smsrunner1 Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 Hey everyone, I've told my story here in a couple threads. Quick update: Still no contact at all since wed. afternoon (1st time longer than 1 day). My ex has just signed online for the 1st time in at least a week. That's not normal for her. Either she was blocking me or she just hasn't been online. I wonder if it's a coincidence that it started when we broke up. I think not. Anyway, so she signed online and instantly put up an away message (less than 30 seconds). The away message is "hanging by a moment." It's a song by Lifehouse for those of u who might not have heard of it. Anyway, here are the lyrics: http://homepage.ntlworld.com/alan.stuart/music/uslyrics/hangingb.html Could this be a message to me? she obviously knows i'm online, unless she took me off her buddy list. And I'm assuming she knows that i'd look at her away message if i saw she was online. Any comments would be appreciated. ~Shaun Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 1. That cheesy song is copyrighted, you might want to take it down and link to it, or a moderator will do it for ya. 2. It means nothing. It's common practice among girls to use song lyrics they heard on top 40 stations as their away messages, or in MSN cases, they're screen names. Don't think so much Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker 1. That cheesy song is copyrighted, you might want to take it down and link to it, or a moderator will do it for ya. 2. It means nothing. It's common practice among girls to use song lyrics they heard on top 40 stations as their away messages, or in MSN cases, they're screen names. Don't think so much Ditto. Either way, try your best to get over her. Putting your time in figuring out her new online patterns are preventing you from healing and moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 Agreed. I've used that as an away message also - primarily because I just looooooove that song!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author smsrunner1 Posted April 18, 2004 Author Share Posted April 18, 2004 Thx for the copyright point... i didn't even think of that... the link is up... Anyway, i see your point with the fact that girls do often put song lyrics as their away messages. Not sure if it matters much, but it wasn't the lyrics she put up there... just the title of the song ("hanging by a moment"). I've seen several other friends use song lyrics in their away messages, so I agree with u there, but she has never done so, at least not since I've known her. She might have quotes here and there, or why she's not at her computer (traditional)... but the quotes were almost always a message to me when she used them... Even before we were together, she had quotes up there all the time that were messages to me... this was after I told her how i felt but before we were together. Also, I've been trying my best to realize what i deserve and whether or not she's worth even looking back to. I haven't at all been spending time figuring out her patterns. I have come online quite a bit to read and post here, and I just noticed that she hasn't been online in a long time. If you still say the same thing, please let me know... if what i've said makes a difference, let me know that also.... thank you so much for everything offered so far... this is a huge part of my being able to get through each day. ~Shaun Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 I understand that you want it to mean something more, but I'm still convinced you're overthinking this. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted April 18, 2004 Share Posted April 18, 2004 I agree with Dyer. I also think the song title to use for her away appearance on line is cute! Link to post Share on other sites
Author smsrunner1 Posted April 19, 2004 Author Share Posted April 19, 2004 Ok, so I guess you can call me weak. It's been tough enough not contacting for the past 4 days plus. But I convinced myself not to send her an email asking what her away message meant, if it was for someone, etc. I did respond to it in a way though. My away message is "... Lifehouse..." Like I said, I guess I'm weak. But here's my reasoning with this. IF (and that's a strong if based on what you've all told me) it was meant for me, and it was her way of telling me that she's waiting for me to make the 1st move, then I just put the ball back in her court. IF it was a message to me, then she'd read my message and hopefully understand that I got her message but am not going to give in. So what if she IM's me... or even calls me, emails me, etc. Again, that's a big WHAT IF. But I want to be prepared just in case. Would my best bet be to ignore her... or just respond, but act like I don't have anything to say? Thanks again. ~Shaun Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 No, I like your plan. Be civil to her, but don't let on that you're hoping for a romantic relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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