Next steps?

[Tech_E]

I rest my case .

[Mz. Pixie]

Scrutiny? The last time I checked you weren't actually a moderator here. They have the only scrutiny that matters. Since the board was set up with the PM feature obviously they have no issue with that or it wouldn't have been designed that way.

 

I think you don't like the fact that since he won't be reading your opinions your venom won't be influencing him.

[reboot]

I think you don't like the fact that since he won't be reading your opinions your venom won't be influencing him.

 

Hammer squarely meets nail.

[Tech_E]

You want to PM kidd privately so your own opinions as expressed to him aren't made available to anyone else.

 

You don't seem to get it, we want to talk to kidd via PM because of YOU (yes YOU and ONLY YOU). Period. Apart from YOU this thread has helped Kidd and had allowed him to talk about this experience and learn how to deal with it. I am not saying this, HE IS! He did! He has asked you many many many times on this very thread to not participate, to not tear down his posts sentence by sentence by sentence. You will not show him the decency to exit the conversation so he is left with no other choice but to discuss this matter in a way whereby you cannot interupt.

 

I do not see what is difficult to understand about this situation. YOU, have been asked to exit the conversation, you will not. None of us are moderators, so we are left with no choice but to offer to Kidd to continue the conversation without your involvement, which is precisely what we will do.

 

I've said all I will say on this matter. It is frustrating to say the least, and I am not even the OP. Kidd; it is unfortunate that it has come to this.

[reboot]

I started reading and posting here when my wife and I were attempting reconciliation. I received much helpful advice and ideas from many thoughtful and intelligent posters. Unfortunately, they were the minority. A large portion of the posters here were then, and now, rude, belligerent people with no other agenda than to shove their opinions down the throats of anyone who will listen.

 

I posted on here for about a year. That was about all I could take. After that I went the next two years without reading or posting here at all while we continued to work on the marriage. I only came back when it didn't matter anymore. This place and many of the posters here can be absolute poison for a vulnerable person.

 

Kidd is probably much better off seeking other counsel.

[reboot]

If I gave two *****s about your opinion, maybe it would be.

[Tech_E]

Maybe it's time you took another two-year break.

 

What a spiteful and nasty comment. Unbelievable.

 

Reboot, I for one value your opinions and certainly hope you do not take another 2 year break, unlike some others.

[Equinox]

If I gave two *****s about your opinion, maybe it would be.

 

Relax reboot.

 

You just have to become apathetic to these types. If they offer nothing constructive, why bother with them?

[reboot]

Relax? If I was any more relaxed I wouldn't be breathing. I've been on the internet pretty much since there's been an internet. Sanctimonious internet bullies don't bother me at all. I've dealt with them over and over for more years than I care to think about. It's just a little tit for tat and they can't stand that. How dare anyone not realize what god-like creatures they are? In a battle of wits, most of them are completely unarmed anyway.

[Equinox]

Relax? If I was any more relaxed I wouldn't be breathing. I've been on the internet pretty much since there's been an internet. Sanctimonious internet bullies don't bother me at all. I've dealt with them over and over for more years than I care to think about. It's just a little tit for tat and they can't stand that. How dare anyone not realize what god-like creatures they are? In a battle of wits, most of them are completely unarmed anyway.

 

Ah reboot.

 

You're just giving him more attention. My advice would be to leave him alone and let him slumber back in his nest.

[Tech_E]

Relax? If I was any more relaxed I wouldn't be breathing. I've been on the internet pretty much since there's been an internet. Sanctimonious internet bullies don't bother me at all. I've dealt with them over and over for more years than I care to think about. It's just a little tit for tat and they can't stand that. How dare anyone not realize what god-like creatures they are? In a battle of wits, most of them are completely unarmed anyway.

 

Awesome post reboot... Love it.

 

Like I said, at least he is good for comic relief

[heartinlove]

Repairminded.

 

You have no capacity to truly hear or understand anything directed to you.

 

You really did ruin this thread that could have been so helpful to others reconciling to see kidd's progress. I for one would have liked to see how this turns out for him.

 

Why do you insist on posting where you are not welcome.

[fltc]

Repairminded.Why do you insist on posting where you are not welcome.

 

RepairMinded IS welcome or at least allowed to post, LS is an open forum. LS has also provided us with an "Ignore List" that works well and it shouldn't be that difficult to skip posts from people you don't care to hear from.

[Tech_E]

Also there are a number of people in kidd's same situation such as reboot, tech e (himself a cheater by the way) and a couple of others who are either outright cuckolds or at least want to sweep their spouse's cheating and lack of complete remorse for it, under the rug. They've spent inordinate time attacking me simply for conveying simple common sense which is backed up by reams of actual affair-recovery literature.

