Brittneytennelle Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 A few excerpts from The Playbook: It's All a Game Until You Get Married: The reason so many women don’t play the game well is many times they don’t even realize it is a game. Many women say I don’t play games, I’m just me and to them I say: you are already playing the game whether you realize it or not and you’re probably losing. Lest you think playing games is only for manipulative bitches, understand that men are already aware of everything I‘m saying. Men have looked at dating as a sport for some time now. They refer to being good with women as “having game”, when they have sex with a woman they “scored” or if they didn’t they “struck out”, when a man prevents another man from getting with a woman its “blocking”, and if a man succeeds in marrying a beautiful woman she’s considered his “trophy wife”. There was a time when the game was only played for a short time before two people were married (and social norms prevented a woman from giving too much too soon anyway). But in this day and age men and women are waiting longer and longer to get married, extending the playing time of the game even more. Too many women are getting hurt and/or taken advantage of because they are not equipped to go toe to toe with men that have been brushing up on their skills for years. Yes it is all a game ladies and it’s time we start brushing up on our skills." "Most women don’t like the term game as it relates to dating. Many feel it denotes manipulation and trickery. They say a man should love them for who they are and they should be able to be open and honest in a relationship. What these women don’t realize is the vast majority of men are already playing games. On purpose. There are books, articles, and websites all dedicated to making a man better at playing the game and getting what they want…from you. Men talk to each other and give tips and advice on how to get what they want from women. And what do you think men are playing these games to get from a woman? I’ll give you a hint; it’s not her hand in marriage. Men want sex. Men want the upper hand. Men want the occasional home cooked meal and soft touch but men don’t want to be tied down to one woman. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s just the average man’s ideal. The same way the average woman’s ideal is to have a man fall madly in love and commit to only her without having to do much more than “be herself”. Alas, it is not that easy. But men have accepted they cannot put all their cards on the table. They understand that it would be counterproductive to their ultimate goal. Men know they can’t just say: I want to have sex with you. I want you to be there when I want you, but I want to give up as little as possible when it comes to time, money and effort. And I certainly don’t want to give up my freedom to see other women, just in case there’s another woman out there that’s better than you. That wouldn’t go over well and most men have the common sense to not say it. They don’t feel they are being denied their right to be themselves. They don’t complain about playing games and not being able to be open and honest. They don’t claim it’s childish or unfair. What do they do? They do what works." From The Playbook: It's All a Game Until You Get Married now available on Amazon and Barnesandnoble.com
Dan The Stud Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 it is and those who dont play lose. i win becuase i play.
stepka Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 If women don't have "game" then why are we always being accused of playing games?
Jazzari Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 All men do NOT play games. All men do NOT want to stay single. Men ARE capable of loving and being faithful to one woman. Men DO want companionship and not just sex. I feel sorry for those women who feel like they have to play games and be the male equivalent of a jerk to get a man. That's just pathetic and sad. Instead of playing games and chasing after jerks, women just need to learn how to weed out the losers. I don't play. And I win a lot better man than the losers this article wants women to go after.
carhill Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 If women don't have "game" then why are we always being accused of playing games? It's a totally different world for the young people. Don't forget we're old farts
Dan The Stud Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 All men do NOT play games. All men do NOT want to stay single. Men ARE capable of loving and being faithful to one woman. Men DO want companionship and not just sex. I feel sorry for those women who feel like they have to play games and be the male equivalent of a jerk to get a man. That's just pathetic and sad. Instead of playing games and chasing after jerks, women just need to learn how to weed out the losers. I don't play. And I win a lot better man than the losers this article wants women to go after. gobs and gobs of girls say that but they get suckered in anyway and dont even realize it
triponsynth Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 All men do NOT play games. All men do NOT want to stay single. Men ARE capable of loving and being faithful to one woman. Men DO want companionship and not just sex. I feel sorry for those women who feel like they have to play games and be the male equivalent of a jerk to get a man. That's just pathetic and sad. Instead of playing games and chasing after jerks, women just need to learn how to weed out the losers. I don't play. And I win a lot better man than the losers this article wants women to go after. Could not agree more. Yes, there are lots of men, especially in their 20s who just want to enjoy the benefits of being single, while still having sex with lots of women. But there are also plenty of men out there who aren't into the numbers game, and who are interested in relationships. I don't think that men who don't play games are that hard to find.
Sanman Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Hmmm, a OP with a single post all about a new book. You guys need to get out from under that bridge. You are being attacked by a troll and don't even realize it.
Dan The Stud Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Could not agree more. Yes, there are lots of men, especially in their 20s who just want to enjoy the benefits of being single, while still having sex with lots of women. But there are also plenty of men out there who aren't into the numbers game, and who are interested in relationships. I don't think that men who don't play games are that hard to find. men who dont play games are hard to find cause theyre at home by themself masturbating. either alone or in parents basebent. some are with ugly girls.
Author Brittneytennelle Posted June 10, 2011 Author Posted June 10, 2011 Hmmm, a OP with a single post all about a new book. You guys need to get out from under that bridge. You are being attacked by a troll and don't even realize it. Lol no need for the name-calling. Yes I am a writer but I am also a woman and everyday I see and hear of women that have been hurt or taken advantage of because they decided to take some moral high ground. This is why the book was written. It is not about man-bashing, it is about a woman learning how to get what she wants from the man she wants. If whatever a woman has been doing works for her I encourage her to continue doing it, but the fact is many women are not happy with how things are progressing in their dating life. Many women are being used or taken-for-granted. To say that women shouldn't learn how to play the same dating game that a very large percentage of men play because there are a few men that don't isn't very logical and it does a disservice to women. That is why the excerpts were posted and that is why the book was written.
