Cupiddd86 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Hey All, So situation is as follows in a nutshell, we've broken up more then a month ago (LDR). But actually the last 2 weeks we've been growing closer and closer. She has been contacting me and texting me repeatedly actually at some point saying that she wants to come over and visit me. It kind of started as a joke but she became serious and was looking for tickets, place to stay etc. So I had a good talk with her last thursday and asked her where this is going. She told me it all feels good and loves it around me and she still loves me BUT she doesn't know if she wants to risk it again. Later that day we had a bit of a more depressing talk since well she lives in a different country as me and I felt the need to share the downside of this. She has a lot of doubts about things she wants to do in her life and well I just told her that I can't wait forever. Not meant as pushing but rather; I would want to move to her; but she doesn't want to due to the economic state her country is in. And vice versa she doesn't know because it's hard to drop everything. I started the talk with an emphasis on that at some point we have to make those decisions. She got kind of depressed; I told her I can't just be friends and if it has no chance on becomming sth it might be better to let go and cut off all connections entirely. We hung up both being kind of sad and depressed. So I spoke with her yesterday; and well she let me know she thinks she's holding me back and maybe it's better to let me go. I on the other hand felt like I crossed the line by saying all that on thursday and apologized for it. I mean I want a future with this girl and it sounded pushy which I'm not. I just want some clearity since atm we are ??? and well would be nice to know where this is heading. So I talked to her quite some about risks, making decisions and well after that she wanted to call me and just talk about fun stuff. The thing is I wanted some answers from her; like "do you still think you should let go?" but she refuses to answer me and just laughs and says she's not obliged to answer it or that she doesn't want to. She always kind of avoids serious questions.. but she's always been like that. However it kind of annoys me now and I'm not sure what she's thinking or feeling. What should I do? I know she loves me as well she has semi-admitted it but i'm not sure how to get an answer. I'm guessing I will not be able to get an answer but do you guys or gals have an idea what this laughing/avoiding means? Link to post Share on other sites
BCCA Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Women are more indirect then us guys. She's avoiding answering questions that she knows would hurt you if you got the truth. She doesn't want to tell you how it really is, but she's dropping enough hints. When someone has something to tell you that they know will make you happy or be a positive, they don't hold back - they say it. When they start avoiding questions, or not giving you direct answers, they're trying to spare your feelings. This is not worth it anymore. Yóu need to let this go. If you have to let her know what you're doing, than go ahead, but this is a waste of your emotions. There are plenty of women in your country to date, so go find them and stop wasting your life away. Link to post Share on other sites
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