Shaun-Dro Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 (edited) I just saw a news brief about sex attacks blasting through the roof in NYC. Not sure if this is happening everywhere else, but definitely here in the Big Apple. The news stated 3 incidents just hours apart and a total of 10 incidents over the last week in the city alone. This is a little scary for you women out there as the weather is only gonna heat up and an increase of more people out. I brought this subject to my uncle's attention and he says that a lot of men are pissed at women right now and then he went back to the basketball Playoff game. Any thoughts? Edited June 13, 2011 by Shaun-Dro mistake to post Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shaun-Dro Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 I don't mean to disturb anyone, least of all women, but it was just brought to my attention that it's going around like the flu lately and I'm concerned about my little sister who loves to hang out into the wee hours of the night sometimes, especially the weekends. I guess this is something most people on Love Shack don't wanna touch with a 10-foot pole, hence only 1 response so far and very few reads. Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 It's not a pleasant topic, but something a lot of women are aware of. There was a serial killer in my neighborhood and it almost got to Son of Sam proportions. Three women were murdered (and two escaped with their lives) before the ordeal ended. I was afraid for my life, but there wasn't much I could do except keep on a lookout. When I think of the statistics, I'm probably more likely to die of cancer than of homicide. But it's gruesome to think about the horrible last moments of these women's lives. It's a good idea for all of us to look after each other. It never hurts to take someone to their door or pay for a cab ride home. And I don't think anybody should let people (male or female) wander home late at night drunk. Get them into a taxi. Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted June 13, 2011 Share Posted June 13, 2011 I just saw a news brief about sex attacks blasting through the roof in NYC. Not sure if this is happening everywhere else, but definitely here in the Big Apple. The news stated 3 incidents just hours apart and a total of 10 incidents over the last week in the city alone. This is a little scary for you women out there as the weather is only gonna heat up and an increase of more people out. I brought this subject to my uncle's attention and he says that a lot of men are pissed at women right now and then he went back to the basketball Playoff game. Any thoughts? Not knowing anything about your uncle, I can't guess what the mentality behind that response was, but I find it an unfortunate response in that it seems to "normalise" sex attacks. Places them in a category of behaviour along with Internet ranting/male bonding through bitching about women sessions. To relegate the issue of sex attacks on women to that range of behaviour that stems from "men v women" strikes me as aiming to a) Promote fear and paranoia about men in women b) Depict men as dangerous and untrustworthy women-haters Lots of times I have walked home by myself at times when it wasn't all that safe, because I couldn't get a taxi. A couple of times in my life, I've been harassed during that walk home...but generally it's struck me that men have gone out of their way to avoid doing anything that might freak me out. Even, in some cases, when they've been pretty rough looking characters. Maybe it's the area I live in, but I firmly believe the majority of men are fundamentally decent people who want their fellow citizens to feel safe. I can't speak to what's going on in NYC, other than to say that if there's been a spate of attacks on women there lately I feel for women who are based there and urge them to take extra care. If your uncle sees these attacks as a normal consequence of normal men feeling pissed off with women, then I would really encourage you to challenge him for that kind of thinking....because it's a pretty disturbed way of looking at things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shaun-Dro Posted June 13, 2011 Author Share Posted June 13, 2011 Not knowing anything about your uncle, I can't guess what the mentality behind that response was, but I find it an unfortunate response in that it seems to "normalise" sex attacks. Places them in a category of behaviour along with Internet ranting/male bonding through bitching about women sessions. To relegate the issue of sex attacks on women to that range of behaviour that stems from "men v women" strikes me as aiming to a) Promote fear and paranoia about men in women b) Depict men as dangerous and untrustworthy women-haters Lots of times I have walked home by myself at times when it wasn't all that safe, because I couldn't get a taxi. A couple of times in my life, I've been harassed during that walk home...but generally it's struck me that men have gone out of their way to avoid doing anything that might freak me out. Even, in some cases, when they've been pretty rough looking characters. Maybe it's the area I live in, but I firmly believe the majority of men are fundamentally decent people who want their fellow citizens to feel safe. I can't speak to what's going on in NYC, other than to say that if there's been a spate of attacks on women there lately I feel for women who are based there and urge them to take extra care. If your uncle sees these attacks as a normal consequence of normal men feeling pissed off with women, then I would really encourage you to challenge him for that kind of thinking....because it's a pretty disturbed way of looking at things. I agree with you. I tried to call him late last night and talk about this issue and he sighed. He then said that he doesn't have time for silly women problems and switched the subject to the Dallas/Miami basketball series. About my uncle: he is the black sheep of the family. He's against everyone's opinion of things and stands alone on every single thing. I don't know why he's this way. I'm gonna make a separate thread about him. Maybe I'll get some better insight? I'm very concerned about him. Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 I agree with you. I tried to call him late last night and talk about this issue and he sighed. He then said that he doesn't have time for silly women problems and switched the subject to the Dallas/Miami basketball series. About my uncle: he is the black sheep of the family. He's against everyone's opinion of things and stands alone on every single thing. I don't know why he's this way. I'm gonna make a separate thread about him. Maybe I'll get some better insight? I'm very concerned about him. Did he get burned in a relationship at some point? What you're describing sounds like he just wants to shut all that's feminine out of his life. Also the issue of sex attacks generally is, as you said earlier in the thread, a difficult one for a lot of people to discuss. I think a lot of men out there feel "well, wait a moment...it's certainly not just women who are at risk when they go out in the street" which is, of course, correct. Men are at higher risk of being on the receiving end of a non-sexual assault. From what you describe, I get a picture of him just wanting to avoid talking about anything complex or unpleasant, but it seems you have a hunch about him that is making you feel uneasy. How would you describe him in health terms? Does he take care of himself? Link to post Share on other sites
ProjekctionMan Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 I'm confused. Why are sex attacks on the rise, and what happened to create this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shaun-Dro Posted June 14, 2011 Author Share Posted June 14, 2011 Did he get burned in a relationship at some point? What you're describing sounds like he just wants to shut all that's feminine out of his life. Also the issue of sex attacks generally is, as you said earlier in the thread, a difficult one for a lot of people to discuss. I think a lot of men out there feel "well, wait a moment...it's certainly not just women who are at risk when they go out in the street" which is, of course, correct. Men are at higher risk of being on the receiving end of a non-sexual assault. From what you describe, I get a picture of him just wanting to avoid talking about anything complex or unpleasant, but it seems you have a hunch about him that is making you feel uneasy. How would you describe him in health terms? Does he take care of himself? He rides a mountain bike every other day for the past 15 years. He looks pretty fit except for a big gut. He's in his late 40s, though, so that's sort of expected. The only thing I know about his relationship status was it ended sometime in the 1990s and he's been single ever since. I think he had a brief affair with an "old" woman. I have no idea why he was with an old woman almost old enough to be his mother when he was about 40 then but whatever. When I asked him about her, he lashed out and said she was just an old hag with psycho issues. Yea, now she's a old hag, huh? Anyway, he told me to never enter a relationship with a woman because she's just gonna be evil, cheat, lie, and only be sweet when she get's her way. I asked him about this and if it's ever happened to him, and he said it hasn't but that he knows it will happen to me? Sometimes I wonder if my uncle might've contributed to my earlier jadedness about women? I snapped out of it, thank god. About the sex attacks on the rise thing, it was just on the news last night that another predator is on the loose up in the Bronx, assaulting 2 women earlier in the day. And the cops are still trying to get 3 other guys on the loose, who attacked women just last week. This is really scary. And whenever I see that cute Target girl I wanna make her mine so I can protect her from this stuff ever reaching her. Link to post Share on other sites
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