Dan The Stud Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Lol no need for the name-calling. Yes I am a writer but I am also a woman and everyday I see and hear of women that have been hurt or taken advantage of because they decided to take some moral high ground. This is why the book was written. It is not about man-bashing, it is about a woman learning how to get what she wants from the man she wants. If whatever a woman has been doing works for her I encourage her to continue doing it, but the fact is many women are not happy with how things are progressing in their dating life. Many women are being used or taken-for-granted. To say that women shouldn't learn how to play the same dating game that a very large percentage of men play because there are a few men that don't isn't very logical and it does a disservice to women. That is why the excerpts were posted and that is why the book was written. most girls got a long way to go to catch up to the studs. good luck there.are you hottie?
Jazzari Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 men who dont play games are hard to find cause theyre at home by themself masturbating. either alone or in parents basebent. some are with ugly girls.Men who don't play games are hard to find because they are in such demand. Most are happily married.
Dan The Stud Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Men who don't play games are hard to find because they are in such demand. Most are happily married. whooo boy. hding under a rock? you got a lot to learn girl
Jazzari Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 whooo boy. hding under a rock? you got a lot to learn girlI feel for you, Dan the Dud. I really do. It must be miserable living in your cold little world. You have alot to learn about what makes a real man - and a real stud.
stepka Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 It's a totally different world for the young people. Don't forget we're old farts Oh. yeh. Brave new world.
TheLawmaker Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Way to turn it around on men! Women play games, lots of them. Some men know how to play a woman's game, and then there are some that don't. They're called real life 40 year old virgins.
Dan The Stud Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 I feel for you, Dan the Dud. I really do. It must be miserable living in your cold little world. You have alot to learn about what makes a real man - and a real stud. thats the best you can do? geez
Dan The Stud Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Way to turn it around on men! Women play games, lots of them. Some men know how to play a woman's game, and then there are some that don't. They're called real life 40 year old virgins. thats why men should outplay the girls
somedude81 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Lol no need for the name-calling. Yes I am a writer but I am also a woman and everyday I see and hear of women that have been hurt or taken advantage of because they decided to take some moral high ground. This is why the book was written. It is not about man-bashing, it is about a woman learning how to get what she wants from the man she wants. If whatever a woman has been doing works for her I encourage her to continue doing it, but the fact is many women are not happy with how things are progressing in their dating life. Many women are being used or taken-for-granted. To say that women shouldn't learn how to play the same dating game that a very large percentage of men play because there are a few men that don't isn't very logical and it does a disservice to women. That is why the excerpts were posted and that is why the book was written. Frankly I'd say that the number of young men who are unhappy with the dating game is many times greater than the number of young women who are unhappy. Women are more capable of easily getting what they want, when they want it; whether she wants a LTR, quick flings or just to be single and not date at all. It's easier for a woman to be satisfied. It's also my belief that the only reason a woman is single, is because she wants to be. The same is not true for men. There are a very large number of men who have extreme difficulty getting any woman at all. I made a graph to show what I mean. I came up with the numbers myself so it's obviously not 100% accurate. My point is, if that you ask a man who hasn't had a date in the past three months or spent time with a woman, if he is fine with it, he will most likely tell you no.
Dan The Stud Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Frankly I'd say that the number of young men who are unhappy with the dating game is many times greater than the number of young women who are unhappy. Women are more capable of easily getting what they want, when they want it; whether she wants a LTR, quick flings or just to be single and not date at all. It's easier for a woman to be satisfied. It's also my belief that the only reason a woman is single, is because she wants to be. The same is not true for men. There are a very large number of men who have extreme difficulty getting any woman at all. I made a graph to show what I mean. I came up with the numbers myself so it's obviously not 100% accurate. My point is, if that you ask a man who hasn't had a date in the past three months or spent time with a woman, if he is fine with it, he will most likely tell you no. then learn game
somedude81 Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 Bah, did you have to post so soon after me? Now I can't edit my post Here is the graph I wanted to show. BTW, I'd love to learn game. I've tried.
Bertram Posted June 10, 2011 Posted June 10, 2011 everyday I see and hear of women that have been hurt or taken advantage of because they decided to take some moral high ground. This is why the book was written. looks like they picked the wrong men then...maybe you should write a book on how to pick the right men instead?
Sanman Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Lol no need for the name-calling. Yes I am a writer but I am also a woman and everyday I see and hear of women that have been hurt or taken advantage of because they decided to take some moral high ground. This is why the book was written. It is not about man-bashing, it is about a woman learning how to get what she wants from the man she wants. If whatever a woman has been doing works for her I encourage her to continue doing it, but the fact is many women are not happy with how things are progressing in their dating life. Many women are being used or taken-for-granted. To say that women shouldn't learn how to play the same dating game that a very large percentage of men play because there are a few men that don't isn't very logical and it does a disservice to women. That is why the excerpts were posted and that is why the book was written. You may well be a woman who has an opinion on the issue. I have no problem with open discussion about this. However, what you are doing is using this forum to get free advertising for a book you have written. The goal here, then, is to be provocative and sell copies of a book rather than honest discussion.
musemaj11 Posted June 11, 2011 Posted June 11, 2011 Its not a game. Its a war out there. Men are trying to have sex with as many women as they can without giving any commitment while women are trying to get the wealthiest man they can into legal entrapment so that he will provide for them for the rest of his life. Honestly, both sides are taking casualties in this war. However, the effect on the male victims is usually heavier and more long lasting.
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