MMF) after being married, I suggest keeping it a fantasy. Although it seemed to be a turn on for my husband, he was not ready to see me lke that. When all was said and done, we had to work through some issues and somehow I had to pay for the willingness of making a fantasy come true. Link to post Share on other sites
Rightlymia Posted April 20, 2004 Share Posted April 20, 2004 I posted something about this too..The guy I've been seeing wants to have a threesome and I think it's fun to talk about but as far as really going through with it, I don't think I could do it.. Link to post Share on other sites
Unregi4 Posted December 14, 2005 Share Posted December 14, 2005 My husband and i acted out his fantisy of a FFM 3 some. I didnt like it and told them both but now they want to have sex with each other again. And they both just have me in with them.. I strongly agree that that stuff should just stay as fantisies!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Kenyth Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 No! Not a wise choice. You are playing with fire. The time to do this is with a girlfriend/boyfreind when you are young and unattached. That way, when everything goes to hell, you don't lose much. There's entirely too much emotional attachment in a committed relationship for this not to cause some issues. There are the rare couples who can handle this, but they are few and far between. You better be 100% sure. You stand to ruin your marriage by it. Link to post Share on other sites
Unreg4 Posted December 16, 2005 Share Posted December 16, 2005 My husband says the reason why he wants to have sex with my friend again is cause he wants to know if he can please another woman other than me.. i dont know if i should believe that!!! Link to post Share on other sites
feelinghurt Posted December 17, 2005 Share Posted December 17, 2005 My husband says the reason why he wants to have sex with my friend again is cause he wants to know if he can please another woman other than me.. i dont know if i should believe that!!! "LOL" Do you believe it? I don't. He just said that so that you will allow him to do that again. Basically, he want to have his cake and eat it too. If you believe and allow it, you're being a FOOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Unreg4 Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 "LOL" Do you believe it? I don't. He just said that so that you will allow him to do that again. Basically, he want to have his cake and eat it too. If you believe and allow it, you're being a FOOL. I figured that was what he was doing.. And I dont believe it! And as for my friend i kinda have a feeling that shes looking for a guy that would treat her better than her boyfriend does... And sorry but im not giving my husband of 10 yrs.up with out a fight! Thank you for your opinion! It really helps!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Kenyth Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 My husband says the reason why he wants to have sex with my friend again is cause he wants to know if he can please another woman other than me.. i dont know if i should believe that!!! If he feels he just has to know if he can please another woman, have him go over and paint your mothers house. That should please her! He can even experiment with techniques! Short stroke, long stroke, etc. He can try different positions! Standing, bent over, on his knees, etc. He can try it in different places! Outside, on a scaffold, in the kitchen, etc. He can use tools! He can even use power tools! There's a fantsy for ya! Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted December 20, 2005 Share Posted December 20, 2005 Nope, I started a thread on this subject before and I have to agree that some fantasies are better off being fantasies. Although, after I started that thread, ( and I haven't posted this update ), my wife confessed that she and her sister-in-law kissed and felt eachother up.....I was shocked, hurt, and turned on in some twisted way....I feel like she cheated on me and she hasn't apologized yet..... So sorry to hear that Moose and you should be hurt by it!! I think she owes you an apology also !! How long has it been since it happen? Was this awhile back or recent? Link to post Share on other sites
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