paradiselost36 Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 Hi everyone, I am new here so im sorry if im posting in the wrong place? I really could do with some advice! I have been with my partner 7 years on the 20th June and i love him dearly, but i hate his sexual preferences and after trying to accommodate them for the last 7 years im now beginning to think its a lost cause and i should maybe consider getting him councelling ? or leaving him.... Without meaning to sound or be rude i will try and explain this in as little detail as possible! Ok my partner- talks me into?encourages me? brain washes me? (you choose) ... me to find strange men, i have to go out and pick up someone have sex in some horrid place outside make sure he ejaculates inside me then take myself home to my partner so he can then enjoy orally removing my one night stand and then have sex with me. I have done this a few times over the years thinking it would stop if i did it as he claims he had never done this before, but im beginning to think this is what his marriage was like before his wife divorced him! The bit that bothers me is the getting it on with strange men, worrying about catching something nasty,risking my life for his love, degrading myself the list is endless to be honest. I love him madly in every other way he is my ideal man but this sexual addiction is killing our relationship without HIM even noticing!!! I try to talk to him about it but he turns it around and makes out that he only does it because he likes to see me enjoy myself? as if it is me that had made the first implications to this freaky way of life yet i am NOT this way at all i only require HIS love and no others! But he wants to share me around and i hate it, when i dont give this sexual pleasure to him he has to take viagra! because otherwise he cant perform i think he needs desperate help and im lost as to what to suggest to him to make him realise something is not all ok with his sexual preferences or is it me ? am i just a nun in disguise? am i the freak for not being this way? please help i am sooooo confused and depressed over this. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkInTheLimo Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 OMG, so sorry to hear that you are with such a sick man. He is the freak not you!!! Get tested for STD ASAP and leave him NOW!!! His sexual addiction has gotten so much out of hand that nothing normal can satisfy him anylonger. I have an ex where I felt that his approach to sex was unhealthy and I broke up with him after a couple of months because it gave me the creeps (and I'm sure I had only seen the top of the iceberg then). Link to post Share on other sites
russt Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING??? I honestly don't have words, I am not sure if you are trolling with garbage here or what. If not, no disrespect, but you need a check up from the neck up. This is not the freeloving sixty's, and I have heard of swinging, but I think even those folks share, clean, tested swap partners. What your describing is morally wrong, very very dangerous, and being married, sick on your husbands end. If you want a variety of men to have sex with, get divorced, have a different one over every day if that's what you want, but pick the guy based on what you want, and use protection. I mean what if you get pregnant in your husbands fantasty land, I'm sorry I just don't buy that any sane woman would do this, how old are you? Hi everyone, I am new here so im sorry if im posting in the wrong place? I really could do with some advice! I have been with my partner 7 years on the 20th June and i love him dearly, but i hate his sexual preferences and after trying to accommodate them for the last 7 years im now beginning to think its a lost cause and i should maybe consider getting him councelling ? or leaving him.... Without meaning to sound or be rude i will try and explain this in as little detail as possible! Ok my partner- talks me into?encourages me? brain washes me? (you choose) ... me to find strange men, i have to go out and pick up someone have sex in some horrid place outside make sure he ejaculates inside me then take myself home to my partner so he can then enjoy orally removing my one night stand and then have sex with me. I have done this a few times over the years thinking it would stop if i did it as he claims he had never done this before, but im beginning to think this is what his marriage was like before his wife divorced him! The bit that bothers me is the getting it on with strange men, worrying about catching something nasty,risking my life for his love, degrading myself the list is endless to be honest. I love him madly in every other way he is my ideal man but this sexual addiction is killing our relationship without HIM even noticing!!! I try to talk to him about it but he turns it around and makes out that he only does it because he likes to see me enjoy myself? as if it is me that had made the first implications to this freaky way of life yet i am NOT this way at all i only require HIS love and no others! But he wants to share me around and i hate it, when i dont give this sexual pleasure to him he has to take viagra! because otherwise he cant perform i think he needs desperate help and im lost as to what to suggest to him to make him realise something is not all ok with his sexual preferences or is it me ? am i just a nun in disguise? am i the freak for not being this way? please help i am sooooo confused and depressed over this. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted June 17, 2011 Share Posted June 17, 2011 If your boyfriend wants to taste other mens' cum so bad - tell him to go suck dick. Leave that loser. I understand that people have their fetishes and that's all fine - but if he's pressuring you to go out and do something that you don't want to do - leave him. Honestly though, in the end you're still choosing to do what you do. He may be pressuring you, but you still can say no. Don't waste your time on someone that has no respect for you or any kind of consideration for your health for your well-being (emotional/physical). Link to post Share on other sites
bigmomma1974 Posted June 18, 2011 Share Posted June 18, 2011 Holy cow man I dont even know what to think. Except this is morally wrong and just down right nasty. There is nothing wrong with you, but that man of yours is out there in another land. I would lay the law down tell him he either seeks help for this issue or your out the door. THere is no way in hell i would put myself in danger like you are doing,. going out picking a random man and having sex with him without protection is highly dangerous in more ways then one. Girl I would pack my bags and run for the hills. Link to post Share on other sites
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