Rinnix Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I've read/heard from numerous people that those who don't have a Facebook account are lying about something or in a relationship or married. But what happens when you sincerely don't have an account? My account was hacked, not once but TWICE. I had to go through adding everyone, closing up old accounts, and the whole ordeal. After the second one got hacked, I said to hell with this. I saw no point in adding 300 people in which I'm acquainted with but don't even talk to. In general, I have about 4-5 decent friends in which I talk to. That is all. My family is also a phone call away. Why should I need a Facebook in order to chat with these friends when I can easily use the telephone, msn, texting? Is it truly a red flag when someone doesn't have a social networking account? Heaven forbid I don't care about a strangers trip to the zoo. Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 A curious insinuation. It is always a possibility of course, but it is also an extremely far leap in "logic". How do people come up with this stuff anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
Kalinka Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Funny-I've heard the same exact thing! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rinnix Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 I only have about 5 people id consider good friends. I don't feel the need like most of the world to have 300+ people on their list. I'll never spend time with these people, why do they need to be added? I it a popularity contest? I know some people are deceiving and really are hiding things, but in my case, it's genuine. It would be sad to be red flagged over it. Link to post Share on other sites
MoreWaysThan1 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 F that. I had a facebook account for 2 years before I deleted it because I think it's the most ridiculous pointless thing on the internet and I was sick of getting very personal status updates from people I barely knew and being too afraid of deleting someone I didn't WANT contact with. There are many perfectly normal reasons why people lose touch, all facebook does is guilt you into reconnecting with people you probably don't know or don't like. It claims to be social networking, but it's one of the most antisocial things I am aware of. If someone thinks there is something wrong with you for not having a FB account, they are not only incredibly shallow but borderline nuts. Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Anyone who considers it a red flag is a red flag themselves. Don't worry about it. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I only have about 5 people id consider good friends. I don't feel the need like most of the world to have 300+ people on their list. I know facebook is popular, so of course not using it will make you seem strange to some people, but it's hardly a red flag to anyone except the most insecure and out of touch with reality. There's nothing wrong with not having a facebook account, but also there's nothing wrong with having a facebook account with only 5 friends. You don't need to add acquaintances, colleagues, relatives, neighbours, people you met at parties etc if you don't want to. Do you know how your facebook account got hacked, and more importantly, what you might be able to do to improve your computer security? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rinnix Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 I know facebook is popular, so of course not using it will make you seem strange to some people, but it's hardly a red flag to anyone except the most insecure and out of touch with reality. There's nothing wrong with not having a facebook account, but also there's nothing wrong with having a facebook account with only 5 friends. You don't need to add acquaintances, colleagues, relatives, neighbours, people you met at parties etc if you don't want to. Do you know how your facebook account got hacked, and more importantly, what you might be able to do to improve your computer security? I'm pretty sure it was from a keylogger. Used my mothers pc when I visited her (she doesn't know much about the computer to begin with) she managed to pick up a logger. And there goes my FB account #1. FB account #2 I have no idea. No loss really. I see no point in using it for just 5 people, it's why I have hotmail/skype/etc for. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I'm pretty sure it was from a keylogger. Used my mothers pc when I visited her (she doesn't know much about the computer to begin with) she managed to pick up a logger. AVG is quite a good free anti-virus program for windows if she doesn't have one. Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I genuinely don't use Facebook either. What do you reckon the percentage of people in the UK are that don't use Facebook? Must be quite low? Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 What do you reckon the percentage of people in the UK are that don't use Facebook? Must be quite low? Over half the population of the UK don't use it. Figures from last July: http://www.socialmediapack.co.uk/wordpress/2010/07/30/uk-has-3rd-largest-facebook-usage-by-population-penetration/ and a very recent article suggesting UK (and US) usage is declining: http://www.insidefacebook.com/2011/06/12/facebook-sees-big-traffic-drops-in-us-and-canada-as-it-nears-700-million-users-worldwide/ Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Over half the population of the UK don't use it. Figures from last July: http://www.socialmediapack.co.uk/wordpress/2010/07/30/uk-has-3rd-largest-facebook-usage-by-population-penetration/ and a very recent article suggesting UK (and US) usage is declining: http://www.insidefacebook.com/2011/06/12/facebook-sees-big-traffic-drops-in-us-and-canada-as-it-nears-700-million-users-worldwide/ Seems surprising, I've read the 2nd article already though. The first one, interesting but most of the people who don't use it are either babies or old people (60+) surely? Can't see many 16-30 year olds not using Facebook. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Can't see many 16-30 year olds not using Facebook. Agreed. If you're in that age group then you're probably in a minority, along with Rinnix. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Don't many of your friends use your computer ? Not having a FB isn't a red flag.. but having your FB hacked twice should be Link to post Share on other sites
