sinkerswim Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 I dont know...it doesnt seem right, since he never officially told me it was over. Its like I am in limbo. He was with me for 8 years...I CANNOT call MY FIANCE my ex. I just cant. Am I being a fool? Im in denial possibly. Its been 2 1/2 months since we saw each other. He wanted space...so I am giving it to him. If the circumtances were different and he actually sat down with me to discuss this, maybe I would be handling this a little bit differently. But I cant. I still wear my ring...I WANT HIM to tell me. This is all too devastating. I wont give up without a fight. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 I feel your pain. I didn't know you still had the ring. I would think after this length of time, that he would know what it is he wants. This is a great deal of time, and I strongly suggest you try your best to move on. He asked for his space, and you have given it to him. Link to post Share on other sites
sportsloving Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 I know your situation is very difficult, but you are stilling hold on to the past and need to start working on Your future (without him). He didn't give you closure, and that is the biggest hang up for you... you are still holding out the hope that since he didn't end things, they aren't really over. But as you said, it has been over two months now. It is time for you to give yourself the closure you so desperately seek. Take the ring off, put it somewhere special, and try to live your life. He will come back if and when he wants, but you can't sit in limbo forever waiting for that to happen. It may never occur.And if it does, it may be that you have moved on and no longer want him in your life. Please take care of yourself and start living again. I wish you the best, always Link to post Share on other sites
Author sinkerswim Posted April 19, 2004 Author Share Posted April 19, 2004 Thanks guys.. Yeah..this is the worst. I miss him so much, I cannot imagine this coming summer without him. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 There is an LS member whose auto-signature used to say, 'sometimes, we have to make our own smiles' - meaning that if we don't get the closure we desire, we have to make our own closures. This is something that you may have to do. Best of luck to you! Regards, ~Vivid Link to post Share on other sites
Author sinkerswim Posted April 19, 2004 Author Share Posted April 19, 2004 Thanks Vivid... By the way...is that you in that pic? Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 Originally posted by sinkerswim Thanks Vivid... By the way...is that you in that pic? Yes, that's me. ~V Link to post Share on other sites
Author sinkerswim Posted April 19, 2004 Author Share Posted April 19, 2004 Well, I think youre pretty cute! Just a compliment... Anyway...Im just trying to get through this day by day. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 Originally posted by sinkerswim Well, I think youre pretty cute! Just a compliment... Thanks!!! ***huge smile*** I hope everything works out for you! Take it one day at a time! ~V Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted April 20, 2004 Share Posted April 20, 2004 Hang in there sinkerswim! Sending you the best P.S. Viv- I can't really see you in the pic..it's too dark! Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted April 20, 2004 Share Posted April 20, 2004 if we don't get the closure we desire, we have to make our own closures. That's the best advice anyone can give. He's right and he knows his s***! Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted April 20, 2004 Share Posted April 20, 2004 Sink, I didn't refer to my 'ex' as my 'ex' until MONTHS later when I first started posting on LS. It's hard to consider someone an ex when they still have a large portion of your heart. Don't use the term until you are ready to use it and accept it as being true. Viv, Thanks for remembering that quote. A friend told me that and it stayed with me for a very long time. I think once I realized I was responsible for my own happiness, rather than waiting on someone else to come fix it, I crawled out of the 'Hell of the Anguished'. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted April 20, 2004 Share Posted April 20, 2004 Originally posted by Thinkalot P.S. Viv- I can't really see you in the pic..it's too dark! Just the way I like it! ~V Link to post Share on other sites
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