HappyPanda Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I posted this in the friendship section, but I think this is the more appropriate forum... Im beginning to really worry about my friend and roommate's health. She's very overweight, approximately 250 lbs at around 5'8", she already has a litany of health problems, including a connective tissue disorder which already puts her at an increased risk for heart disease, among other things. She doesnt eat well, doesnt exercise, drinks alcohol in excess, and to top it all off, she's a nurse... so she obviously knows better. She's so young, only 25 years old, and cant even go for a walk with me in the park, or will drive her car 30 minutes to her parents house to avoid lugging her laundry down 2 flights of stairs in our apartment. Her quality of life is becoming increasingly disturbed by her poor health. Im sure at this rate she's most likely pre-diabetic. She's also suffers from debilitating depression. I love her dearly, and I worry that she's going to get to the point of no return (or, nearly impossible return) How do you tell someone (who probably already knows these things) that you're worried about them? I dont want to make her angry, or embarrass her, but I also feel that its wrong to sit back and watch someone kill themselves without trying to snap them out of it... I feel that sometimes people just need a kick in the pants to take action... But the question is, is it appropriate for me to attempt to be the kick? Link to post Share on other sites
tman666 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Well, if you end up figuring it out, let us know... I have a very good friend who is obese, and I've written him workout programs, tried to teach him the basics of nutrition, taken him to the gym with me, etc. He just can't seem to stick to anything. He'll workout and eat right for a couple months, drop 10-15 lbs, and then go back to his old ways. It's definitely a sad thing, but you have to remember that our friends are big boys/girls. They can make decisions for themselves, including poor ones. It's very difficult to tell someone you're worried about them without coming off as judgmental. The best thing you can do, in my opinion, is to be a good example and try your best to include them. You can't make anyone change though: they have to make changes within themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
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