youngskywalker Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 popularity contest?. Yes it's popularity contest. The only people I have on facebook are friends or people who were my friends at some point in the past. I can't tell you how often I get people who want to be my friend simply because they know a person I know. Seriously? Quite frankly I think the way some people use facebook is so lame. "I'm baking cookies tonight :)" Nobody cares... well, at least I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I find FB a great way to look up women you've met at an event or party, that you missed later on in the evening or didn't a chance to talk to. You just go to your friend's friends list, and look them up that way. Or perhaps think, "Hey, I wonder if Julie Smith is single now", and look up up in the search feature Link to post Share on other sites
rafallus Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Anyone who considers it a red flag is a red flag themselves. Don't worry about it. Nuff said. Even though I do have an account on FB, if someone judges me on the grounds of whether I have an account on some portal, that person is an idiot. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I've read/heard from numerous people that those who don't have a Facebook account are lying about something or in a relationship or married. But what happens when you sincerely don't have an account? My account was hacked, not once but TWICE. I had to go through adding everyone, closing up old accounts, and the whole ordeal. After the second one got hacked, I said to hell with this. I saw no point in adding 300 people in which I'm acquainted with but don't even talk to. In general, I have about 4-5 decent friends in which I talk to. That is all. My family is also a phone call away. Why should I need a Facebook in order to chat with these friends when I can easily use the telephone, msn, texting? Is it truly a red flag when someone doesn't have a social networking account? Heaven forbid I don't care about a strangers trip to the zoo. people who honestly don't care about fb win points with me people who obsess about a 'strangers trip to the zoo' on fb make me gag Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I would love it if I met a man who didn't have FB. I hate meeting a man and imagining all the flirty posts from women on his FB (this is a red flag for me). I won't be FB friends with someone I'm interested in dating. I have in the past and it doesn't work for me. I have one, but I'm not into it. I log in once a month or less. I don't see what's so appealing about it. Link to post Share on other sites
iris219 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 One of the things that strongly influenced me to date my current BF was his facebook page. He doesn't update his status often, but he posts tons of pictures and replies to messages left. Almost all the pictures were of him with his family. The messages left were often from his family as well. I could see how much they loved each other and how much time spent and fun they had together. That was a huge plus for me. There were no flirty girls or red flags of any kind. All his friends seemed very nice and most were married. You just described my dream guy's FB page. Family/friends and no flirty girls would definitely earn him brownie points, but I'm too scared to look anymore! Link to post Share on other sites
grkBoy Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Frankly, I'd see it as a red flag if any man or woman who thinks "if you don't have a Facebook account then something is wrong with you." It's a fun thing, but it's not a necessity to life. I still laugh my head off at women who get all angry because their boyfriend won't make his profile photo a "couples shot" or he won't declare his "status". I'm not saying he wants to be labeled "single", but he just won't declare anything at all. Likewise, I laugh at the guys who get all angry because their girlfriend has guy friends on Facebook, especially the guys who want said woman to drop all her guy friends now that they are in a RL. It's so ridiculous how many people treat social media as some sacred thing. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 How many red flags did I get? At least one for making a fake account. Link to post Share on other sites
Jynxx Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Agreed. If you're in that age group then you're probably in a minority, along with Rinnix. I am in that age group, and I'm about the only person I know that doesn't. Big deal. I'm not giving away my private information to a company with such questionable ethics. And clicking a button on the site to "protect your privacy" or whatever it's called really doesn't mean the company itself can't get to your personal details and use or sell them. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I don't have a Facebook account. I find technologies like Facebook and Twitter decadent for face to face interaction. And it's getting worse too. Before the smartphone craze started I interacted with some of my business partners through software like Skype, because they traveled all over the world to do business, so that was the easiest way to get in touch and exchange documents. However that was in the days people still used laptops (and desktops) to type stuff out. BUT NOW, many people use Skype through their smartphone, so the messages you get have become really short and things don't get discussed into detail and sometimes you even get a message back DAYS LATER. However there are businessmen out there that will not do business with you UNLESS you are willing to meet them face to face or talk to them on the phone and I'm starting to understand those guys better by the day. It has even come to the point that when a company is willing to send someone over to discuss business or talk to you on the phone, then that's considered a high-end service now. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 That part would bother me. If a guy is in love, he is proud of his girl and wants to share their relationship to the world. If he doesn't, then something is seriously wrong. I see what you mean, but I wouldn't paint it on the roof of my house for Google Maps to take a photo of, either. Link to post Share on other sites
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