I Adore His Lies!!! z bear me for 5 mnt

[Rafaela]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]After i posted a subject regarding how i can break up with my cheating boyfriend and i got some reasonable replies. But I am still not satisfied please discuss my relationship with me I know it’s a long text but please bear me for 5 mnt ... my issue is my boyfriend is not admitting anything of what he have done and he makes me feel like I am breaking up with him for no reason, but the whole drama is clear what he is waiting for? Briefly we are in relationship for one year, such a lovely couple that everyone says it when we are out and the way we treat each other, we are both 22yrs old as we were planning to get marry by next year.[/FONT][/sIZE]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]The drama started 5 months ago when a girl called saying that her boyfriend is accusing her of cheating and she wants my boyfriend to save her ass, that day my boyfriend was coming to me and he told me that he is expecting a call to help one of his friends, I kind was agree with it but then I was confused what makes her boyfriend doubts her with my boyfriend exactly!!So here is the conversation when I asked him who's this girl? Him : just a friend of mine that I used to smoke weed with her with a punch of guys..Me: that’s it? How many times you smoked with her? Him: few times that I don’t remember, way before meeting you. Me: so what makes her call after 1 year if u are saying you didn’t meet her since you met me? Him: stupid, maybe she kept some msgs from my cell. [/FONT][/sIZE]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Then she called to put her BF on speakers and my boyfriend started pretending that they are working together and talking about work and shifts, I felt so stupid because he told me that she was just a friend then why would he lie in front of her BF that they are co-workers??? I couldn’t control myself, I felt such an idiot sitting there and listening to this crap so I snatched the phone from him and I insulted her. She hung up and she didn’t call back after that. My BF started yelling at me oh you embraced me in front of her I was just trying to help, but I am sure he gave her a call the day after anyways I couldn’t forget this topic and kept eating me inside and out, I asked him for her number and he refused to give it to me , he started swearing that there is nothing between them so I had to ignore it for a while we tried to move on and we were trying so hard to get back to our normal life but I couldn’t forget because every time I bring up her name and we start a fight,... until few days ago I found her number on his laptop which was removed from his cell 5 months ago, so I called her and here is the conversation and please try to compare to what he said before:[/FONT][/sIZE]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri] Me: hello, I am R*** girlfriend, do you remember that nite when you called regarding your boyfriend trust issues. Her: yes I do remember, does R*** has a girlfriend? (surprised).Me: yes we are together for one year. Her: I was chilling out with him last year he said he is single. Me: good to know, now can i know what is the relationship between you and him. Her: actually we are not in relationship but kinda close to each other I know a lot about him and he knows a lot about me, we smoke weed together, he pick me up and drop home 'many times', and that night when I called is because I was with my BF in theatre and he texted if I am free to chill with him later on and my BF had to read the msg and he started swearing at me to prove for him that i didn’t cheat. Me: how come he will ask you out while he was coming to me. Her: I honestly if I knew he got a girlfriend I wouldn’t chill with him. I had to hung up and I called him we started swearing at each other because he was mad for calling her, he came home after that and I told him why you are lying you said u smoked with her before knowing me he said yes I swear. I told him she said you gave her rides then he said yes it was only once because her car broke down. But why he didn’t tell me this one until I had to compare it to what she said. He start swearing to god that nothing like that happened!!! Then I lost my control again and I told him go to your bitch you are just a good liar you know how get away with it, but you cant fool my strong feeling that I had 5 months ago He replied back which is really surprised me he said she is not a bitch you are the bitch, she is respectful than you (but I don’t drink or smoke and I don’t have a bad past) why I would be a bitch?? I couldn’t take it and felt like he is trying to fool me again with his innocent face and tears, I told him I am sorry I can't take this none sense and we have to break up coz I can't accept lies and cheating or even chilling out and giving rides to girls while I am in relationship with you. He said that I am just making it a big deal and it will a huge mistake if I break up with him because of this stupid reason. I tried to not talk to him and he text me some beautiful memory that we shared, he seems he won't give me up the way he act. Please tell me if I am really making it a big deal? Do you smell any kind of cheating in this conversation as I do ? I asked him to prove it by meeting her and he said ok but it's just not happening, shall I wait until he arrange a meeting with her even its going to put in a weak spot like a goof trying to know whats going on, or shall I just dump him. Please help guys I am so lost, can't work or focus on something, I don’t eat at all .. lacking of sleep[/FONT][/sIZE]

Edited June 20, 2011 by Rafaela

[distinct wonder]

I agree, something stinks. The fact that she says she's close with him but did not know he had a girlfriend means he's kept you a secret from her. Ask yourself why would a male keep his girlfriend a secret from a female he "chills" with?

[Woman In Blue]

Distinct Wonder is RIGHT ON TARGET. Why the need to "hide" that you exist if she's simply someone he only "hangs out and smokes weed with?"

 

Look, a 22 year old guy is still a baby. He's nowhere NEAR ready to get married or be in a serious, committed relationship. He's still a boy, emotionally. You're heading for heartache if you think he's ready to get married and that he's suddenly going to stop doing what he's doing. He's got YEARS to go before he's emotionally mature enough.

 

Mark my words.

[Rafaela]

True, seems i am dealing with a child

i tried yesterday till now to not respond to his calls and messages, and i knew that he will come to my house in the evening so i spent an over night in my Gf's place.

i cant believe that he accused me of cheating because i spent an over night out to avoid him.

 

This guy is funny, he is saying that everything was smooth and okey till i had to dig in the past lol means if i didnt dig we would be fine today but i would look like a goof in front of his friends that everyone know about this girl except me.

 

actually he is blaming me for causing this fight!!! Omg