Why do guys use HORRIBLE pickup lines?

[irc333]

I still think he used the pick up line because the OP was looking in his direction quite a bit. How could she say she was unaware of them and be able to describe them so well?

 

Furthermore, this guy had no intentions to pick up the OP. He just wanted to make a joke about his two balls. Interestingly I suspect the OP was flattered by the approach.

 

 

Right, she's just asking like it's stupid , but she probalby thought itwas cute.....just posted to complain about it here.

[RepairMinded]

Right, she's just asking like it's stupid , but she probalby thought itwas cute.....just posted to complain about it here.

 

It's stupid if the girl doesn't think the guy who said it was attractive enough.

 

If she thinks he's attractive enough, then he can say any foul things he wants, and the girl will consider him witty.

 

What the OP is really complaining about, if you look about half a layer below the surface, is that making an overtly sexual, if humorous, comment like that showed he wasn't about to put her on a pedestal. In her mind, as soon as she saw these two guys, she thought: "Loser." Nevertheless she didn't mind some male attention on a boring night, even if the guy was never going to get anywhere. It's a good way to pass the time, boost the ego, and maybe get a free drink or two.

 

Instead what this guy did was pretty much the equivalent of saying: "Hey you look like a total teasing bar slut who thinks that she's better than I am--despite the fact that we're both here in the exact same place, and we're both equally lacking in opposite-sex companionship--and therefore I am going to deliberately say something totally disrespectful to you just to get you angry."

 

He was "negging" her as the PUAs like to say.

 

And it actually worked, which is why she's posting about it here. He planted the seed in her mind that his social value is higher than hers, or at least equal to hers, and it bugs her no end.

 

The sale isn't always made on the first attempt. Sometimes it takes four or five or maybe more.

 

But there will be other lonely evenings for OP, and there's probably a pretty good chance of her running into this same guy again.

 

Let's wait until then to reserve final judgment, shall we?

[irc333]

VERY good point, this reminds me of the TV Show ELIMINIDATE it was down to 2 guys.

 

One was a gentleman, the other was not.

 

There were both in a hot tub talking, the jerkwad decided to be spontaneous, take his swim trunks off, and wave his penis in her face.....I thought for sure..."Well, guess who is eliminated out of the running."

 

But, I was dead wrong.

 

Guess who she picked??

 

 

 

It's stupid if the girl doesn't think the guy who said it was attractive enough.

 

If she thinks he's attractive enough, then he can say any foul things he wants, and the girl will consider him witty.

 

What the OP is really complaining about, if you look about half a layer below the surface, is that making an overtly sexual, if humorous, comment like that showed he wasn't about to put her on a pedestal. In her mind, as soon as she saw these two guys, she thought: "Loser." Nevertheless she didn't mind some male attention on a boring night, even if the guy was never going to get anywhere. It's a good way to pass the time, boost the ego, and maybe get a free drink or two.

 

Instead what this guy did was pretty much the equivalent of saying: "Hey you look like a total teasing bar slut who thinks that she's better than I am--despite the fact that we're both here in the exact same place, and we're both equally lacking in opposite-sex companionship--and therefore I am going to deliberately say something totally disrespectful to you just to get you angry."

 

He was "negging" her as the PUAs like to say.

 

And it actually worked, which is why she's posting about it here. He planted the seed in her mind that his social value is higher than hers, or at least equal to hers, and it bugs her no end.

 

The sale isn't always made on the first attempt. Sometimes it takes four or five or maybe more.

 

But there will be other lonely evenings for OP, and there's probably a pretty good chance of her running into this same guy again.

 

Let's wait until then to reserve final judgment, shall we?

[samspade]

A line or move is only as good as the guy delivering it. Women can smell confidence (or lack thereof) a mile away. George Clooney using the "two balls" line gets in her pants by the end of the night. A guy who's trying to hard to be clever, or is already too drunk, has c0ckblocked himself well before he opens his mouth.

 

It also depends on the options a woman has. A 45-year-old cougar is more likely to play along with sophomoric repartee. She must, after all, market her sexuality more boldly to compete with younger women. A younger and more attractive woman is more likely to be repelled by frat boy humor.

[SomewhatExperienced]

As a guy, I'd like to say that this guy does not represent the regular male population.

 

I will say that this is analogous to a drunk girl coming up a pushing her ass into your crotch and hanging off you just to get your attention. It happens, and it has happened to me without my invitation and it is equally as annoying.

[Lilmisus]

I still think he used the pick up line because the OP was looking in his direction quite a bit. How could she say she was unaware of them and be able to describe them so well?

 

Furthermore, this guy had no intentions to pick up the OP. He just wanted to make a joke about his two balls. Interestingly I suspect the OP was flattered by the approach.

 

 

Right, she's just asking like it's stupid , but she probalby thought itwas cute.....just posted to complain about it here.

 

It's stupid if the girl doesn't think the guy who said it was attractive enough.

 

If she thinks he's attractive enough, then he can say any foul things he wants, and the girl will consider him witty.

 

What the OP is really complaining about, if you look about half a layer below the surface, is that making an overtly sexual, if humorous, comment like that showed he wasn't about to put her on a pedestal. In her mind, as soon as she saw these two guys, she thought: "Loser." Nevertheless she didn't mind some male attention on a boring night, even if the guy was never going to get anywhere. It's a good way to pass the time, boost the ego, and maybe get a free drink or two.

