riyadbank50 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 dear all , i need you help here ,,, my story like romio & julite Im 30 and my girlfriend is 24 and we have been together for neary 4 years. she live in Indonesia and i live in another country , we deal to married but because the rules of the government that they request agreement to agree about this married from my country but my country not agree , we stay binding like that about almost 2 years , during that i visit her many times we smile we have fun with her family ,,,, even i bring her job in bank for her , but after that she become very busy and under push also . however , since last week she avoid my call, sms , and when ask some friend of her , to ask her " why ?" he said "she avoid my calling because i push her to married quickly and she need time to think " i send after 5 days flowers to her office then she sms me "thank u for the flowers" then i send her flowers yesterday again with card i say in it "i can't live without you" but still i didn't receive any update from her , i saw that she have face book , she contact her friends , but i didn't see our pic inside her page . what should i do now , should i send flowers or wait for 1 week to give her time or what good idea ,,,, should i make page in Facebook and i put our pic and type to her so can all her friends see our pic , or should i type to all her friends that i love this girl much much ? please help in this case ... regards Link to post Share on other sites
lisal Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 I have no idea what you are saying. Link to post Share on other sites
TinaniT Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 I THINK THIS IS SAYING Dear all, I need your help here. My story is like Romeo and Juliet. I'm 30 and my girlfriend is 24. We have been together for nearly four years, though she lives in Indonesia and I live in another country. We agreed to marry, but because of the rules of the government [i'm assuming immigration], we required governmental consent from my country, but we could not get approval. We have stayed stuck in the middle because of that for almost two years. During that time period, I visited her many times; we smiled, we had fun with her family, I even find her a job in banking. After that, she became very busy. However, since last week, she avoids my calls and messages. When I've asked a friend of hers why this is so, he answered that she was avoiding my calls because I was pushing her to be married too quickly and she needs time to think it over. After five days, I send flowers to her office and she sends me a message to say thank you. Yesterday, I send her flowers again with a card telling her I can't live without her, but haven't heard anything else I saw that on facebook, she is contacting her friends, but our picture is not on her page. What should I do now? Should I send flowers or wait a week to give her time? What is a good idea? Should I make a page in Facebook and put our picture and type to her to ensure all her friends see our picture, or should I message all her friends with how much love this girl? Please help me with this problem. regards I did the best I could; I assume English is not your first language. Answer: this might go in the dating forum or the Long Distance Relationship forum because you are not married. Whatever is going on, this girl is being exceedingly immature. She is not communicating. She could be trying to break up with you without having to tell you the words, or she could be trying to think but allowing no consideration for you. Neither is a good sign for the continued health of your relationship. If it were me, I would send her one letter. If indeed you do not think this marks the end (which I would consider based on her treatment of you) Dear [xxx], I love you very much. I do not know why you have stopped talking to me, but [friend you talked to] said you needed time. I would rather work out our problems together and hope you will consider doing so, but I want to give you what you need in all things, so I will not be attempting to contact you in the next [acceptable time period, 1 week, 2 week]. I am open to talking to you whenever you have what you need sorted out. I hope you do sooner rather than later, because I cannot wait forever. Love, [your name] Or something similar to that.. Then stick to it. Don't contact her. Sorry if I got the situation confused. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author riyadbank50 Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 RELAY YOU AMAZING ,specially the letter , even your word was hard to hear it but you have point in that ... thanks alot Link to post Share on other sites
Author riyadbank50 Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 RELAY YOU AMAZING ,specially the letter , even your word was hard to hear it but you have point in that ... thanks alot Link to post Share on other sites
Author riyadbank50 Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 by the way i already talk with her and she said that she love me but her parents not agree with me or not feel happy , and she can not to hurt them , even we already we did the relationship many time with her parents know , the problem her who make me mad that they that i support her daughter in her study when she need money and in her life when she need dress and i bring her job also ...but i don't know why ? also i will travel to meet her next week i already leave my job to take another job less in salalry in her country , and im try to meet her after she finish her work direct . i don't know what i have to do ? Link to post Share on other sites
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