phoenix1 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 I have been dating this great guy for several months and we hang out with a big social circle of mutual acquaintances that are all pretty friendly with each other. I really trust this guy, more so than many, but here's my problem. He's super nice, and pretty easy on the eyes too, and he is friendly. He is often friendly and talks to other woman, but not even in a flirty way. We are not all PDA, and pretty casual with each other, and I am sure some have not even figured out we are together. So what happens is because he is so sweet, women he talks to usually like him. Understandable, but like what happened last night was I was with a large group of people (he wasn't there) and I overhear one women telling this guy about him and how sweet he is, etc. Um, hello? He's pretty much taken. This has happened several times, and I don't think I have anything to worry about, but it bugs me. And the thing is, he truly does not have any ill intentions, or even realize that he is attracting these women by just being nice. What do I do? Seems ridiculous to tell him, "stop being nice". Just get over it? Hang all over him? Help me, am I just being neurotic? Link to post Share on other sites
1yearmarriage Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Unless you two are formally 'a couple', don't touch the subject. He may be turn off by it. I say, stand it, until the relationship gets more serious. Usually, the serious the relationship gets, these things diminish. If it bothers you very much now, go ahead and tell him in a gentle way. You may risk the relationship though. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 I am sure some have not even figured out we are together. ... Um, hello? He's pretty much taken. How are they meant to know he's taken if they don't know you're a couple? Either tell them he's taken, or keep it a secret and accept their droolings. Link to post Share on other sites
Jetsker Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 You don't have to be all over him to show that you two are together. Respond to those comments about your boyfriend with things like "I know, how did I get so lucky". You aren't huge into PDA which is fine but a peck on the cheek at some point throughout the night would be fine with me (although I'm okay with some PDA). If it's really bothering you just tell straight (no hinting) that it's hard to see other girls drooling over him. If he tells you that's your problem, then that may be a red flag for later on in the relationship. If he tries to make an effort to not be so overly nice then you probably have a keeper. Most people are not so naive to not have clue when someone is drooling all over them. But who knows, maybe he is. Ha ha. (not a bad thing) Link to post Share on other sites
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