here4her Posted June 21, 2011 Share Posted June 21, 2011 Been seeing someone for 5 months, ups and downs no fighting, we got along great but times she would seem distant. introduced kids 4 months into it they got along great. She really grew on me, and I tried to show it, but often felt forgotten about.. She'd tell me hang in there.. She had a 7 month old baby who is from a guy who was having a affair, she got pregnant he went back with his wife, spent no time with his daughter dont pay support, ect.. I treated her like she was mine, spent 400 times more time with her then her own father. The girl tells me she isn't feeling spark but wanted to keep trying, then just doesnt contact me for 3 days. I saw she changed her fb profile to single, I sent her a message, she replies saying shes sorry but she isnt feeling spark and cheated on me with the babies dad a couple times a couple months back. I guess she needed to clear her conscious to make her feel better but now Im even more hurt. I'm not really sure how to stop thinking about it.. I know I deserve better, and can find someone else, but it doesn't help take away the hurt, and disappointment. Link to post Share on other sites
nikkinicole36 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Wow, what you are going through is pretty awful. But I and most others will tell you to go no contact. You need to heal and move on from this woman. It sounds like she was using you as a place holder since she couldn't be with the married dude. She isn't really worth the headache. Start focusing on you and your children and all the things you have going in your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author here4her Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 Thanks for the reply. It hurt when she told me, we had words back and forth. She apologized over and over again, but it doesn't change anything. I don't know why I care so much about her, I been with people for longer times and had no issues letting go. I'm angry at what she did, I'm very angry I bought her baby formula cause she didnt have any and he refuses to pay anything, yet at sometime made his way over there to get with her. I strongly believe in once a cheater always a cheater, I believe she cheated in other relationships she had. yet part of me really misses her. I really gave it my all and strongly believe if she wasnt sleeping with him she would have a very different outlook on her feelings for me. I have deleted her from my phone, facebook, ect.. so I wouldn't be able to contact her, I know I could easily get in touch with her even after that, but I think me having to go through the hassle will give me enough time to remember why I did it. today I had to tell my kids that she got a new job and is moving, which broke my sons heart cause he called her son his best friend. Trying to tie up all the loose ends cause of someone Else's immature actions isn't all that fair. Especially when I put so much into it trying to make it work Link to post Share on other sites
nikkinicole36 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 That's the hardest part. Trying to let go and move forward with your life. It never seems to make sense why people do what they do. In their own mind they have some twisted logic that makes sense to them and sometimes only them. I really think in her case she is just so hung up on this married guy that she never really gave the relationship with you fair go. We always seem to want what we can't have. It's almost a truly sick way of living, as there are so many people out there that are so unhappy. It sounds like you really opened yourself up to her, but unfortunately she wasn't the right person for you. It is so hard letting go, but you have to find a way to now take care of yourself. She has a number of obvious issues she needs to work out, but only she can do that for herself. You just have to find a way to do it for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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