gaga Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Good day! I've been thinking about this if I really had to post what i feel right now, and I guess my bestfriend is right. I should try and wait for some responses who can relate about this matter. Actually, my ex and I broke up three years ago. But after we broke up, we had been communicating each other for 2 years and a half because it was hard to move on. Until he found a girlfriend and it was i who decide to cut the communication, i changed my number. Moving on was hard bc He was my first love. But just recently, after 8 months of no communication at all, he suddenly texted (which i don't know where he got my number from) me that he hasn't really moved on, that he still has feelings for me. That his gf is just like a friend to him. I thought that i have moved on too, but when he texted that, my heart skip a beat and that's when my misery started again. Then I agreed to talk about it personally, I told him that he has a gf. And he said he knows that too. He told me it was hard for him, that he thinks about me every night. It was hard for me too, but I was slowly coping up, and that txt meassages ruined my effort. Out of the feelings i still have for him, I told him to broke up with his gf and we could be together again. But I can sense from the way he replied that he want us together again but he can't broke up with his gf. And i was hurt, I'm in hell right now, I don't know what to do... please help me... would i win him back or let him and his gf be? or would i change my number again? Link to post Share on other sites
replicator Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I don't think it'd be right if it your pleading that pulls them apart. Still, I really empathize with you. It's been about 3.5 years for me since I split with my ex of ten years (we met first year of Univ). I still think of her every day, and although I have had another gf for two years now, I still fantasize about meeting her again. Crazy as it sounds - I still miss her (NC since), and not sure that will ever change. In love - there are no rules.. Anything is fair game. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gaga Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 I know it was so cruel for me to ask him do that. I just don't know what to do, i want him back too. And I could see he wants me back too, but just a thought, if he really does love me, he would let his gf understand, he should choose 1 among us. It seems like he wants to keep both of us, and i don't like the idea of it... I begged of him not to text me again but he just wont do it, and one thing I am so confused of is that 3 days ago, he was so miserable that he wanted to be with me. And now, he wanted us to be just friends. See? that makes me a little crazy this time. Anyway, thanks replicator for the reply. I guess it's true that first love never dies, he was my first bf and i never had new relationship after him. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 hes playing games with you and stringing you along. If he really wanted you, he would break up with his gf right now and go back to you. Go back to NC and dont break it Link to post Share on other sites
replicator Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Hey gaga... I think based on his actions, you should move on. It may sound cruel, but if he wanted to be back with you, he wouldn't be trying to play both sides. Your post makes me wonder what would happen if my ex was to ask me to leave my gf. She too was the first and only girl that I ever loved. If she ever came back to me, I'm not sure what I would do. I've never gotten over her, so I'm probably not the best person to give advice on this. I think NC is the way to go... You guys broke up for a reason - that being there is someone out there who is better for you. Appreciate all the good things you shared, and the lessons learned, but keep your eyes looking forward. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gaga Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 thank you guys for ur views... i'l try not to have communication with him... or atleast not reply everytime he texts me... Link to post Share on other sites
california15 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 do or do not. There is no try. - Yoda Not really into star wars - only seen 1 or 2 movies but I'll never forget this quote. It helps. Link to post Share on other sites
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