Steve11 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I've been no contact for 2 1/2 weeks, we broke up over 2 months ago, but kept contact. I really miss her today. I keep hopeing she'll contact me. Link to post Share on other sites
TearyEyedPride Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Steve... I was at a point where I had the phone... and I was just about to dial that first digit of his telephone number... when it hit me If they cared, or were nearly as concerned as we were... or felt anything like we do at this point... They would've tried to contact us to at least see how we were. In most cases some exes at least have that human decency. Which leads me to believe that the exes who don't contact us, either have moved on (with someone else, or it was simply a relief to let us go), don't care either way (you can't hold on to someone who doesn't WANT you NO MATTER WHAT), or they're too scared and lack the courage to contact us and show us how they really feel. Now I'm not sure about you... but I couldn't accept any of that and I felt guilty for even thinking about dialing. Why the hell would I want to talk to someone like that? But also consider this... what if you call or email... and they don't reply? Or send you a one word answer? Or pretend to be happy, and pretend like they miss you when really they're in bed with someone else? Can you handle that without feeling like it's day 1 all over again? Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 TearyEyedPride pretty much hit the nail on the head. Contacting her would set you back, Steve. I've been NC for about ten months, and while I tell you it hasn't been easy, it's definitely the lesser of two evils. Just take it one day at a time. I've heard it said that getting over a love is like breaking an addiction. If you give in and contact her you'll be starting all over again. Link to post Share on other sites
giuliano-3 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 But also consider this... what if you call or email... and they don't reply? Or send you a one word answer? Or pretend to be happy, and pretend like they miss you when really they're in bed with someone else? Can you handle that without feeling like it's day 1 all over again? Exactly, its a huge risk to take. Having your ex pretend that they miss/love you still while they are really fawning over a new bf/gf is probably one of the worst forms of torture. I wasted way too much of my life trying to keep contact with my ex and all it did was confuse the situation even more. I know its hard to resist contacting her, believe me I know. Curiosity plays tricks on you, usually the result if you give in isn't very good. Closure is something you need to work on yourself, its not something an ex can give you. Link to post Share on other sites
ventdomain Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I'm in a similar situation. I know she's dating someone else. She had a birthday party last night and I know he was there. I am thinking about contacting her as well and we broke up nine months ago. She led me on for 7 and I haven't lived more than an hour without thinking about her and trying to get her back. My family no longer loves her as she's told me for months how she is still in love with me bit continues to date/hook up wig other guys. Even though I didn't hear anything particularly good about this guy, it still hurts so bad. I want to contact her tomorrow, it's her birthday. However, I almost know it wont get me anywhere. I feel like **** nearly every moment of every day. I can't live like this but I know there's nothing I can do... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 Thanks for the replys. I need to get it out of my head that she's not going to contact me. I'm moving on, slowly, but keep getting re-lapses. I can't sit still for too long because i think about her. Link to post Share on other sites
california15 Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Hey i'm in the same boat too but teary said it best. The phone works both ways. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 Argh! Drivin me insane. I dreamt about her last night. Ffs! I know nothing will come from contacting her, but I feel useless! Link to post Share on other sites
jacksonBrown Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 NC trust me bro Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 Yeah, I know nc is for the best, just feel a little hopeless. How can one woman mess with your head so much! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Steve11 Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 I think I hate my life without her. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 gotta do it bro, my ex cheated on me twice that i know about and i still find myself picking up breadcrumbs and eating them from her even 3 weeks after the breakup im almost 24 hours NC lol and plan on sticking to it this time Link to post Share on other sites
jacksonBrown Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 contacting her aint gonna help just make it worse.. really Link to post Share on other sites
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