summergirl2 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and this week he broke up with me. I was feeling very lonely so I decided to call one of my old guy-friends who has always liked me, although we hadn't talked recently. We hung out for a while and then he kissed me. The entire time prior I told myself I wouldn't let him but when he did I let him then kissed him back. We kissed a lot but didn't have sex. I honestly thought that my boyfriend and I wouldn't get back together. Tonight he texted me though and said that he wants to work things out. When I kissed my guy-friend it did not feel right, I wanted it to be my boyfriend. So I was really happy when it seemed like things would work with my boyfriend and I, but I feel so guilty for having made out with someone else. I'm scared if I tell my boyfriend he will leave me again and I will hurt him really badly but at the same time I feel so guilty and all I want to do it tell him. Help???
thatone Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 that's why you don't keep male friends around that you KNOW are attracted to you.
nyc_guy2003 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 You should just tell him you had sex, but don't tell him about the kissing.
sally4sara Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 You were single so you should not feel guilt as though you did something to the guy who dumped you whether or not he changed his mind later. It was his choice to break up with you and at that point he has no say in what you do. My guess is you feel guilty because you did something you said you didn't want to do. The only person you betrayed was yourself and your own resolve. You cheated on yourself.
Bryanp Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 NO you should not feel guilty. You did absolutely did nothing wrong!
anne1707 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 NO you should not feel guilty. You did absolutely did nothing wrong! Agreed - and OP, Bryanp takes a very hard line on cheating so if he thinks it's not cheating then I think you're OK.
rafallus Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 Indeed, if you were broken up, that was not cheating. You just weren't quite over your ex yet.
Imajerk17 Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 You might need to have a talk with your guy friend. But as you were broken up at the time, you don't owe your bf an apology.
lovinglife12 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 i know how that feels...its hard but understand he broke up with you n u were trying to cope n move on ...he just changed his mind. Figure out why he left you...now its about you n him not you n what you did while u were ad and SINGLE
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 that's why you don't keep male friends around that you KNOW are attracted to you. ... and male friends won't be around when they're not attracted to you.
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