engravefeelthevoid Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 I am not illiterate....I read and I have previous experiences with women...I'm a 22 year old guy who might just get into a serious relationship soon...I might have just found "The One" Do you think that if I build a healthy relationship with a woman along the next 3 years I would be safe and we could get married ? a friend of mine pointed out that after the 3 years of being in a relationship...some rich and successful guy could just come along and grab her...is Love really stronger than that ? Link to post Share on other sites
DreamerGirl27 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 I would not leave a guy I loved for some "rich" dude. I'd be more content living in a tiny apartment somewhere with someone I love, than in a fancy mansion with someone I don't. It's not about money. I could care less about money. Besides...I make my own money. If I wanted to be rich, I'd get out there and bust my butt getting MYSELF rich. I would not rely on a man. It's one thing to have the guy be the "bread winner" and "take care of you", but I don't require a fancy car, 18 million shoes and a boob job. I require your love and commitment. That's all I'm after. If other women would do this to a guy, that's their mistake and their loss. Link to post Share on other sites
dangerstranger Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 The thing about love is that there are no guarantees whatsoever. You take a chance, and it takes you where it takes you. Link to post Share on other sites
DreamerGirl27 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 The thing about love is that there are no guarantees whatsoever. You take a chance, and it takes you where it takes you. Agreed. I also have to add more to what I was saying about, if I wanted to be rich, I'd make myself rich. Women have come a long way since the 50's. We can work, we can get degrees, we can be very independent. We don't NEED men to take care of us. It's ideal, especially when kids are involved, to have a soul provider to take care of us, but if the only thing a woman is out for is a really successful guy, that has "gold digger" written all over it. I'm not a gold digger. I don't want to be rich. Or famous. I want to find my soul mate and grow old together and have a family and a very nice, little life without all the glitz and the glam and the expensive crap I don't need. So yes, there are girls out there that love with their heart. I think the majority of the girls you see who go for the rich guys are girls on TV shows and crap like that. There's this one show in particular that I'm thinking of, and they are very beautiful girls with very old, very UGLY men. Gross! Who would want that?! Just so she can have nice clothes? No.thanks!! I've been around rich guys, poor guys and average guys and let me tell you...the poor/average guys treat me with a lot more respect and dignity and that's what matters. But I do agree with dangerstranger. There are no guarantees. You just have to take the plunge and hope for the best and not worry if you lose. Better to have loved than never to have loved at all? Link to post Share on other sites
dangerstranger Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Agreed. I also have to add more to what I was saying about, if I wanted to be rich, I'd make myself rich. Women have come a long way since the 50's. We can work, we can get degrees, we can be very independent. We don't NEED men to take care of us. It's ideal, especially when kids are involved, to have a soul provider to take care of us, but if the only thing a woman is out for is a really successful guy, that has "gold digger" written all over it. I'm not a gold digger. I don't want to be rich. Or famous. I want to find my soul mate and grow old together and have a family and a very nice, little life without all the glitz and the glam and the expensive crap I don't need. So yes, there are girls out there that love with their heart. I think the majority of the girls you see who go for the rich guys are girls on TV shows and crap like that. There's this one show in particular that I'm thinking of, and they are very beautiful girls with very old, very UGLY men. Gross! Who would want that?! Just so she can have nice clothes? No.thanks!! I've been around rich guys, poor guys and average guys and let me tell you...the poor/average guys treat me with a lot more respect and dignity and that's what matters. But I do agree with dangerstranger. There are no guarantees. You just have to take the plunge and hope for the best and not worry if you lose. Better to have loved than never to have loved at all? The whole challenge is to take the plunge or not. You know the risks, they are scary, are you emotionally healthy enough to dive in or not? Link to post Share on other sites
eastsunshine2011 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 I am not illiterate....I read and I have previous experiences with women...I'm a 22 year old guy who might just get into a serious relationship soon...I might have just found "The One" Do you think that if I build a healthy relationship with a woman along the next 3 years I would be safe and we could get married ? a friend of mine pointed out that after the 3 years of being in a relationship...some rich and successful guy could just come along and grab her...is Love really stronger than that ? It doesn't matter how long u've been with them. U know when it right when it's right. I got married at 20 after one year of dating. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 There are no guarantees because Love needs to be worked on, constantly. And you both need to be 100% committed, 100% of the time. It takes effort, communication, trust and respect. if those things are constantly active within a relationship, it stands an extraordinarily good chance of lasting the distance. But things change, people change, circumstances change I married for love, but divorced for love, too. Either for myself (Self-Respect) or the love for another. It happens. Take the plunge, and take the chance. Success isn't up to Love. It's up to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 Fantastic I'm kind of relieved hearing your opinions....so women prefer love...but still there are no guarantees you can only do ur best and hope something good will happen.... Link to post Share on other sites
ON MY OWN Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 I am a woman and I personally would never leave someone for money. I believe a huge part of it comes from the way we were raised and the values we learned and adopted as our own while maturing. True love is about putting someone before yourself and sticking together through the good as well as the not-so-good times. It is a leap of faith no matter what too. I have been with someone just short of 2 years, and actually semi LDR and wouldnt leave him for Bill Gates!!!! Love is love, money does NOT depict love. Money is temporary, love has the elements of a permanent possibility if nurtured like a delicate flower. Both people have to want a similar future also otherwise it ends up not working. Hope in some way this has helped. Link to post Share on other sites
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted June 12, 2011 Author Share Posted June 12, 2011 it really helped ! im slowly getting back the faith as I had this scary idea in this....im planning on being irrationally optimistic ! and do my best ! and be faithful !@ Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 I have been in 3 long term relationships. 5, 5, 6 years. All of them told me I was the one, the most loving perfect guy ever. Soulmate bla bla bla. All 3 of them left me for rich guys, mostly doctors(maybe I should get rid of the nurse thing)lol. All 3 of them came back after about 3 months. I told 2 of them to forget it, I am dealing with the pain of the 3rd one now. Almost over her enough to tell her to eff off. Dreamergirl I actually have read a lot of your posts. You seem like a hopeless romantic like me. Will you marry me? lol j/k. I guess I fall way to in love and I get to the point where I don't even think about other girls and maybe start to look weak and needy. I guess my advice is that you have to always keep it interesting with women they do tend to get bored a lot easier than a man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted June 17, 2011 Author Share Posted June 17, 2011 I wish women would keep it simple :/ this whole thing differs between one woman and the other....there are no rules....im in the midline of having hope and not having hope.... Link to post Share on other sites
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