wilsonx Posted June 19, 2011 Share Posted June 19, 2011 So for the longest time, I had been chasing my ex doing anything I could to see her and talk to her face to face. This has been going on for 3 weeks now and I'm finally annoyed with it. HAHA I dunno, I'm pretty sure she has GIGS. So I saw her on Friday and she looked like ****, like the worst Ive ever seen her. It looks like she woke up, ran into a brick wall and gained 10 pounds. The sad part was I was the dumpee and I look way better now (go figure). I told her on Friday that she really needs to give me my space to heal, no calls, no texts, no emails, no nothing. Just leave me alone and when you're ready come talk to me in person (vague I know) ugh. Today (2 days later) I got a text from her that stated Her:"Happy Father's Day" I sat on this for 2 hours and thought to myself seriously what the eff. She broke up with me, listened to my guidelines and then texted me even though I asked for my space (I gave her her space when she asked for it). Me: Look Im not chasing you anymore... U have 2 choices #1 give me my space and leave me alone #2 Grow up, fix your mistakes, make an appointment with me to try to reconcile and fix our relationship. Im tired of these stupid games. Grow up please and let me be happy again. These are my boundries, respect them. Her: Fine, I'm done trying to be friendly. Good day Hello, I did not want her to be friendly, I want her to respect my boundries and give me space. I plan on changing my number on Friday when I get a new phone. That will make it a lot easier. Here's the thing, I know for a fact that I can live without her, she's the one that can not live without me. Everytime she hits my boundries, it takes the feelings and emotions I still have for her and pushes them out of me. I seriously am starting to resent her more and more every day. She made her bed by hooking up with her 37 year old cook coworker that lives in a trailer park. Shes 23. You know I gave her 2 choices because I KNEW that she would not take choice #2, it had a 1 in 104948506948433 chance but it makes her think that she has a chance in the future and thats she stringing me along. What she doesn't know is I do not really want to ever see her again, she lied to me constantly for the past 6 weeks of our relationship, dropped fake I love you's to prevent me from dumping her when I should have, all she does is play games and Im fed up with it Link to post Share on other sites
light_vader Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 But isn't it better if you just... hadn't responded to that message my man? Like, if you really Here's the thing, I know for a fact that I can live without her, she's the one that can not live without me. What she doesn't know is I do not really want to ever see her again, Then why not going NC definitely... all she does is play games and Im fed up with it But then It might seem as if you're also playing games with her now, telling her she has a chance in the future and so.. I think what I'd do in that case is simply ignoring her completely and just move on totally, drop all contact, and that's it, focus on my life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 you're absolutely right... thats what im doing I just needed a mental crutch for No contact because I keep failing, this is a good mental crutch for the next 3 months Link to post Share on other sites
TearyEyedPride Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Mindgames definitely suck. Glad you let her have her options within your terms. You're taking control of your own happiness. Good Luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
bikinibeach Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 her 37 year old cook coworker that lives in a trailer parkt lol change your number. delete her off facebook. block her email. etc Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 lol change your number. delete her off facebook. block her email. etc ive done all but change my number i have had her blocked on facebook since it happened in may and had her emails blocked.... changing my number is such a pain the ass because its setup to everything... im just trying to find a program for my phone that just blocks incoming texts and phone calls from a number Link to post Share on other sites
Author wilsonx Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 FINALLY 36 HOURS OF NC FINALLY FINALLY AND I FEEL OK~Good I kept myself busy all day, I went to Barnes and Noble and finished reading http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Past-Your-Breakup-Devastating/dp/0738213284/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1308616981&sr=8-1 Its a really good book and showed me that I missed several warning flags that this relationship was in trouble and instead of fixing the problems, I just accepted them. It also talks about setting up boundaries and not allowing people to crash them I went for a swim afterward and really did not swim so much because all I do is think about her so I only did half a mile of my normal 1.5 miles. I then went to Walmart to buy somethings for our newly bachelor pad apartment and I started getting Angry. Real Angry at my ex. I let the anger come out and felt it and it finally went away. I never one time had the urge to contact her I feel really good Link to post Share on other sites
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