Is he playing around with me?

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Here's the thing. I'm falling in love with someone even though I'm really trying not to.

 

My gut feeling is telling me that he likes me, but I'm starting to get a weird vibe off him.

We're colleagues and before we started working together, he flirted with me a lot. That's how I noticed him and started to show interest in him.

 

He's giving a lot of mixed signals and I just really don't know what to do anymore. I tried to ignore him, but that only seemed to attract him. I'm trying to get over him, but that's not easy, because I see him a lot.

 

Why I think he likes me.

 

He gets nervous around me. For example: he turns red when I'm around, he has a hard time talking, he laughs nervously and he's just acting weird. He's a show off. He stares at me on most days. He tried to make me laugh a couple of times.

 

Now I am confused, because he's lovely one day, but a jerk the other day. Well, not really a jerk, but not the guy I started to like. He's ignoring me a lot and he's not acknowledging the fact I exist. He only really asks me questions that are work related and that's about it. Also, he's starting to act like he's the **** at work and I think he's faking confidence (in a weird way), because he's definitely got low self esteem.

 

Things are still awkward between us, but we're starting to talk more. I just can't stand the fact that he's so nice and easy to and with everyone, but not with me.

 

I don't know what he wants. Like I said, my gut feeling tells me that he likes me, but that he's just shy (he really is.) and that he's afraid to make a move. But now I also feel like he's not interested (anymore) and that it's all in my head.

 

On the other hand; I am really shy as well and I'm probably giving off mixed signals. When I find him staring at me, I won't smile unless he does. And I'm the worst flirting ever. I probably come off as not interested. Especially now, because I am trying to get over him. I'm ignoring him and I'm not really talking to him.

 

I'm giving myself a hard time, I know.

 

Oh and something else. When my friend 'liked' his photo on some site, he added her immediately. He has no idea who she is. She doesn't even live in the same city. When I liked his photo, he checked on my profile, but didn't do anything.

 

Any advice?