Only Gal Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 i wanna ask u guys one thing: if u know your gf/bf went out with the oppsite sex frens several times or catching up and all, and your bg/gf never invited u or intoduced u to them, then found out that none of the frens know that she has a bf (in the case that ur in love). how would u feel? i had the same experience. ive been asking my bf to accept my fren request in fb (facebook) for around 3 months, he promised he would do it once he go ol. he did go to fb several times without having intention to accept it. 11 march i asked him to accept the invitation for the 3rd time of the month, at the same day he was posting pics in it. and yesterday he finally did with a mad face, and he said he didnt open it since weeks ago. but i saw his wall, he was actually been thre 3 days before commenting his female fren (tagging his pic on his wall). it hurts. alot. we've been together for almost 2 years since i was 21, im so proud of having him coz i love him n everybody knows, i told my frens n family, i put our pic as my fb wallpaper, but what he did? i just think that either he's ashamed of having me to his frens (coz im still doing my master abroad n no income yet while he's a doctor having big bucks) or it's bcoz i'm asian and he's european with different culture, or maybe it's bcoz out religion (different ones), or just bcoz he still wants to flirt around (he has more female frens of cute nurses n only has few male). Link to post Share on other sites
Pianiste Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Sounds shady to me. It's not like you were asking to openly publish your relationship on facebook, you just asked to be friends. You even had to remind him several times, something that in my opinion you shouldn't even have to do. After he unwillingly gave in to your request he lied to you about not being active at all. (Which is a bit ironic because you'd think he'd be smart enough, being a doctor and all, to know you could see his activity on his wall. Unless he deleted it, which he didn't.) I'd worry if none of his friends know about you. It's one thing to tell your parents but a whole different story not to tell your friends. Sounds to me like he's keeping his options open and possibly doesn't even feel the same way about you. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 Oh FFS. I read this text drivel and thought it was the posting of a 15 year old kid with all this ridiculous Facebook drama and instead, it's someone in their early 20's supposedly getting a Master's Degree. Maybe when my eyes stop bleeding from reading this nonsense I'll come back and leave a reply. Nah, I doubt it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Only Gal Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 Thank you your comments guys. To woman in blue: No, it's not all about facebook. It's beyond that. It's just one thing on top of another that hurts me. It's more about how difficult it is for him to commit in respecting my feelings and things that are important for me, as well as his behaviour that might be harmful to us. But i just have the feeling he doesn't care. so much stories behind this "only-facebook" thingy. I'm a girl. I want my man to make me happy and consider my feelings as i respect what's important for him, of coz i will demand the same thing too. i didnt ask him in rude way, i asked him nicely. just casual question person-to-person. but it was his reactions that hurt me. yelling n screaming at me right after i asked him. and the fact he didnt want me there and lied to me. Lying is not good. "i havent been active for weeks" when in fact it was just 3 days ago when he commented a girl's pic. Plus, there's no reason for someone to hurt others just bcoz a simple question. He could instead answered me in a nice way (still havent answered me untill now n he's avoiding to answer me), as well teling me maybe he forgot to check the fren request. but instead he screamed, yell, n called me "bitch". who's on earth dont to be introduced to all our partner's frens and announced us to be theirs? i'm the one who supposed to be mad at him, coz he lied, and his reactions i dont understand shows like he's hiding something from me. Once when we were still frenz on fb, i posted pics of us. ugly face pics. He didnt like it n asked me to remove it right away. but what about his colleague (intial A), she posted n tagged pic in his ugly time plus the photoshop that made his face looks so fat with thousands of freckles? he commented it at the very same day n have a joke about it. as i told u, it's beyond just fb. it's more about the way he treats other women differently from the way he treats me. in addition, put his priority to his female frenz above mine. i am the gf. all gfs in the world for sure want to be their man's 1st priority, and not under his female frenz. i just wanted to be special for him. to be known as his gf to all his frenz. especially it's a long distance relationship, i could feel more secure if all his frens there know that he's got his woman already. It is important for me. i did anything what he thinks important to him, like cutting off my frenships to my male frens that he didnt like, compared to spending 5 mins to allow me in there n see what's going on with him n get to know his frens. which sacrifice u think is bigger? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Only Gal Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 Oh FFS. I read this text drivel and thought it was the posting of a 15 year old kid with all this ridiculous Facebook drama and instead, it's someone in their early 20's supposedly getting a Master's Degree. Maybe when my eyes stop bleeding from reading this nonsense I'll come back and leave a reply. Nah, I doubt it. I will put additional info in a new thread. please comment it brutally as honest as u can do. i'll appreciate that. =) Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 What does "frenz" mean? It sounds like he does not respect you at all, and in fact is simply on the prowl for a "better" option. (Maybe someone who can spell properly??) I would recommend you ditch him, he obviously does not care about you or your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Only Gal Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 What does "frenz" mean? It sounds like he does not respect you at all, and in fact is simply on the prowl for a "better" option. (Maybe someone who can spell properly??) I would recommend you ditch him, he obviously does not care about you or your feelings. Thank you for your reply. yes, i do feel disrespected and kinda blaming the difference in our culture plus the long-distance relationship of UK to Bali Indonesia/Malaysia. (how many miles is that? i know it's around 15 hours). I know we needed lots of compromise with each other, and i think i did my best as i have only few male friends which are study group (classmate). PS: =) i'm sorry bout my spelling. english is not my mother language. and im using lots of short words for sms, guess im too used to it. Link to post Share on other sites
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