Feelings for a friend, Should I tell her how I feel?

[SHCdude]

Hey everyone, this is my first time to post something here, so any help is cool for me.

 

Ok, here it goes. I'm a guy freshman at college, and I met this girl, lets call her Lucille, first semester. Well we got to know each other pretty well, but she told a couple of times that all she wanted was to be friends. Well during winter break we talked a little at first, then just stopped. So spring semester starts and I diberatley ignore to see if she still has some kind of interest in me on some level. So around late february she comes sits with me at lunch and we talk for a while and end of making plans to go to a school dance. So after that we started talking a little more, kind of like first semester. Well the weekend before spring break she goes to the beach, and calls me numerous times just to see whats up and stuff. Then the next week we do numerous things together, like going to the mall, tanning, dinner, etc. So the night before we leave for spring break, I ask her if there is something between us, and she ways maybe. Ever since then I haven't mentioned one thing on the matter. So spring break comes and we each go someplace different. But we talked everyday for a little so how each other was doing. After spring break, we talk all the time, always go out and do stuff together, we just went to her sorority formal. I want to ask her now whats up with us, but I'm not the best person with getting words on matters like that to come out of my mouth, I just choke up and blow it. So do you all think I should just tell her how I feel and see whats going on with us?

 

Thanks for the help.

[JustHere]

Wow,

 

If you want to screw things up then yes, by all means, ask her where you two stand. If you are interested in a future with her, then slow down and JUST enjoy being with her. It sounds alot like she is enjoying being with you, let that be enough now or you could run her off. Neither of you need the pressure of "knowing where we stand." You can both let the other know how you feel by your words and actions, which it sounds like you are doing. Checking on each other to see how they are is the same as SAYING I miss you and just wanted to hear your voice. You can throw that in once in a while, but be careful or you may run her away from you.

 

From what you have told us, your friend does like you alot. Receive comfort in that and the rest will come along on its own, I promise.

 

Have fun, enjoy life and be safe.

[SHCdude]

Well before the first reply came back, I went ahead and talked to her. We feels the same way I do, except she doesn't want the whole title thing because it messed things up for her previously. So we are basically dating, just with out the official title.