friskycat Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 I've been on three dates with this guy (I'm 28 he's 33). I'm really into him and he seems really into me and we've had fun together. We've been physical multiple times. I met his mother on the last date and then spent the night with him. The next morning things went down hill a little when we were coming back from lunch and his car broke down and we had to walk back home in 90 degree heat. I remained super positive and supportive. He mentions that he should come stay with me this weekend (I live 45 minutes away). So that weekend rolls around and he let's me know that he "forgot" he had to house sit. I feel like he was telling the truth but I can't be sure if he was just trying to get out of seeing me. His attitude made me feel like he was disinterested. I decided after that conversation to stop texting him first to see if he would still contact me. Two days later he sends me a text unprompted saying that staying in the house he was watching sucked and he was lonely. I asked him jokingly if he missed me and he said yes. I continue texting him for a couple days. The last text I sent was asking him if he'd like to come and stay over that night. He never responded and has not texted me in 4 days. I am absolutely not needy nor am I demanding of his time. I'm not sure what happened or why he suddenly seems so uninterested. I am sad though. I really like him. He seemed really into me and all of a sudden nothing. Since then he's logged into OkCupid a few times (pops up in my favorites list, so no I'm not stalking) which he hadn't done since we met. I'm struggling to figure out what I did wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 you did nothing wrong...he was just looking for some casual sex Link to post Share on other sites
GildedLily Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Normally I would give the guy the same number of days he's ever gone in between calling me. In this case since you extended an invite and he didn't respond, I would say he's not that interested. You sound disappointed maybe next time let the guy do all or most of the calling, don't text message with him unless its for small things like confirming plans and most of all don't sleep with him until you have a stated exclusive relationship. Remember that even if he calls you and apologizes with some great excuse for why he didn't get back to you immediately that he still put distance in your relationship by letting so much time pass before answering you; this means something. Sorry to say but meeting the parents means nothing. Some guys introduce anyone to their parents; even casual flings. Link to post Share on other sites
youngskywalker Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 Sorry you had this happen the way it did. I've "been there done that" with women who did the same thing with me. It just happens and the reasons as to why you'll never know. Something tells me to give the benefit of the doubt but the truth is, if I like a girl I'm not going to let her slip through my hands. He dropped the ball so it's time to have both feet out the door. There is a slight chance of remote possibility that he never received your last text. If it makes you feel better then call him on the phone and leave a message. If he doesn't get back to you right away with a REALLY REALLY good excuse just figure he is a player who isn't serious and search for the next man. Link to post Share on other sites
TuffCookieX Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 He will hit you up in about 3-6 months to see if you're still available and want to hang out. Hopefully you will have moved on by that point. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 you did nothing wrong...he was just looking for some casual sex I agree that this is probably the case. Link to post Share on other sites
Author friskycat Posted June 19, 2011 Author Share Posted June 19, 2011 Thanks guys! I have a feeling he kind of liked the attention when I was there and then just had no desire to continue things after I showed further interest. I texted him a simple "hi" with no response, just as a test, and nothing. I suspect he met someone else he was more interested in. Sigh. Moving on I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
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