mixed feelings on a second chance

[c0ol]

I've been going out with this girl for lil bit over 2 months and the feelings we had for each other were really up there. I could say things started moving pretty fast about future plans which was my mistake. She would bring up conversations about her friends getting recently engaged. Everything was going very very smooth with no problems till this week. I went to her work this week after she got out of her meeting and was worried that her job was going to relocate her for a month or 2 in Texas. She really got thinking about the relationship and work. When I first saw her after the meeting I went for peck on the lips and she gave me the cheek. We went to the lake and talked, I noticed something was wrong, but I just didn't want to ask her if something was wrong. Later that night she called me she finally let it all out. She is the kind of person that does not show her saddness, keeps it all bottled up. Well she told me she was scared of me asking her if something was wrong, because she would of broke there in tears. We both discussed how things started moving too fast in the begining. She mention that her emotional feelings towards me on a scale of 1-10 was at 10 and now she would rate it as a 5 . She knows I have very strong feelings for her. She says she still loves me, but unsure about her feelings for me because its hard for her to explain. she came up with the option of giving the relationship another chance or just end it there and still be good friends. We talked yesterday and said she honestly wants things to work out, but I get the feeling that she wants to just seprate little by little.

So I thought about just giving up, but then thought it's worth a shot giving it 2-3 weeks if there is any improvment. So now I want to know what approach should I take the next time I see her... My plans are meeting up with her...taking her out to lunch or dinner... maybe just give her a hug... no kisses... no holding hands...and try not to mention anything about the relationship. Anything I should add ?

[bluechocolate]

In the grand scheme of things 2 months isn't a very long time - if you can feel so intensely about someone is so short a time it stands to reason that you can feel the opposite in as short a time also. It is not my intention to belittle your feelings for each other, but often in the beginning of a relationship, especially if it's been intense, it's more about infatuation than love. This would go someway to explaining the drop from a 10 to a 5. The true tests come when the infatuation wears off and you both decide that you still like each other enough to make a go of it.

 

You mentioned twice how things moved really fast for the two of you and that she agreed - it sounds to me like she wants to slow it down.

 

<< she came up with the option of giving the relationship another chance or just end it there and still be good friends >>

 

Personally if someone gave me that option I'd go for door number 2 - it's a strange thing to put to someone. What exactly are her feelings towards you? And why the "option"? What does SHE want? Give her the option and see what she says. If you want to give it another chance then let her know that you're available and willing to make it work but let her call the shots - you should soon discover where it's going.