 

Instead what this guy did was pretty much the equivalent of saying: "Hey you look like a total teasing bar slut who thinks that she's better than I am--despite the fact that we're both here in the exact same place, and we're both equally lacking in opposite-sex companionship--and therefore I am going to deliberately say something totally disrespectful to you just to get you angry."

 

He was "negging" her as the PUAs like to say.

 

And it actually worked, which is why she's posting about it here. He planted the seed in her mind that his social value is higher than hers, or at least equal to hers, and it bugs her no end.

 

The sale isn't always made on the first attempt. Sometimes it takes four or five or maybe more.

 

But there will be other lonely evenings for OP, and there's probably a pretty good chance of her running into this same guy again.

 

Let's wait until then to reserve final judgment, shall we?

 

 

So the verdict is that I was flattered and that I actually appreciated the attention?

 

Not a chance, people.

 

Here's the thing: I have anxiety issues that I'm still working out. I don't like getting hit on. It makes me feel anxious and nervous. So why on Earth would I be flattered that a dude would say something along those lines to me? Why would I even try to encourage it? If he was cute..and seemed nice, then maybe..but yeah, they were neither. I went to that bar to play pool, and to only play pool. Chose that bar because it's typically dead there, especially at 6:30. I'm going again tonight...not to get a guy, but to play pool. I'm fine without the attention, and actually prefer it, believe it or not.

[alethean]

I probably would have laughed. I don't know if I would have gone out with him. But kudos to him for having the balls (umm...yeah) to say that line.

[oldguy]

Ugh, this would have been great for a witty reply

 

"No but you may want to check your friend's mouth"

 

LOL, that is great, I love it.

 

I don't think I do this myself, but I suspect the short answer is because sometimes it works and it's a less boring opener than "hi, my name is Oaks. What's yours?"

Yup, I just wrote about this earlier. Back in my college days there was a guy who would approach women at a club and shortly into the conversation suggest sex. He would get slapped often, beaten up regularly but left with the girl often.

 

They even write songs about lines. The most memorable one for me was, "if I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me". I have to admit I'll say that to my wife once in awhile to make her laugh & to get a hug

[Enchanted Girl]

Best pick up line:

 

"If you play your cards right you can have me."

 

It depends on the girl. Literally, no line works universally.

 

I already said this and it counts for this line, too. When a guy puts me down in any way (which that lines expresses that a guy thinks he's better than me), I immediately reject him. Guys who try to pull these kind of lines are usually horrible boyfriends (no offense).

 

In fact, I get turned off when my own boyfriend does this. One day, my boyfriend got all cocky and was like,"LOL. I'm such a stud. You love me so much. You're lucky to be with me." I left the room and when he followed me, I told him not to have any more of those moments out loud if he wanted me to remain attracted to him.

[Feelsgoodman]

Why do women love to complain and attention whore so much? I mean, was this little "two ball incident" really worth starting a thread over?

 

It doesn't even sound like the guy was seriously trying to pick you up. He was drunk, made a crude joke and had a bit of fun at your expense. Sh*t happens, deal with it.

[Art_Critic]

Why do women love to complain and attention whore so much? I mean, was this little "two ball incident" really worth starting a thread over?

 

It doesn't even sound like the guy was seriously trying to pick you up. He was drunk, made a crude joke and had a bit of fun at your expense. Sh*t happens, deal with it.

 

I'm guessing then by your tone that you have used the drunken lost ball pickup line yourself, which is why you are trying to grab some of that attention that you accuse the OP of seeking..

[grkBoy]

I'd like to hope that guys aren't that stupid to think those lines work.

 

I'd more believe they knew they would be shot down, but would use that moment as an opening. So they say the line, get the laughs, make fun of themselves, get into convo, buy a few drinks, and later go home with her number.

 

Let's get real, in bars and social situations, people have their guard up. It's tough for a guy to cold approach a girl unless she's handed him a great opening. So they'll go for even the lame ideas just to get an opening.

[Feelsgoodman]

I'm guessing then by your tone that you have used the drunken lost ball pickup line yourself, which is why you are trying to grab some of that attention that you accuse the OP of seeking..

Start making sense, por favor.

[irc333]

I was wonderingn, wouldn't just asking to team up for the game be better than just making some joke about one's genetils work better?

[Lilmisus]

I was wonderingn, wouldn't just asking to team up for the game be better than just making some joke about one's genetils work better?

 

Yup, probably

[chuckles11]

I was wonderingn, wouldn't just asking to team up for the game be better than just making some joke about one's genetils work better?

 

Of course it is. Though, honestly, I find it hard to believe that this guy thought that making a joke about his balls was the most successful way to pick up the OP. When guys do stuff like this, it's because they've decided that making their friends laugh is as or more important than actually picking up the girl.

[Art_Critic]

Start making sense, por favor.

 

Okay.. stop being an attention whore on the OP's thread ... better ??

[LadyFlame]

I get that every day (except days when I look so pissed off guys don't dare approach me.) I wouldn't take it seriously? Especially if he's drunk; guys hit on anything when they're drunk. Beer goggles syndrome.