I was told I got into a fight while drunk... now

[Joanna_Sim]

my nose feels weird because it seems more soft and it sort of hurts everytime I'm breathing.

 

I really don't remembered this. It was when I woked-up and noticed my cheek being bruised and some dried blood.

 

I still have many answered questions:

 

I don't know who did this nor what exactly happened?

 

Is it really true what they're saying? Did I really initated a fight (because I'm a violent person)?

Lastly I'm 5'10', a bit over 160 and know some defenses so how was I so careless and knocked easily?

If they're my friends why didn't anyone intervene or stop me when I was about to start the fight?

Can I report this? I still feel this person, whoever it is should have common sense that I wasn't in the right state of mind at that moment.

I know if I really started then I must expect something (probably would have won if sobered) but I don't really recalled any of this at all.

[dangerstranger]

Take responsibility for being a drunken mess.

 

If you wake up with a bloody nose and bruised cheek, and can't remember what happened- you obviously have a problem.

 

You can't count on other people to recognize you are having a bad day and leave you alone. Human nature doesn't work that way.

 

Chances are you got loaded, started a fight, or acted in a way that instigated a fight. If you're going to get hammered to the point where you can't remember your involvement in an altercation, you shouldn't cast stones on others and expect them to consider your source.

 

You drank to the point of black out effect, take responibility for that.

 

You entered into a contract with the alcohol at the first sip you took. Blaming others is unreasonable- blame yourself and cut back on your drinking.

[Dust]

my nose feels weird because it seems more soft and it sort of hurts everytime I'm breathing.

 

I really don't remembered this. It was when I woked-up and noticed my cheek being bruised and some dried blood.

 

Maybe you should see a doctor about your injuries if they worry you. Sounds like you'll be ok.

 

I still have many answered questions:

 

I don't know who did this nor what exactly happened?

 

Is it really true what they're saying? Did I really initated a fight (because I'm a violent person)?

Lastly I'm 5'10', a bit over 160 and know some defenses so how was I so careless and knocked easily?

 

You don’t have to take their word for anything. Feel free to question what really happened. Maybe even go back to the bar and find out if there are cameras or staff witness’s. You might not be able to get any more info then what your friends are telling you. You also might not like what you find out.

 

I’m also confused are you saying you are a violent person? Is that just what your friends say? Maybe you should get new friends if this is what they think of you. If it’s true though then you need to deal with that aspect of your anger.

 

If they're my friends why didn't anyone intervene or stop me when I was about to start the fight?

 

 

Those are questions you should ask them. The person who tries to break up a fight often get injured worse then the people fighting. For that reason and many others you really can’t expect them to fight your battles for you.

 

First and foremost you really should never get drunk to the point you did. If you were attacked which isn’t what your friends are saying they should have called the cops. If you were the attacker it just would have been your friends joining in an attack and opening themselves up to criminal liability. Really it was the bar staff who stood the most to lose and were in the best position to break it up. You can’t depend on them for protection either. The number one thing you should have done was not get that drunk.

 

The same way you are wondering why your friends didn’t do more for you, they me be wondering what type of friend they have in you. If there version of events are true you put them in a bad situation not the other way around.

 

Can I report this? I still feel this person, whoever it is should have common sense that I wasn't in the right state of mind at that moment.

I know if I really started then I must expect something (probably would have won if sobered) but I don't really recalled any of this at all.

 

 

If a drunk person attacks you it can be very dangerous. It’s often a person who is completely out of it who can kill or hurt you the most. They probably had every right to defend themselves and if anything you would be the one arrested if the police decided to do anything. Seems like you got lucky not to be to injured and at this point out of jail.

 

The only reason I would go to the police is if I thought I was drugged. Sounds like you drugged yourself though. The fact that you say stuff like I probably would have won if sobered leaves me to believe you don’t understand the situation you are in. I would look to avoid it again at all costs.

[Joanna_Sim]

No I'm not a violent person. I meant to say no, was going to edit it but couldn't. This is why I'm shocked to hear I would be capable of starting a fight.

[whichwayisup]

No I'm not a violent person. I meant to say no, was going to edit it but couldn't. This is why I'm shocked to hear I would be capable of starting a fight.

 

One thing you should do is, stop drinking. If you are getting hammered to the point you don't remember what you did while drunk, blacking out and doing things like fighting or being violent, then you have to stop. Alcohol affects people differently, some get drunk and are fine, remember stuff and don't go off and do crazy stuff, and others change completely while drunk.

 

If you can't or feel like stopping drinking is going to be difficult, then talk to your Dr and also go to AA. Get lots of support to help you cope with this.

 

Is this the first time you've done something that you can't remember while being drunk?