speaking to my ex

[tom_gbr]

i said i would give my ex a call sometime this week...( i think everyone knows about my relationship...i have threads in the coping and second chances sections )....i want to chat about how her easter has been and how shes doing..also i want to show her that im moving on and getting on with life.

 

i have a lot to talk about...ive got a new job in a bar and ive joined a gym which im going to everyday which i want to tell her about.

 

im just going to try and have a phone conversation like we always used to have...im just going to be my usual funny talkative self which i think what she needs right now as we havent had any contact in over two weeks.

 

the last time i spoke to her the conversation was great and i think it made her miss me...im hoping this will happen this time as well...that was just over two weeks ago.

 

i think she will be suprised with my new job and the fact that a joined a gym as i never got round to it when i was seeing her.

 

im hoping that she will realise that i have become a stronger and better person since the break up and i know its very unlikely but im also hoping she might start to miss me more and want to keep in contact with me more if she knows im moving on without her. maybe one day want me back in her life.

 

this may be a bad question to ask but from other peoples personal experience on speakin to there ex if they ever changed there mind about breaking up with you what was it that turned them around and wanted you back?

[Arabess]

I would think the only time a person would go back into a relationship is if they realized they made a mistake. I don't think you can convince them of that fact. They would have to come into that opinion out their own choice.

 

If it'll make you feel better to call....then call her. Don't let your expectations over-ride the other possibility though. She may not AT ALL respond the way you are hoping she will. Don't let it the situation cut deeper into your heart than it already has.

 

Good Luck Tom. Make sure to post and let us know how it goes.

[tom_gbr]

yeah im going to call with that in my mind...that she might be non talkative and very distant. im hoping that wont happen...i havent had any proper contact with her at all since the mistake with the text messages ( see other threads )...which was about two weeks ago.

 

she knows that i still love her and really missing her so this has been hard on me.

 

ive shown that i can give her space which is what she wants...apart from the drunken message the other night but that wasnt bad or anything i just said that i hope she is ok and that if its ok ill speak to her sometime in the week.

 

i think she can probably see that i respect her and that im stronger now. at the end of the day i want her to be happy.

 

even if it doesnt get her back in my life as a girlfriend im hoping that she will be happy to contact me and speak to me if she ever feels like it...thats important to me...i would hate to think that i would loose my first love completely as she means the world to me

[YssaBoo]

Good luck Tom!! It will be hard,but you can do it. My ex and I email at least twice a day,unless we see each other,but it took an email of do you want me in your life or not and not to be your friend. He replied and didn't have to and told me I had grown since the b/u. we are becoming closer and I hope for the day of a second chance,and I know it will happen.Sound very happy on the phone,but inquire on how she is doing and see where that takes you.Good Luck!!

[tom_gbr]

yeah im planning to be as upbeat and happy as possible...i'll make sure i find out how she is and if she tells me that shes been out getting drunk a lot or whatever ill make sure i dont sound bothered or anything.

 

im hoping ill catch her at a good time where she has some time to speak to me...it would be bad if i called when she was about to do some coursework or something.

 

thanks for the good luck guys! ill be ok