sueisfine Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 OK I know that if someone dumps you that things are probably best left that way - ie NC, and cold turkey. I've been reading this forum for the past few months as my ex boyfriend dumped me. I took it bad, real bad but now I am feeling better about myself. Anyway contact betwen us after the split was on / off sometimes initiated my me, sometimes him. We were civil and met up a couple of times. Recently I have felt it best not to get in contact so much as he has a new girlfriend. But yesterday he emailed me and suggested we meet up to spend the day in the park having a few drinks in the sun. I find this strange considering he has a new girlfriend but I am hopeful. We broke up because we argued in fact we were horrible to each other for a while. I would appreciate some suggestions from guys and girls on how to approach this meet up. I want him back. I look better now than I did having taken good care of myself, got fit, new hair do, tanned, gosh I've tried so other than appearances what would attract him back to me? Happy confident nature for one ... I can do that...what else???? Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 What could make dumpers changed their mind? My take on this: Your ex realized he still love you truly and make a mistake by breaking up with you. Honestly, we won't know if this will ever happen because unfortunately we are not him. And perhaps he himself won't even know if he will ever think and feel this way. My suggestion, move on from this past relationship. I'm happy to hear you are doing things to help yourself. Perhaps, you will like to ask yourself this, "Are you sure you want to be with him again... when he has a new gf already." Link to post Share on other sites
Ultrasonic Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Actually, are you sure he even still has that new gf? Maybe it was a fling; or just a rebound to get over not being with you? Before trying to re-enter a relationship the first thing you should do is sit and ask yourself why you want to and be 100% sure you REALLY want to, and not just because you lost him. Also; while did I did say "re-enter" the relationship, if you try and reconnect, make sure you're looking at it as though it's a NEW relationship, because otherwise you may tend to simply think of old problems. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sueisfine Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 Actually, are you sure he even still has that new gf? Maybe it was a fling; or just a rebound to get over not being with you? He def has a new girlfriend and is still seeing her as far as I know. They haven't been together long maybe three months? We were togther almost 7 years - a long time and it was a shock to suddenly be apart from him. I am confused by his signals - he has a girl, but wants to see me. He hasn't contacted me since the other day when he suggested drinks but then I haven't replied yet. I dont want to go and feel disappointment when I feel he doesn't want to 're-enter' into a relationship with me. but i want to give it my best shot so I know that i've done all i can. Link to post Share on other sites
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