Author AmericanHoney Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 Thank you Nexxus exactly my point. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I went on a few dates and I thought we hit it off but now he wants sex and I told him i'm not that kind of girl and he said aww you don't want me?? I said I do but not in the form of sex and he just doesn't get it. So, stop dating him! If he likes you, he'll make more of an effort to get to know you and not try to have sex with you. The guy sounds like a player, so I say, dump him and find someone else who will treat you better and with respect. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 (edited) Did you tell your cousin you gave him oral? So, stop dating him! If he likes you, he'll make more of an effort to get to know you and not try to have sex with you. The guy sounds like a player, so I say, dump him and find someone else who will treat you better and with respect. I'm not so sure who "the player" is here anymore. It is fine that you don't want to have sex with him "ANYMORE"! but you did have sex with him. What am I missing here? You say that you flirt a lot, talk dirty, (whatever that means), and you had oral sex with him. Okay, is this all pretty much accurate? You ALWAYS have the right to say no and he needs to respect that or loose the jerk. BUT; if all the a fore mentioned is true, don't come off like he's a complete jerk and your completely Innocent here. You don't get to send mixed signals and then call him the jerk for being confused. Edited June 22, 2011 by oldguy Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 I understand what you are saying oldguy I really do. I guess I did give out mixed signals. I just want to know if he really likes me or just wants to use me for sex. He said he is attracted to me ( could be a player move) Honest opinions here about this guy is he a player?? How do I honestly detect a player?? Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Honest opinions here about this guy is he a player?? How do I honestly detect a player?? I don't think I've seen enough evidence to say that he's a player. He certainly wants sex, but whether that's all he wants is harder to tell. If you find him attractive I suggest dating him but not going near the bedroom (perhaps even not going back to your/his home at all) for a few dates to get to know him better. If alcohol is likely to make things escalate (again) then stay off that, too. If he just wants sex then there's a good chance (but not a certainty) that he'll get bored and stop calling you. Consider waiting until you're in an exclusive relationship before going back to the bedroom. Players don't generally do commitment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted June 23, 2011 Author Share Posted June 23, 2011 I think I am going to cut the strings. He wants to move faster and wants more sex and yes while I did do things which I do regret it's better I gain my dignity back and date someone who won't keep pressuring me for sex. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 We all live learn & grow a little better with each new experience. Link to post Share on other sites
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