ex gf calling

[mike-h]

Hi guys, here is a little background of my situation.

 

It has been a month I have been doing NC after I broke up with my ex girlfriend of almost two years who I lived with and the reason was she slept with another guy duing our relationship break a month ago. After the break up I was being needy and asked her to get back together which she said no and I accepted that this was over. I tried to move on by moving out of the flat but later she kept calling me and I may have answered her a few times but kept the conversations short. I loved her so much but right now I don't wanna get back with her or anything and I just want to move on with my life. I bumped into her two times after the break but kept my cool and just said hi and walked away. We still have to sort out our house tendency as the rent has been paid for about next two months. We also got burgled while we were together and these days she has been calling me to sort out the situation (i.e. to pay back for her stolen laptop before the insurance claim). She started talking about money since I started to ignore her calls and texts.

 

I am in another town for two weeks now to get myself back on the track and have not talked to her since. I am feeling much better now and starting to see some other girls. I have also deleted her number from my mobile (worth mentioning that I did delete her facebook and email since the break up which she was not very happy about). She called me last Friday which I didn't answer but after the call all the pain rushed into my veins and I started to overanalyze what happened again. Yesterday she called me again while I was asleep and I answered after three missed calls as I didn't recongnize the number. I was still sleep and asked who it was and she replied with a suprise sound that she couldn't believe I deleted her number. Only at that time I realised it was her and asked her if there was anything I can do. She told me that she was moving out of the house in two weeks and I said that it was cool and I would talk to her on the date to get the house keys. And then she said if I wanted to talk to her for a while. I replied that there was nothing to talk about and she insisted on having a chat and started asking me how I was and what I have been up to these days. I answered those questions politely and mentioned that I was going back to sleep. Then she asked me to talk to her for awhile as friends. My heart was pounding at that time because this used to be the person I treasured most in my life only a month ago. But I said to her that we could not be friends and we could not keep the consistent contact. Subsequently I told her that if there was anything important she can call me but if there wasn't she should stop calling me. And I cut the call.

 

It has been some hours now and I start to think that I may have overreacted as soon as I heard the word "friends". The wounds are undoubtedly still fresh and I know that I would never go back with her to suffer more. I suspect that she is just trying to play games with me and therefore I do not want her to think that I am not over her and be satisfied with herself.

 

Do you guys think that ,by reacting like that, if I boosted her ego? Or was I just too rude when a person just wanted to talk to me? or did she have any other ideas because I found out that yesterday was exactly a month since we broke up? And what should I do if she contacts again?

 

This is absolutely new to me and I appreciate it if you guys can shed some lights into my situation. Thanks.

[wilsonx]

One of my female friends that I met after my ex broke up with me told me that women want what they cant have. As long as you make yourself unavailable to them, they will want you. The second you give in, they dont want you anymore. Its going to be like that forever, dont chase, stop talking to her, find someone better. I did the same thing with my ex when she cheated on me and I took her back... Biggest ****ing mistake of my life