Ran into my ex at my job

[collegeguy_24]

This happened yesterday. I work in the local airport for a rental car company, and she was in Europe for about 3 weeks.

 

Things are not good between us for various reasons, but I've worked past that and I'm a better person for it.

 

Well anyway, I knew that she would be coming in soon, just didn't know when. I only work the weekends so I thought what are the chances we would run into each other? I mean 2 days out of 7, surely she would come in during the week when I am not working.

 

How wrong I was. and the way it happened made me laugh.

 

What happened was several planes had come in and the whole building was crowded, I see this Indian family coming through in a hurry, so I take a few steps to my left to let them pass before I go along my way to my job.

 

Well I turn my head, and literally just a few inches from me is the ex!

 

I never even knew.

 

Well she turned her head and refused to look at me, which was fine. I am willing to be civil, say hi, and move on, she can't even look at me.

 

Despite the fact she is the one in the wrong on what happened between us.

 

Anyways i go on my way, doing my job.

 

Well for the next 2-3 hours, she still hangs around the airport. not long after I was next to her, I see her outside smoking.

 

When we were dating she only smoked once, she told me she only does that when she is under sever emotional stress.

 

I'm not sure if she became addicted, because when we were together she was able to kick it easily. So I am assuming she was under stress. THough I am not also assuming it was because of me. I highly doubt running into me caused her such emotional stress she felt the need to smoke.

 

Anyways, for the next couple hours she hangs at the airport, i'm pretty sure she was part of a group. But for those hours, she is in my direct path so I have no choice but to walk by her.

 

And no, for anyone who asks, there was no alternate path.

 

What is weird though, is that every time I walked by she would stare at me.

 

I don't know why, I highly doubt its because she still has feelings for me, anyone who knows my story can tell you that much.

 

But how do I feel about it?

 

I feel fine. Yes, part of me still loves her and always will, But I am not going to let a chance encounter re-ignight those flames. She has to be the one to initiate contact and to earn my trust again, I'm not contacting her.

 

I will remain civil, when we encounter each other again, and I know we will, I will make eye contact, smile, say Hi, and be on my way.

 

No need to make a scene, just be civil. If she wants a conversation, she can start one.

[0hpenelope]

Feels really good, huh?

[california15]

I've followed your threads for awhile and I think you handled this very well. [unlike my encounter]

 

You've come a long way - I'm happy for you.

[collegeguy_24]

I've followed your threads for awhile and I think you handled this very well. [unlike my encounter]

 

You've come a long way - I'm happy for you.

 

Thank you for your kind words

 

 

But actually, I have a cause to be concerned now. I am still friends with my exes mom, we get along great and its a great friendship.

 

Well yesterday was her birthday, and on Facebook she says she is currently in Switzerland with her daughter, my ex Jen.

 

This has me worried because as my first post said, I ran into her at the airport.

 

But if she is currently in Switzerland, what does this mean?

 

Does this mean I am seeing things? That my mind has finally lost it?

 

I even saw my exes car leave the airport! But if she is over seas and yet I saw her Saturday.

 

This scares me, it honestly does cause it makes me wonder if I just imagined the whole thing.

 

And I know she didn't leave our town to go to Switzerland, she's been in Europe for at least 3-4 weeks now. THis has me worried, very very worried.

[california15]

Ok wait, so You saw her at the airport, yet her Mom's FB says they're in Europe?

 

1) maybe it really was her coming back from europe then and her Mom hasn't changed her FB status yet.

 

2) maybe you thought you saw her? I know there is a guy who used to be a dead ringer for my ex, and its scary how alike they look. Even though I knew about him, I still thought it was my (now ex) bf years later! And you could have been subconsciously more aware that she could be at the airport since you knew about her europe trip... so you may have been looking out for her in a sense.

[collegeguy_24]

Ok wait, so You saw her at the airport, yet her Mom's FB says they're in Europe?

 

1) maybe it really was her coming back from europe then and her Mom hasn't changed her FB status yet.

 

2) maybe you thought you saw her? I know there is a guy who used to be a dead ringer for my ex, and its scary how alike they look. Even though I knew about him, I still thought it was my (now ex) bf years later! And you could have been subconsciously more aware that she could be at the airport since you knew about her europe trip... so you may have been looking out for her in a sense.

 

My exes mom sent me an email this morning, saying how she was in Europe with her daughter, so I know she is still there.

 

THe fact that I thought I saw her, and her car, worries me. I mean, I'm supposed to be over her, its been almost a year since she left for another man, a man who she is no longer with.

 

 

For the past several weeks I have felt great cause I was over her. I didn't think about her, not at all.

 

But now this happens. WTF?

 

Did my mind just make her up? Am I destined to be followed by her throughout the rest of my life?

[california15]

I can't say exactly if you imagined her and her vehicle. You might have. You might have not.

 

Just because you're slightly freaking out over this doesn't mean you're not over her. Dont discount all the progress you've made over the past year.

 

Everyonce and awhile I think I see my ex ex before this one that brought me here, and I get a little jump inside. I'm 100% completely over him, don't give him a second thought really, haven't talked to him in years, and wonder what I ever saw in him. I think the reaction happens because they were special to us at one time, and then running into them reminds us of it maybe? I don't know though, because it's definitely not a pang of feelings coming back, or dread - it doesn't make sense as I reread it but I'm not sure how to explain it properly.

 

you may have more 'run-ins' like this where you think you see her (maybe its her maybe its not) but I don't think its going to last the course of your lifetime. And I don't think they'll effect you like this everytime either.