jamzyy Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 Really need some help here me and my bf been together over a year now, and things have been really good up until about a month or so ago. He has a baby with his ex gf so i can understand if he wants to know how the babies doing but its not like that he texts her over 200 times a day even more sometimes and they not even about the baby. Shes constantly texting him stuff like hi bbe and love u loads and she doesnt know i know this and it really winding me up because he doesnt say n e thing to her about it just lets her do it. Please help i need it Link to post Share on other sites
vsmini Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 What did he say when you talked to him about it? Link to post Share on other sites
bigmomma1974 Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 The first thing i would do is sit him down and talk to him about this if you havent already. Yes when people have children they do need to communicate about the child to make it easier on the child. However this seems to be a lot different. Express yourself and if things dont change then maybe it is time to move on and find someone else. Communication is the key to all successful relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
anneanderson Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 his ex may still be interested in him but you can have him all for yourself alone if you believe in spell and magic,you can contact the spell caster that helped me with similar problem, his e-mail address is agbomola2005@gmail Link to post Share on other sites
bikinibeach Posted June 10, 2011 Share Posted June 10, 2011 his ex may still be interested in him but you can have him all for yourself alone if you believe in spell and magic,you can contact the spell caster that helped me with similar problem, his e-mail address is agbomola2005@gmail .......lol Link to post Share on other sites
Only Gal Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 I hate when other girls calling my bf with sweet names like 'babe', 'baby', 'sweetie' or all the ****s. Talk to him and ask him to imagine u were in his position. Having a baby from your ex, and he calls u many times n talked other things but baby then hiding it from him. i'm not sure if he would like it. But be aware that they might have some nostalgia times together. In indonesian it's called "cinta bersemi kembali" means that old love can be quite destroying a relationship if it's out of the line. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jamzyy Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 i've talked to him about it and he tells me to shut it and i dunno n e thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Professor X Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 i've talked to him about it and he tells me to shut it and i dunno n e thing. Either you break up with him or you shut it. You choose. Link to post Share on other sites
vsmini Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Either you break up with him or you shut it. You choose. I second this. You can choose to accept it or you can choose to walk. Since your lovely man that obviously respects you so much by telling you to "shut it" has made that clear. Link to post Share on other sites
Ouroboros Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 I guess you'll need to give him a child too. Link to post Share on other sites
Only Gal Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 i've talked to him about it and he tells me to shut it and i dunno n e thing. same thing happened to me everytime i talk nicely to him about wats bothering me. and he only could say: 'stop complaining", then i just said: "i wouldnt be complaining now if u didnt do anything uncomfortable for me n made me complain and asking your explanation" huh! but when he complained to me, i always listened to him and try to make it up. he always thinks he's the right one. i think it's not fair in your case hon. do what u think is right for you, what u deserve, and have a pride. Link to post Share on other sites
Only Gal Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 i've talked to him about it and he tells me to shut it and i dunno n e thing. i know it feels so uncomfortable. I have no idea how to deal with a man thinks he's always right and acts like nothing happened. Did u see his reactions when u asked him that? how was it? he looked uncomfortable with the topic, relax, or else? if your relationship will go on in the future with him, his ex can't be ignoring you. if i was her, i would try to know u better, as my baby one might spending time with you and the father. Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Really need some help here me and my bf been together over a year now, and things have been really good up until about a month or so ago. He has a baby with his ex gf so i can understand if he wants to know how the babies doing but its not like that he texts her over 200 times a day even more sometimes and they not even about the baby. Shes constantly texting him stuff like hi bbe and love u loads and she doesnt know i know this and it really winding me up because he doesnt say n e thing to her about it just lets her do it. Please help i need it Doesn't sound like you are equipped to deal with someone that has a responsibility with another woman. This scenario sounds like all 3 of you are very young... from experience, if you can bounce, bounce now! I'd tell you this much, his "baby momma" will forever be a fixture in all HIS relationships. One day she will mature and find her way, even move on to form a family with someone else. Until then, she will behave this way. It's your choice to stay in the picture or not, in reality neither him or her are going anywhere. There is a child involved. Time will pass and it may take years for the connection to wear off and them just be 'parents'. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
WhisperinnWinds Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 You need to leave this guy. He will repeat this same process over and over again with everyone he dates. She will take precedence and they will have this weird pseudo-relationship probably forever. They don't have to be together, but they think they can justify inappropriate contact with "we have a baby together!" Their contact should be mostly about the baby, especially since they clearly (at least on one side, but probably both, anyway) still have feelings for each other. Your boyfriend's completely invalidated you and he won't listen to anything you have to say about this situation. Leave and leave now. I don't even think you owe him an answer. But, to perhaps spare some future girls the same situation, I'd say, "You never took my viewpoint or feelings into consideration. Your contact with your ex was inappropriate given that you're in a relationship with another person. I will not stay with someone who does hurtful things, won't discuss it any further and won't even offer to compromise. Have a good life." You can add in expletives as you'd like (^_~ kidding) Link to post Share on other sites
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