LonelyGuy18 Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 I have taken a break with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years, and we promised each other that we wouldn't see anybody else or have sex with anybody else. Well so far I've stuck to my end, but as I'm beginning to find out, she has slept with 2 guys in 1 month already. We've only been on break for maybe 2 months, and it really hurts me that shes doing this to me and I want to just forget about her but she just won't get out of my head. I hear from people that she stilll has feelings for me, but from what she's doing I kind of doubt what I hear. And I still love her very much, and all I ask is that she just treats me with the same kind of respect that I have given her. ~Matt~ Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Sometimes 'promises' made during agreeing to take a break in the relationship mean little more than one person trying to keep from hurting the other person's feelings. Usually, people don't even suggest 'taking a break' unless they want to date other people. What would be the point? The words and promises can even be the result of trying to find a nice way to break up with someone permanently. Each situation is different though. If you feel she definitely left the relationship with a 'break' in mind instead of an entire 'break up'...I think you should talk to her and find out if she still has intentions of coming back to you. If she does, then you can bring up the situation of her seeing other guys. I wouldn't accuse her of sleeping around though unless you know for sure. It may just be idle gossip. Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 It would be helpful if you could provide more info. What ages are you both? WHOSE idea was it to "take a break"? WHY did you or she or both decide to take a break? What was going on in the relationship that made someone decide that taking a break would be a good idea? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyGuy18 Posted April 17, 2004 Author Share Posted April 17, 2004 I asked her about her and the other guys and she said she did. But when I asked her why she did it she said she was stupid. She wanted to take this break because we rushed into it to soon. She also says that we need to be friends for a while then get back together maybe by the end of summer of beginning of next year? Link to post Share on other sites
pav186 Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 unfortunately theres not much you can do in this situation but let her go and do her thing. Even if you got her to get back together with you she will probably just end up resenting the fact shes not out doing her own thing. It sounds like she "needs her space" now. Good luck with everything though. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Dude, how are you hanging onto hope? You want to get back with this girl after what she's doing? I mean, yeah, you aren't together, but this girl is totally riding all over your heart. Screw that. Get on with your life. Don't be that sad little puppy waiting for it's owner to come back home. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 she is justing playing with you. She wants you to stay single while she can go have her fun, just ignore her. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Originally posted by LonelyGuy18 I asked her about her and the other guys and she said she did. But when I asked her why she did it she said she was stupid. She wanted to take this break because we rushed into it to soon. She also says that we need to be friends for a while then get back together maybe by the end of summer of beginning of next year? AARRGG! Well, she already BROKE the agreement by dating and sleeping elsewhere. You can sit around like a doormat waiting on her to possibly come back if she doesn't find a better replacement OR you could call her and tell her bluntly you have too much pride in yourself to sit around 'waiting' for anyone regardless of how much you love them. Tell her to call you when she is done 'playing around' but not to expect you to still be available. Then go out there and find you someone who really loves and respects you. Pride and jealousy can get all confused into what you are feeling as 'love'. If you back off of the whole thing a little and really look at it....you'll see how your feelings are just being played with. People who make you look and act foolish....don't love you. They love themselves. There is no other way to look at it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyGuy18 Posted April 18, 2004 Author Share Posted April 18, 2004 Originally posted by befuddled11 It would be helpful if you could provide more info. What ages are you both? WHOSE idea was it to "take a break"? WHY did you or she or both decide to take a break? What was going on in the relationship that made someone decide that taking a break would be a good idea? I am 16 and she is 14. I decided to take the break because we both had a lot going on in our lives and we were going to wait like 3 weeks for it to clear up and it did. But she wanted to wait longer. So I agreed thinking it would be best for her, but a week later I find out she sleep with some guy. But I've found someone that seems to be really caring and very clingy. So I hope this one works out, but I know now not to let my guard down just yet so... Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 She's 14 and she's banging a bunch of dudes? Duuuuuude. Jesus. Youth today. Link to post Share on other sites
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