victoriaaa Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 ok, so i hooked up with my friends brother saturday night. we were both drunk and it was his birthday and she is fine about it and i know he has fancied me for a while. probably shouldnt have jumped into bed with him but its done now. i didnt have my phone on me so couldnt give him my number but i said to get it from his sis. i added him on fb yesterday and he accepted the invite. but i havnt had a message or anything yet and feel a bit stupid. is it too early to think he isnt interested? i dont want to send him a fb message in case i am rejected. we got on really well and i stayed over and i know yesterday he had family stuff but i dont know what to do from here. just out of a long relationship so new to all this stuff again Link to post Share on other sites
Author victoriaaa Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 he also seems like the kind of person that needs space so i dont wanna come across as a neurotic stalker. so not sure how to approach it. should i just wait for him Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 He probably will not call. One thing that women dont seem to ever understand is that just because a guy has sex with you doesnt mean he will be interested to have a relationship with you. Sex for a man can have as much meaning as a handshake. And also nothing chases a man away more than a woman who gets clingy after having sex. Link to post Share on other sites
TheCoolest Posted June 20, 2011 Share Posted June 20, 2011 Honestly i have no idea. I do not know what day it is there but here it is monday. I mean hardly time to start worrying. I personally would have called the next day. But he might be playing the 3 days/one week rule. If i was you i would wait until maybe thursday. If he still hadn't called i would ring him up and invite him on a date. Don't ask him out on facebook. Hell i wouldn't even talk to a woman on facebook. Just call him thursday and invite him out for the weekend. Thats not really stalkerish at all. And if you are a grown woman you need to stop being so scared of rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
Author victoriaaa Posted June 20, 2011 Author Share Posted June 20, 2011 i know sex doesnt mean a relationship but hoped he may want to see me again. he knows i have come out of a 6 yr relationship a few weeks ago so maybe that scares him. i think he feels a bit intimidated by me tbh. i will try and hold out till thurs and see what happens if anything! Link to post Share on other sites
Author victoriaaa Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 ok so he text on monday night just asking me how weekend went etc. i managed to hold out. then asked him if he wanted to meet up. he says he is free friday night. thats almost a week since we hooked up isnt it a bit long? and its gonna be with a group of us as we have mutual friends. dont know if this is just lazyness or he is proud! he seems like a total commitment phobe as well. maybe hes just not that into me lol. but it has only been one time it happened Link to post Share on other sites
Author victoriaaa Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 has anyone got a decent suggestion? Link to post Share on other sites
fiatlux Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Take a chill pill and relax. A week is nothing. You need to take it slower with your own emotions as it seems you are ready to jump off a cliff. Relationships typically take months not minutes! has anyone got a decent suggestion? Link to post Share on other sites
Author victoriaaa Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 thank you for the advice. not sure if much will come of this. just used to my ex clinging to me for 6 years from day 1! i guess i need to stop analysing things and relax! Link to post Share on other sites
Author victoriaaa Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 but it kinda annoys me that he wants to meet up in a group when they will probably be all drunk grrr.... Link to post Share on other sites
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