sadloverr2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 long story short I played with fire and got burned took everything for granted....ended up hurting the most important person in my life ( never intended to do so intentionally. Alcohol and too much fun got caught up. I came clean and i know i can never lie, We are going to work it out. I have never been in this situation in my entire life. What are my chances of survival because I do want to spend the rest of my life with this person ( Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 The most important person in your life is you, because you will spend the rest of your life with you, so you better get to liking yourself. Ask yourself this, "would I date me?" and see how you measure up to your own standards. If you don't, seek help in improving yourself. Want to tell us some more about what happened? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sadloverr2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 wasnt quite the response i was looking for but you do present a valid point. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 What happened? Link to post Share on other sites
OldOnTheInside Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Let me guess: you went to a party, got drunk, had sex with another guy (I'm getting the vibe that you are a girl, feel free to correct me), confessed to your bf, and now you're trying to work things out. ^Is that at all accurate. If it isn't, say more, because what you have now is quite vague. Anyway, the chances of survival really depend a lot on your partner's personality. You want forgiveness right? But what does s/he really want? And even if your partner wants to work things out...it may not end up happening. Think about how hard it is to regain trust. Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 long story short I played with fire and got burned took everything for granted....ended up hurting the most important person in my life ( never intended to do so intentionally. Alcohol and too much fun got caught up. I came clean and i know i can never lie, We are going to work it out. I have never been in this situation in my entire life. What are my chances of survival because I do want to spend the rest of my life with this person ( I'm guessing you are female and that you are speaking about a boyfriend rather than a husband. Either way, if the two of you do not have children together than the statistics really don't matter. Reconciliation after infidelity is the hardest thing the two of you will ever try, and I don't think it's worth the hell unless you have children. No matter what it feels like now, it's going to get worse. When your guy starts having mental images of you screwing the other man he will begin to hate you. When he has time to think about your lies and the apparent ease of your cheating, he will hate you. When you are 5 minutes late to something or there is a strange number on your cell phone he will become frantic and it will trigger the horrible memories. Do you really want to put in all the work it takes to get to a place where he can even begin to trust you again? Remember, this could take years, and you can't make it better for him any faster. His recovery is just that; his recovery. Do the smart thing here - split up and learn from your mistakes. Link to post Share on other sites
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