snug.bunny Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 (edited) Question for the LS members. What is the longest relationship you've been in and why/how did it end. And of course, those that are still together, how long? Edited June 22, 2011 by snug.bunny
Damien Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Longest I've been in so far was 3 years. She dumped me for a guy she's been friends with for a long time. End of the day, it was a learning experience and I'm actually glad I went through this at a young age.
P&R Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 3.5 years. It ended because of the fact she lived 6 thousand miles away. I didn't get to see her for 2 years, and attraction faded. Plane tickets costed 2,000 dollars.... Being their usually costed an extra 2,000, she couldn't come up here either.
Renard99 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Longest was 7 and a half years. It ended with her going cold on me all of a sudden, her behaviour changing and then finally, a short while after that I got the 'I don't love you anymore' speech. Classic GIGS. Hit me like a ton of bricks
Citizen Erased Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 5 years. It ended as I required more than he was capable of giving me.
OpenBook Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 6 years. Ended in a nasty divorce. It was my first serious relationship and I married him. Huge mistake. None of my subsequent relationships have lasted quite that long. Guess I'm just not cut out for the "lifetime mate" thing. Why are you asking?
Pyro Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 3.5 years. Overall she became uninteresting to me and that affected many aspects of our relationship, which lead to a mutual breakup. OMG a guy who gets bored in a relationship. That never happens.
USMCHokie Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 ~6 months... The reason doesn't matter; she left.
tigressA Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 1 year, 10 months. I broke up with him because I didn't care about the relationship enough to work on it. None of my other relationships have lasted even 6 months (in all but one I was the dumper...I got bored), though I think my current one will go the distance.
Finch Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Longest previous relationship was about two and a half years, but my current is now at about that same amount of time. The previous one ended for many reasons including insufficient communication and immaturity on both parts.
iris219 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 I experience the curse of the 4 year relationship: I've had 3 that lasted that long. The significant thing is, they all should have ended before 4 yrs. High school bf: by age 20 & 21 we had outgrown each. We weren't growing or experiencing the world as individuals (typical reason hs relationships end) First live-in bf: he was awesome, probably one of most fantastic people I know, but I loved him like a brother. I stayed for 4 yrs hoping it was enough or that I'd start to feel differently, but I never did. Last relationship was off & on for 4 years or so. We'd end up back together because there are very few options for singles over 24 in the town I'm in. He was emotionally uuavailable and I finally realized I was more lonely with him than alone.
tigressA Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 I experience the curse of the 4 year relationship: I've had 3 that lasted that long. The significant thing is, they all should have ended before 4 yrs. That was exactly what my longest relationship was like. It shouldn't have gone beyond 4 months.
iris219 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 21 years of being together, 18 years of marriage. It ended when he died in a car accident. Current relationship is 6 months and going well. I'm so sorry this happened. So tragic. I can't imagine how painful this must have been. Did it take you awhile to be able to date?
iris219 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 That was exactly what my longest relationship was like. It shouldn't have gone beyond 4 months. Yes, it's easy to get stuck in something that's not working simply because you're used to it. I'm single at 32 because I wasted so much time on relationships that I knew were wrong for me and knew would eventually end. I'm kicking myself now. It was a hard lesson that took me way longer to learn than it should have, but I think I finally get it!
Ruby Slippers Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 3 1/2 years. It ended because I never felt a strong connection to him, and we did not click sexually. We kept trying to work on it because everything else was so great. If I knew then what I know now, I probably would have broken it off after a few months tops.
Cee Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 4.5 years. He was a great love and I could have stayed with him for life. However, life had more lessons in store for me. Such as learning to love myself independently of a man.
Author snug.bunny Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 I'm so sorry this happened. So tragic. I can't imagine how painful this must have been. Did it take you awhile to be able to date? Agreed. God Bless. Openbook, I was just curious to read other people's experiences and what attributes to a break-up and/or what attributes for those currently still together (though perhaps there are few contained on this forum). Thanks to those that contributed, if there are any more stories, keep them coming!
Author snug.bunny Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 We had this 5 wonderful years of relationship. He was an army. He died in a battle. Its was so hard. Sorry as well. Not that anyone's experience is more/less than others, but losing someone like that must be especially difficult and life altering.
Lady vs Panda Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 I've had two relationships that lasted two years. The first one was in college, and I ended it soon after we graduated, because I felt like I was outgrowing him. He wanted to party and he moved back in with his parents, and I was serious about grad school and career. Fork in the road. The second one we both ended because my work was sending me to a different country, and he was starting med school. A LDR just didn't seem possible with the time difference and the kind of hours he was going to be putting in. Fork in the road.
NoReallyThatHappened Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 A little over 2.5 years (though I consistently hit over the two year mark). It ended because he was in med school and I got a big fellowship to move to the other side of the world. When I came back I did not want to pursue graduate studies at his school. So I left him. He was a great guy though!
ColdFox Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 A little over 4.5 years, we were married. It ended when he died suddenly, while we were expecting our baby. I haven't been able to date seriously since then, though I started coming here trying to figure out if I was ready again. I had a couple of one or two year relationships before I met my husband but they ended because the love just wasn't right.
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