ludachris Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 my ex and I broke up about three months ago. Throughout our whole relationship she hurt me so much because she would constantly talk to one of her exes, constantly talk to other guys and hang out with them, and at one point during our relationship we went on a little break but were talking everyday and i find out she goes over to my friends party and talks **** about me the whole night and kisses one of my best friends and gives another one of my best friends oral.....so i dont even talk to one of my best friends anymore because of her. I eventually take her back like an idiot and we are doing fine for a couple of months but then she starts talking to her ex a lot again so i end our relationship completely because i cant take it anymore. Two months into our breakup i find out that she is dating another guy which pisses me off because we had decided to be friends with very little contact, but friends none the less, and i had to find out from someone else that she got a new bf. So i pretty much tell her off and say "have fun ****ing up your next relationship." i know that was very immature of me but i was drunk when i found all this out and i was very pissed. I had not talked to her since until three days ago Since our break up i have changed a lot and the first 2 months i felt miserable but now im starting to feel a lot better about myself and the changes I have made. I felt good, not great because i still think about her almost everyday, but i felt good. Well three days ago she texts me saying she was sorry for everything and that she ****ed up and she was an idiot and that i actually cared about her, which is true i cared about her so much. She said that her new bf had just broken up with her and i would respond to her and tell her that i was sorry to hear that, but i gave her short responses because i really dont want to talk to her anymore, atleast for a long while until i am completely over her. Then i will try to be her friend. Since i gave her short responses she ended it by saying "i just wanted you to know you were right and i ****ed up and you actually cared about me and im sorry" then she said good night. Since then I havent talked to her, but im just really confused. Why did she do that? was she just upset about the break up and hoping that i would try to talk to her and take her back so she could use me again? or was she actually just wanting me to know that she was actually sorry? im confused and it kinda set me back a little bit because now im thinking about it a lot....can someone give me a little insight? Link to post Share on other sites
Reoreyh Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Hate to sound so cynical, but it seems to me she's just trying to use you for comfort. Link to post Share on other sites
vsmini Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 You're her fallback boy and nothing more. It has nothing to do with who you are....but how she views you. Oh - so she's sorry now? now that some loser dumped her? She couldn't be sorry before? No contact her ass. She sounds like a pig. Link to post Share on other sites
Kilty Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Think you got it in your last paragraph. Yep she is sorry and yeah she knows what she has given up AND she wants to get back with you. But thats her loss and the likelihood is if you got back with her things would just go down the same path as before. She is too untrustworthy. However if you want back with her this is your perfect opportunity. She has given you the power. It's up to you how you use it but you would be what is known as a "soft touch" if you took her back. Link to post Share on other sites
JR2315 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 Well you love her right and as you said you do care for her? To me it seems kind of prideful to just let her suffer through such emotional pain. Theres no question she messed up and that she shouldnt have left the person who truly did care for her but thats the past. Im not saying that you should get back together at this very second but i guess the best you can do is to just sympathize with the whole situation. Ye she is definitely talking to you because she knows you will comfort her. I say just explain to her that you feel sorry about whats happened but as of right now she needs to figure out what she really wants. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ludachris Posted June 15, 2011 Author Share Posted June 15, 2011 thanks for the replies guys. ya i do care for her alot and i definatly miss her. I agree that it could possibly be that she is just using me for me to comfort her, which is why im very cautious about this whole thing and im not texting her checking up on her. She has other people to care for her right now and i hear she is going over her ex bf's(the ex bf she started going out with me) house all the time so im guessing she is getting comfort from him, which makes me not wanna talk to her as much because whats the point of getting comfort from me if she is just gonna get it from her other ex as well. I do wanna check up on her, but im not going to. Im gonna wait a while...idk how long, but when i feel 100% sure i want to talk to her without any regret or thoughts of there going to be regrets i will. Link to post Share on other sites
chris1987 Posted June 15, 2011 Share Posted June 15, 2011 The same thing just happened to me she was trying to make her self feel better. Dont give her the satisfaction. I ask me ex why she texted me that night. She said it was because she was sorry not because she wanted me back. F@ck her! Link to post Share on other sites
Fedor Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 I stopped reading after the 1st paragraph. You are better off. Link to post Share on other sites
JasonRules Posted June 16, 2011 Share Posted June 16, 2011 @OP Your ex is a slut, plain and simple. I mean, which person's girlfriend goes to a party and makes out with one guy and then gives a blow job to your friend? I want to puke just thinking about it. If you want to be with this kind of person, go ahead, but I can tell you that you will get pounded big time. Sluts you don't treat like princesses. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ludachris Posted June 16, 2011 Author Share Posted June 16, 2011 She's may be a "slut" but either way she is human and she was a great person even though she made her mistakes. She had a very rough childhood and her life was very rough around the time she was in high school. So a lot of stuff plagues her thoughts. Thanks for all the replies guys I'm not going to talk to her. I do want to be friends with her eventually someday but im not gonna rush it. I really would have liked us to work out though.....im starting to get used to being single again though which is nice. Link to post Share on other sites
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