Who Should Pay...?

[aftershock]

Hey folks, I'm (almost) new here. I made a couple of posts a few months ago about a very confusing situation that I was, but I'm OK now I think. However I remembered what a great place this is, and have decided to hopefully become an active member.

 

A little about me: I'm from the UK, I'm male, nearly 19, and a general fun person! Hey it's difficult to flatter yourself in one sentence in an eloquent way!

 

So heres a topic that I think is interesting: on a date, who should pay?

 

Should it ALWAYS be the male?

 

Or split 50/50?

 

The older person in the relationship?

 

The richer person?

 

Anything else?

 

I personally wouldn't go out with anyone if they weren't willing to split 50/50 or thereabouts. I personally prefer to pay for one date then sort of take it in turns, so all is fair.

 

Opinions?

[shamen]

I thing that in the beginning, whoever asked the person out should be the "payer." After a while, splitting the cost is fine or take turns. It's not fair for one person to pay all the time as the relationship progresses.

[yes]

i think that on the first few dates, the guy should pay (assuming we met recently). i'd rather go to a cheaper place and have the guy pay than split it. once it's an established relationship, however, it's fair to take turns - unless one person is much worse off financially, and then the richer one can do more paying.

 

on the other hand, if it's an r/s that's growing out of a friendship, it's different. in that case, i'd expect to take turns ... although i'd still expect the guy to do more paying - just like i'd expect the doors to be opened, and to be picked up and dropped off...etc.

 

my 2c,

-yes

[Bill]

I always pay. Sometimes my girlfriend won't let me, and beats me to it.

 

I do suggest that if someone is rich, they should pay. Otherwise, you should at least offer to pay most of the time.

[Fedup&givingup]

All I have to say in regard to this whole subject matter, is the man should NOT come across as cheap in any way, shape, or form. The woman should NOT come across as a freeloader either.

[yes]

good way to put it, fedup! that's why it's ideal if the man is always ready to pay, and the woman "steals" the bill from him here & there.

 

-yes

[Fedup&givingup]

Thank you Yes, and yes I agree with what you are saying LOL

[Pyrannaste]

Originally posted by aftershock

 

So heres a topic that I think is interesting: on a date, who should pay?

 

I think that one of the signs of a good relationship is when partners don't keep count of who is paying and when. In my (very personal)idea of a perfect relationship people sometimes split and sometimes one of the partners picks up the bill. But not taking turns, it just happens. I think it's great when you don't even remember-or forget to think about- who paid on last date while you're picking up a bill.

 

Should it ALWAYS be the male?

 

Only if on *each* date the female spends *big* money on a new haircut/hair restyling, on a manicure, on a new dress, or on anything that will improve her looks.

If my boyfriend was expecting me go to the coiffeur before each date, I'd expect him to take me to a nice place and pick up the bill.

 

Or split 50/50?

 

I think that when partners earn the same money and split 50/50 it is basically fine, but the one who asks for the more expensive dishes at the restaurant should pick the bill up sometimes. Say, a few times a year.

 

The older person in the relationship?

 

If there is a big age difference, the older person might want to pay for both sometimes.

 

The richer person?

 

Only if he/she wishes to.

 

Anything else?

 

I'd be positively impressed with a man who pays on the first date. Not *offers to pay*, just picks up the bill and does not allow me to open my wallet

This, if he was the one asking out.

If I were the one asking out, I'd pick up the bill.

 

On the other hand, I don't like men who *always* insist on paying for dates. It would make me feel embarassed.