calndn Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 had that feeling that im having right now. It is so odd. Im 7/8 months into my breakup and if you read my previous threads ive been having a really ahrd time still. However I am so so so much better than I was 3 months ago I was at my worst, he came back into my life and I let him only for him to leave my life again (we never went out again just met up etc) I wish I never allowed him back in but whats done is done etc. So...anyway ive slowly being getting better with the help of a counsellor...(I tried topping myself 3 months ago) ive really come far. Anyway on Monday for the first time ever I had the strangest feeling. It was as if I felt like I was never with my ex, like we never went out, like I cant see myself ever being with him before almost like it never even happened. I wanted to marry this guy...and now im feeling like I could almost laugh at that...because I cannot imagine doing that now. (Yes I have moments still where I go back and miss him but I think it might be missing that somone not just him) and yes there are moments where I revert back to thinking maybe maybe we were meant to be and yes I still get sad but on Monday that feeling was with me all day like I couldnt shake it off...and certainly didnt want to! Anyone else ever felt like this? xx Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 Breaking up is odd. One day you can't imagine life without them and think you'll never be over them. Then eventually you're over them and suddenly can't imagine even feeling that way for them. I know from past relationships that I felt so strongly for them and couldn't even consider life moving on, yet with time and no contact, it did. I look back at these ex's and can't even believe I felt that strongly for them. I remember being with them, but not feeling that way for them. My current situation will eventually be there too and in a way, that's scary. Knowing that she'll mean nothing to me soon, but it will happen, and I'm sure it will be for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Author calndn Posted June 14, 2011 Author Share Posted June 14, 2011 Exactly, I do change day to day but its the first time I felt that strongly in that way. V odd. But it works both ways I suppose, I mean nothing to him anymore which upsets me but I shouldnt care about what he thinks I know that but its still hard. Im hoping Ill continue to move on even more and eventually not care at all. But I still think ive got more time to go. I will see something or hear something about him and probably go back a few stepps xx Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 I've come across this kind of feelings as well, i guess human feelings are truly complex and complicated. However, positive note to say, you are always doing better when you start to help yourself to move on and away from the pain Link to post Share on other sites
Rory12345 Posted June 14, 2011 Share Posted June 14, 2011 These feelings are the same as the ones I have been experincing for the past few days now. Great news by the way. It sounds like you are making great progress. Keep it up! Regards, Rory Link to post Share on other sites
Author calndn Posted June 14, 2011 Author Share Posted June 14, 2011 Thanks Rory, I do hope I keep it up I dont want to go back to sadness again definitely not! Link to post Share on other sites
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