RuinedLife Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 My heart has been in constant agony the whole month since my girlfriend split with me. I miss her so much and I gave her everything, even quit my job to be with her, but she bailed on me because of G.I.G.S. I should hate her for not appreciating just what I'd done, and I am angry for it, but I still love her and would give everything up again to have her back =[ Yes I can relate to this. I invested so much time, money and effort into my relationship and it is hard to accept that someone you loved and still love so much is gone from your life (probably forever). I definitely triggered my break up with my insecurities, and I apologized the best I could for all my mistakes, but in the end I guess my ex bf just doesn't love me enough to try and work through these problems with me. And it really hurts, as I told him how much I loved him and all the different things I'd be willing to try so we could stay together. But he just doesn't want me in his life anymore. Its as simple as that. He doesn't love me enough and he's happier without me. And it really hurts but I have to learn to live with that I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
yulaw911 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Jacksonbrown- your story reminds me of mine as well. When my ex broke up with me i pretty much went nuts and called her every name that came to my head for leaving when i needed her most, especially when i was there for her when she was at her lowest point in life. I guess her threatening things was just what i needed to finally do the whole NC thing. 3 weeks NC so far and am feeling sorta better, so i guess theres some hope afterall.. Link to post Share on other sites
zerovandez Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Hey man, we're somewhat on the same boat. I won't get into my ex and I too much but we were basically married for 10 years, then she up and left, then came back for a month or 2, now is gone again. It hurts man, I know! Just keep NC going. You know deep down it's for the best so stick to it. It can only make you better. I'm on the 3rd week NC although I did see her at a mutual friends birthday party recently. But it didn't effect me as much as I thought it would. As for dating, I scored dates about 2 weeks in after the actual breakup. It was an ego booster for sure. But it didn't feel right because I wasn't over my ex at all. All I did was look for a replacement. It wasn't fair to me and wasn't fair for me to do this to the girl(s) I was dating. So in the end, I worked on myself; Career goals, p90x, insanity, setting daily and long term goals, current events, local events, animals, where I want to go. Start thinking about these things and thoughts of your ex will soon fade or won't be as frequent. Keep at it man. You can do it, we all can do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 23, 2011 Author Share Posted June 23, 2011 So today is day 7 of NC 14 days since I've seen her, I've been feeling better as the days go buy then it happened and i saw her today i was coming out of subway and there she was in the same car park about 50 metres away i know she saw me she put her head down straight away and turned around. then she quickly jumped in her work van, i just jumped in my car and drove past her because thats the way out of the carpark i didn't look at her or nothing just drove past, i'm not sure if she knows i saw her i hope she does, becos i completely ignored her and i want her to know that. It hit me to the heart to see her i couldn't evan eat my subway it completely turned me off my food arhhh she works all around the area that i live so i will constantly see her i'm moving out of my house into a new area in 2 weeks cant wait! seeyin her really hurts it feels like breaking NC almost and i'm starting again HATE IT Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 So today is day 7 of NC 14 days since I've seen her, I've been feeling better as the days go buy then it happened and i saw her today i was coming out of subway and there she was in the same car park about 50 metres away i know she saw me she put her head down straight away and turned around. then she quickly jumped in her work van, i just jumped in my car and drove past her because thats the way out of the carpark i didn't look at her or nothing just drove past, i'm not sure if she knows i saw her i hope she does, becos i completely ignored her and i want her to know that. It hit me to the heart to see her i couldn't evan eat my subway it completely turned me off my food arhhh she works all around the area that i live so i will constantly see her i'm moving out of my house into a new area in 2 weeks cant wait! seeyin her really hurts it feels like breaking NC almost and i'm starting again HATE IT Believe me, you will feel and get better Link to post Share on other sites
mtd4249 Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 jacksonBrown -- know exactly what you mean. It can really turn you off your food and it does hurt no matter how much you deny it or try to put on a front. The wounds are still open and every time the ex has contact (even visual at a distance) it's like salt on the wounds. I had NC with my ex for 2 months up until last Sunday. Unlike you, she moved inter-state so I have no risk of seeing her but she contacts me on FB on Sunday to say she still cares about me and always will .... it would be easier to reconcile her abandoning me for no reason with her hating me! Do you find the "ghosts" of your ex haunt you, no matter how much NC you have? Do you find the memories of your ex and the good times seem to always flash back? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 jacksonBrown -- know exactly what you mean. It can really turn you off your food and it does hurt no matter how much you deny it or try to put on a front. The wounds are still open and every time the ex has contact (even visual at a distance) it's like salt on the wounds. I had NC with my ex for 2 months up until last Sunday. Unlike you, she moved inter-state so I have no risk of seeing her but she contacts me on FB on Sunday to say she still cares about me and always will .... it would be easier to reconcile her abandoning me for no reason with her hating me! Do you find the "ghosts" of your ex haunt you, no matter how much NC you have? Do you find the memories of your ex and the good times seem to always flash back? I do think about her quite alot but i havn't been thinking about the good times we had or pining for her either i just plain think about her and think its a shame it ended this way, i do miss her abit but lately i've been good to myself i dont let myself sit there and think about her constantly anymore, i definatly am moving on but i get set backs when i see her! And it also hurts me to think of her with another guy but i dont let myself go there anymore as long as i dont see her i'm on the road to recovery Link to post Share on other sites
Author jacksonBrown Posted July 11, 2011 Author Share Posted July 11, 2011 Time for an update I'm now officially on 1 month NC with my ex I have thort about her a hell of alot and still do but i just know that she is gone and contacting her will only make it worse so i've stuck to NC and will continue to do so. i dont really feel heart ache anymore over her but i do miss her still, I'm really happy with the way my lifes going at the moment everything is so much better than when we were together all my relationships with family and friends are better than ever i've evan made a few new friends in the process which i never did when i was with my ex, only thing that isn't good is i'm still a little lonely and i miss having a girlfriend but i'm starting to accept life as a single guy and its not so bad time heals all wounds i guess next goal is 3 months NC Link to post Share on other sites
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