tornapart2 Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 I am married. She's married. Indeed we are all (the two couples) very close friends. Even though we've never actually confessed so to each other we both know we're deeply in love with each other and have been for a long time. But we also know that there is nothing we can do about it. To be so in love and yet not be able to fully let her know how I feel is heart breaking Link to post Share on other sites
what_2_doooo? Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 I have been with this guy for 1 year or so and he has a brother who seems to be very attracted to me and I to him....he calls me all the time (but only calls when he knows his brother isn't here) he makes all sorts of lame excuses to call and then we talk close to an hour each time. The chemistry has been there since the day we met but I had been with his brother quite awhile at that point. I don't know what to do either I have feelings for him but know there is no way I would ever do something like that to come between 2 brothers. How do you feel about your own marriage....is it not a happy one? Have you ever considered taking some time (if at all possible) to talk to her when you are alone? That way before doing anything hurtful to anyone you can see what you both want to do about the situation. Are you sure you're in love and not just attracted to her intensely? Either way since there are so many people involved you're best trying to sort it all out by just TALKING to that woman and then go from there..if you two decide you want to pursue a relationship then you should maybe seperate from your spouses and attempt a relationship! Anyway some MORE advice is needed for sure!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
dangerouslydead Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 Love is strange my friend, we may want to say something and never say. Perhaps we never will get a chance to say. I suppose that you and teh woman are mature people who have loving partners. Never do anything to screw up a good relationship. Love is not always about telling. Love is sometimes about understanding. Just as you know she loves you perhaps she knows it too. One day, when she will need a friend the most be there for her. You will find true love in her eyes. Do not look for it elsewhere. Hope I made some sense. Link to post Share on other sites
tornapart2 Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 Our marriages are healthy. I get along with my wife fine and we love each other. There will be no affair between me and this woman because we both know there can be no happy ending there and value our friendship (as couples) a lot to jeopardize it. The point I am making here is that we both have very strong feelings for each other and it is frustrating to know that we will never be able to express those feelings freely to each other (beyond having special eye-contact). We have talked about our feelings but have deliberately stopped short of confessing love to each other for fear that this will tip the balance and take us over the edge. Nevertheless, thankfully we maintain a close relationship and perhaps that is all we can expect Link to post Share on other sites
Want2bFaithful Posted April 22, 2004 Share Posted April 22, 2004 I am married, he is married, and we, too, are very attracted to each other. And yes, I feel the same as you - there is nothing that can be done without breaking too many hearts, including our own. We are both happily married to other, decent, loving people. But the instant we met I felt it and I know he did too. So I wish for his happiness and hope that his wife is loving to him and treats him with respect and kindness, as I would if he were mine. And I have started to re-notice things about my husband that I haven't thought of in a long time - like how his face lights up when we meet somewhere, or how much I love his smile. Try and focus your feelings on your own wife - maybe you will be lucky and rediscover each other. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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