Karala Posted June 18, 2011 Share Posted June 18, 2011 You know, the ones you've been going to for years as a couple, and now you have to go alone. Do you like torture? I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
RuinedLife Posted June 18, 2011 Share Posted June 18, 2011 You know, the ones you've been going to for years as a couple, and now you have to go alone. Do you like torture? I don't. I feel this torture all the time! Even normal family dinners together hurt now, as my ex used to join us regularly and without him around I always feel this emptiness inside. I definitely do not like torture. So I'm trying to switch my attitude to a more positive one. But its soo hard when my heart longs for him so much still. Its so ridiculous that I feel this way. He's probably happy with another girl as I'm typing this, which makes my stomach churn just thinking about it, but it could easily be true. I really need to snap out of this ridiculously obsessive-type of love I have for him and move on already! I can only keep slapping myself in the face and telling myself that he doesn't love me, and I don't want a boyfriend who doesn't love me... Just need to work on being the best me I can be. And find a new guy who will appreciate me and actually want me in his life no matter what. Link to post Share on other sites
lovesickmonkey Posted June 18, 2011 Share Posted June 18, 2011 You know, the ones you've been going to for years as a couple, and now you have to go alone. Do you like torture? I don't. I'm suffering from this right now. Family dinners, family visits, family anything. It was so much nicer to go as a couple. Almost everyone else is in a couple except the children. It is torture to go back to being the single uncle. I really don't feel much like going anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted June 18, 2011 Share Posted June 18, 2011 I can understand this, it does take a while to get used to the new life. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted June 18, 2011 Share Posted June 18, 2011 How about divorced after 20+ years & still getting invited to ex relatives for holiday dinners & family gatherings. And as wrong, or at least inappropriate as I felt it was, after 20 years it was difficult to say no. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 At least you guys have sensitive families (I hope!) who didn't keep badgering you about your ex and the circumstances of the breakup... I have a few relatives whom I've seen gleefully jump on my cousins when they turn up alone, demanding to know every single juicy detail. Didn't seem to occur to them that they might be hurting the person, or that such questions are best not asked uninvited. No, all they cared about was getting their dose of juicy gossip and satisfying their curiousity... Which is why I don't bring bfs to family gatherings. Link to post Share on other sites
Exit Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 How about divorced after 20+ years & still getting invited to ex relatives for holiday dinners & family gatherings. And as wrong, or at least inappropriate as I felt it was, after 20 years it was difficult to say no. Haha yeah I was about to say something similar: Not going to the holidays can be miserable, but how about my ex who dumped me in March yet I was still brought around her family for Easter and Mother's Day and we still acted like a couple in front of them. Yeah... not much better. Link to post Share on other sites
Duckduckgoose Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 At least you guys have sensitive families (I hope!) who didn't keep badgering you about your ex and the circumstances of the breakup... MY MOM does this ****. She still has pics of me and my exH up in their house. When I had to visit due to dire circumstance there were several pictures of him and me all around the house. She said she didn't take them down because she liked him. WTF really? I liked him too we were ****ing MARRIED for God's sake but he pussed out and left what is left for her to like about him? I am used to going and doing things alone though, my exH after we got married suddenly stopped wanting to do things together I had to beg and almost drag him to do things we used to enjoy doing together. It didn't mean I liked doing it alone... I thought part of being married meant you had someone to do something with... if not all of the time at least some of the time. I was wrong... I think part of the reason my mom hasn't taken the pics down, or won't hesitate to bring the exH up in EVERY conversation we have is because she's never been divorced and doesn't know what kind of hell that you have to drag yourself out of as the person that didn't want it but wasn't going to fight to be with someone who rejected you so utterly and completely that you just gave in cause there was no point to do otherwise. Yeah that hits a nerve with me... just a little bit Link to post Share on other sites
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