Author one goal Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 I didn't get a chance to talk to her after class today. Just when we were in our groups. I kinda froze up after class and forgot to say bye to her. Since I don't get a chance to talk to her much, would it be ok to text her sometimes about non class stuff? What should I tell her when texting? Should I be honest about my feelings and tell her I want to get to know her more? Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Text her or call her and invite her somewhere low key, like out for coffee. You can tell her you'd like to get to know her better. If she agrees, go, have a good time, respect her boundaries and just take it one moment at a time. If she declines, or never answers you, FORGET COMPLETELY ABOUT HER and just move on to the next girl you take an interest in. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 I didn't get a chance to talk to her after class today. Just when we were in our groups. I kinda froze up after class and forgot to say bye to her. It's ok. Just try and fake confidence. My favorite thing to do with new girls is to ask them how their weekend went. Everybody likes to talk about themselves. Use active listening to find what she did, how she liked it, who she went with etc. I can find out if a girl is single or not, and when/why she broke up with her boyfriend just by starting off from what she did on the weekend. Having a basic conversation like that builds comfort. If you feel that you had a good conversation when class is getting out, walk over to her and say, "Hey, (her name) are you hungry? Lets go get some lunch." It's best to build some rapport first before you ask somebody out. Post an update once you've actually talked to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 Text her or call her and invite her somewhere low key, like out for coffee. You can tell her you'd like to get to know her better. If she agrees, go, have a good time, respect her boundaries and just take it one moment at a time. If she declines, or never answers you, FORGET COMPLETELY ABOUT HER and just move on to the next girl you take an interest in. Thats just about exactly what I did with that teacher you might recall. Telling her I want to get to know her better, and you saw how that turned out. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Thats just about exactly what I did with that teacher you might recall. Telling her I want to get to know her better, and you saw how that turned out. Holy crap..Apples and oranges!! That was your TEACHER, and she was older. Out of your league because of the student/teacher line that should not be crossed. Just chill out and talk to this new girl and don't come right out and TELL her you want to get to know her better.. You just let it happen naturally...... If you push it, she will run the other way. Drop little hints but be mysterious too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 Holy crap..Apples and oranges!! That was your TEACHER, and she was older. Out of your league because of the student/teacher line that should not be crossed. Just chill out and talk to this new girl and don't come right out and TELL her you want to get to know her better.. You just let it happen naturally...... If you push it, she will run the other way. Drop little hints but be mysterious too. Like drop what kind of hints? Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 (edited) Thats just about exactly what I did with that teacher you might recall. Telling her I want to get to know her better, and you saw how that turned out. What the other poster just advised is not at allll what you did with your teacher. You asked her out the first time then after she said no, you continued to harrass the poor woman with your 20 "class related" emails, invites to hockey games and dedicating class assignments to her or whatever other nonsense you did, for the rest of the semester. This time around and in the future, no means no! Edited June 20, 2011 by LexiB Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 I'm shy around her, and in general. Would it be ok to tell her that I'm shy in class, so I'd like to meet her outside of class sometime to get to know her better? Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Here, I will repost for you: Text her or call her and invite her somewhere low key, like out for coffee. You can tell her you'd like to get to know her better. If she agrees, go, have a good time, respect her boundaries and just take it one moment at a time. If she declines, or never answers you, FORGET COMPLETELY ABOUT HER and just move on to the next girl you take an interest in. DO THIS. You might get somewhere with her. You might not. That's what we do. Stop asking the same question over and over, too. It's another manifestation of your ... problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 That sounds kind of cute. I think a girl would find that cute, and go for that. I work weekends, and she likely does too as she works at a movie theater. So maybe like over the weekend I'll text her and see if she wants to do something during the week. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Why wait until the weekend? You're just delaying for no reason. Ask her out already. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 Why wait until the weekend? You're just delaying for no reason. Ask her out already. Then when she says no, it will be awkward in class for the next month. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 At least we agree that you're stalling. Why does class need to be awkward? Women say 'no' to men all the time... it doesn't have to make things awkward unless you're about 17. Wait, how old are you? Just ask her. What's the worst that could happen? (Probably her saying yes... you'll run a mile.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 She sent me a text tonight asking me a question about class. Link to post Share on other sites
welikeincrowds Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 She sent me a text tonight asking me a question about class. Text her back with a link to this thread Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 At least we agree that you're stalling. Why does class need to be awkward? Women say 'no' to men all the time... it doesn't have to make things awkward unless you're about 17. Wait, how old are you? Just ask her. What's the worst that could happen? (Probably her saying yes... you'll run a mile.) Nah, he'll run a mile if she says no. If she says yes, he'll probably come on here asking what type of engagement ring to pick out. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetheartt Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 The OP sounds like a certified psycho. Guys like that scare me! Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 Is that a good sign she always text me when she wants to ask something about class? I mean she's comfortable asking me instead of others. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Is that a good sign she always text me when she wants to ask something about class? I mean she's comfortable asking me instead of others. What is your own interpretation of that behavior? Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 What is your own interpretation of that behavior? I mean I guess its good that she asks me stuff. Is it okay to start talking to her more now? Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 I didn't get a chance to really talk to her today except say "hi" when she walked back into class after break. So I decided to go ahead and text her now. So how should I word my text and ask her out? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I didn't get a chance to really talk to her today except say "hi" when she walked back into class after break. So I decided to go ahead and text her now. So how should I word my text and ask her out? Dude have you actually said two words to her in person yet? Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetheartt Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I didn't get a chance to really talk to her today except say "hi" when she walked back into class after break. So I decided to go ahead and text her now. So how should I word my text and ask her out? Leave her alone! Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 So I decided to go ahead and text her now. So how should I word my text and ask her out? Surely you've already given that some thought over the last week of failing to ask her out? Ok, here's an idea: Call her. Tell her you'd like to go over the class assignment with her over a coffee and a slice of cake, you're buying. Pick a specific day/time/location and suggest it. If she's interested she'll either say yes or she'll suggest another time when she's free. If she gives any other response then she's not interested, which means that you should move on. Texting her to ask her out is lame, and you'll be having a nervous fit for hours or days wondering if she'll reply and then you'll come back here and ask us what it means when she hasn't replied. Talking to her will get you a pretty instant answer about whether she's interested. Then you can come back here and give us an update! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 Dude have you actually said two words to her in person yet? Yea, I've talk to her in person lol. How u think I got her number. Not a lot but we've talked in person. Link to post Share on other sites
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