al8man Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 rewind 3 months ago. i noticed that my bosses daughter in-law was hitting on me. just kind of saying i'm cute and stuff. i didn't think anything of it other than as a compliment (she said it in front of a lot of people). this continued on about once a week for about... well until about two weeks ago when it really got out of hands. usually everyone that i work with or who ever feels like it will go out and have a few drinks after work on Fridays. I did say bosses daughter in-law (shes married). she is insecure with her marriage, she made that very clear over and over. anyways after we had both been drinking too much i said i would take her home which she had insisted anyways. once we were on our way she said she wanted to drive around, and then you can guess what happened next. i would like to make it clear that i did not try make this happen but i kind of let it happen. i am not sure what i should do. any advice would be helpful Link to post Share on other sites
lovinglife12 Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 ughh thats ugly right there....ur bosses daughter?? Now you might have to chose between your job or the girl....remember shes married and if she didn't want to be she wouldn't still be married... Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 You're kidding right? Build a time machine... Nothing you can do. You crossed a huge line. No going back now. You are effed. Seriously, I'm amazed that some people think they can do whatever they want then expect to be able to snake out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author al8man Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 daughter in-law. she came on to me after i was drunk/she was drunk. i didn't want this to happen. although like i said i kind of seen it coming but there is no way i would have ever put the moves on her. she did that all by herself Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 daughter in-law. she came on to me after i was drunk/she was drunk. i didn't want this to happen. although like i said i kind of seen it coming but there is no way i would have ever put the moves on her. she did that all by herself No need for excuses. You can't control her actions. But you can control yours. Like I said, effed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author al8man Posted June 21, 2011 Author Share Posted June 21, 2011 your right i ****ed up. how should i go about this without losing my job / deal with it emotionally. i woke up and realized what i did and was wondering wtf. i do feel guilty. there wont be anymore friday night binge drinking Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 your right i ****ed up. how should i go about this without losing my job / deal with it emotionally. i woke up and realized what i did and was wondering wtf. i do feel guilty. there wont be anymore friday night binge drinking Oh, give me a BREAK, will ya? You woke UP and realized what you'd done? Yet you were able to drive that car all over hell and creation and get home safely the night before - yet you didn't know what you'd done until the next morning? Own your sh*t. You knew DAMNED well what you were doing the SECOND you agreed to give this woman a ride. And isn't she a class act, a married woman having drunken sex in some guy's car. What a pig. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 your right i ****ed up Since you're owning your actions I won't lecture you. The others have done enough of that I think How do you want to proceed? Do you want to continue a relationship with her or do you want to end it? Is she likely to cause trouble, ie. tell her dad and (try to) get you fired? Is she likely to try to blackmail you, ie. "repeat performance or I'll tell my dad"? What size company do you work for and how is the HR department? Is there someone there you can talk to in confidence? Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Start sending out resumes for other jobs. It will be a matter of time until this blows up in your face. Probably she will be drunk and gets into a fight with the husband and tells him. The husband tells his dad and it is over for you. She now has you under her thumb. You are totally screwed. There is nothing you can do. Start looking for another job. Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 I second Bryan---start looking for another job----plus you just might have a very unhappy H., looking for you, and if this were to end up in D., the father is gonna want your hide, for having to put out alimony, chil-support, and 50% of his, sons, assets, to the woman you just screwed, basically, you could be the cause of all of it You better think from now on bfore you pull your tool out of your pants!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Since you're owning your actions I won't lecture you. The others have done enough of that I think Hah, c'mon. I'm not lecturing him. The guy has dug himself into a ditch. He is effed (third time's the charm). Prepare to leave your job. You're essentially the daughter's slave now. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 rewind 3 months ago. i noticed that my bosses daughter in-law was hitting on me. just kind of saying i'm cute and stuff. i didn't think anything of it other than as a compliment (she said it in front of a lot of people). this continued on about once a week for about... well until about two weeks ago when it really got out of hands. usually everyone that i work with or who ever feels like it will go out and have a few drinks after work on Fridays. I did say bosses daughter in-law (shes married). she is insecure with her marriage, she made that very clear over and over. anyways after we had both been drinking too much i said i would take her home which she had insisted anyways. once we were on our way she said she wanted to drive around, and then you can guess what happened next. i would like to make it clear that i did not try make this happen but i kind of let it happen. i am not sure what i should do. any advice would be helpful REALLY? Come on dude. I agree with the others, dust off that resume. Link to post Share on other sites
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