 

Before you run off at the mouth about me in your post you might want to get your facts straight about what occured. I have nothing to hide about my story at all. I would be happy to discuss my situation in another thread, as I would like to respect Kidd's situation and not muddy the waters anymore than they already have been. I came to LS to get help and try to recover our marriage and I am thankful I found this place.

 

As for 'attacking' you, well it's a simple fact that Kidd himself asked you politely on a NUMBER of occasions to not participate in his thread, but you could not understand this concept, as your ego won't allow you to get the fact that your sentence by sentence nonsense was not welcomed by the OP. Period, nothing more.

 

As for your contention that Kidd is participating in this thread under another username, well that shows just how deluded you are. Kidd has been forced to take his search for help with his situation to another forum largely because of you.

 

I'll admit that I have a personal dislike for you, largely because of your posting style, but I am here to try and help others as I have received that in spades, I am NOT here to service my own agenda. I am not sure what your goal is. Now I will go back to using my ignore list.

[Mz. Pixie]

You're free to do that of course but it means you don't believe whatever you're telling him is credible enough to withstand public scrutiny and criticism.

 

I'm not doing that for my benefit darling-it's for his benefit-because he asked me to. I couldn't care less about public scrutiny of my posts or criticism. If I care about that I certainly wouldn't still be posting here after all these years.

[Tech_E]

Typical sentence by setence nonsense from you.

[Tech_E]

You put me on "ignore," remember? LOL.

 

You're just a liar, that's all, a compulsive liar.

 

Even when you make a statement in the public forum that you can't retract about putting me on "ignore," you can't stick with it for ten minutes.

 

That's compulsion, dude.

 

Ahh yer so cute

 

Really fun for comic relief though. It's fun watching you make a fool out of yourself with your sentence by sentence posting style. You must be a consultant and get paid by the word right?

[reboot]

I'll bet your wife really enjoyed cheating on you.

 

And I bet yours never even felt bad about it.

[Mz. Pixie]

I am not posting here for your benefit which is why I'm still here.

 

As far as my credibility? It speaks for itself. Having been the cheater I happen to have some insight into the mind of one and I have the guts to come here and say what one might be thinking. Many of the others have been run off by the likes of you. What is funny to me is there are other people on this board that you probably even like that you have no idea have the history of being a cheater as well.

 

You just can't stand it that you can't beat Kidd over the head through PM which is hilarious.

[Mz. Pixie]

LOL when did I ever say my wife cheated on me?

 

Nice try loser.

 

When did you not say it? Every single post you write screams how vile you think it is so you have to have been a victim of it in some way. Either a spouse, parent, or close friend.

[Mz. Pixie]

Obviously you do or you wouldn't continue to come to his thread when he asked you not to and ask people to present evidence of their private discussions with him.

 

How am I dangerous if this is an internet forum? You talk out of both sides of your mouth. You can't have it both ways-it's either harmless or it's not.

[Mz. Pixie]

LOL typical cheater. You just completely fabricate anything you want.

 

Uh huh.

[Tech_E]

I'll bet your wife really enjoyed cheating on you.

 

The purpose of this post is what exactly? How did you come up with this theory? Come on make another sentence by sentence by sentence post? It makes you look so smart. Insulting, and insensitive, very typical for you. Also violating TOS.

[Mz. Pixie]

You're always spouting off about how this is an internet forum and you can do whatever you want to on it or say whatever you want. I have that same option. You have stated before that Kidd can block you or not read your advice if he doesn't want to. Same thing goes for me.

 

I'm a liar? Ohhhhhhh, stick and stones. Sticks and stones.

[Mz. Pixie]

You don't seem to understand that it's not up to kidd to decide who can and can't post in a public discussion.

 

And you don't seem to understand that it's not up for you to decide who someone can give advice to in PM. That it's not up for you to demand proof of that communication and that it doesn't have to be provided to you. Again, we have PM's here for a reason. He obviously felt more comfortable communicating that way which is his choice. If PM's are a problem the board would turn them off. Marriage builders doesn't have them. Perhaps you would like to go there?

 

You can call me a liar all you want- I am honest about why I am here- my story is here-and I have grown and learned and studied to become a better person. I guess you are so perfect you have never made a mistake-for which I applaud you but us mere humans here may need a little bit of different support. You have not been honest about what your story is or why you are here-and if I were people here reading your posts-or at least the ones who don't think you are a complete joke- that would concern me a great deal.