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Nice one, so what are you planning next? I had no reply.... :0(

 

Im not planning to do anything...Im just letting it be and see what happens. Like you said I gotta let him do the chasing so we'll see but I don't want to get excited for nothing so Im just going to continue to work on myself and keep it moving.

 

Stick with NC Dreamscape, if shes not responding then stick with it.

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well I sure hope it works out well for you.... keep me posted what happens....

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well I sure hope it works out well for you.... keep me posted what happens....

 

 

Thanks Dreamscape.

 

How you doing feeling this morning?

 

Im not feeling too well I keep having this stupid dreams and it keeps me up at night.

I know I need to let him contact me but what if he doesnt??? thats what I am so freaking scared of right now.

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Thanks Dreamscape.

 

How you doing feeling this morning?

 

Im not feeling too well I keep having this stupid dreams and it keeps me up at night.

I know I need to let him contact me but what if he doesnt??? thats what I am so freaking scared of right now.

 

 

Well, if he does not contact you, you know where you stand.... I just read another post that said, " if you ex wanted to be with you or wanted you back, they would try and move mountains to make that happen " ... In yours and my situation, this is true I guess..... Is yours, or my ex reaching out to us now? No, and thats the painful truth... They are not going out of their ways to make things work for us....

 

Today I feel low still.. My ex is still the main thought on my mind... The last 2 nights i also have had dreams, where things worked out great for me and my ex, but then i woke up :0(....

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Well, if he does not contact you, you know where you stand.... I just read another post that said, " if you ex wanted to be with you or wanted you back, they would try and move mountains to make that happen " ... In yours and my situation, this is true I guess..... Is yours, or my ex reaching out to us now? No, and thats the painful truth... They are not going out of their ways to make things work for us....

 

Today I feel low still.. My ex is still the main thought on my mind... The last 2 nights i also have had dreams, where things worked out great for me and my ex, but then i woke up :0(....

 

U read that too on another post.

Yea I need we need to face that if they really want us they would be with us.

It is the painful truth..thats for sure!

 

Yea, today sucks for me too. I don't regret texting him to begin with but just wish I could hear a lil more you know.

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U read that too on another post.

Yea I need we need to face that if they really want us they would be with us.

It is the painful truth..thats for sure!

 

Yea, today sucks for me too. I don't regret texting him to begin with but just wish I could hear a lil more you know.

 

 

It sure is the painful truth . My ex was telling me she would always love me for ever, and she missed me and that was under 2 weeks ago.... now she wont reply... and to me, that makes no sense... why talk to me at first, and not now???. I also dont regret making contact, as it shows I tried ......

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It sure is the painful truth . My ex was telling me she would always love me for ever, and she missed me and that was under 2 weeks ago.... now she wont reply... and to me, that makes no sense... why talk to me at first, and not now???. I also dont regret making contact, as it shows I tried ......

 

Yea that doesnt make sense to me either.

 

I havnt heard his voice in 4 weeks and im dying to hear his voice but for now I gotta just take the reply he sent by text and thats it.

 

I know if I do call him he will pick up but I dont want to be the one chasing. I already said how I felt over the texts the other day and that should be enough to him.

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Yea that doesnt make sense to me either.

 

I havnt heard his voice in 4 weeks and im dying to hear his voice but for now I gotta just take the reply he sent by text and thats it.

 

I know if I do call him he will pick up but I dont want to be the one chasing. I already said how I felt over the texts the other day and that should be enough to him.

 

 

That is the exact point, in both our cases.. Our ex`s know exactly how we feel, but they have still not reached out, so they cant be that keen. If the roles were reversed, I would do everything I could to make things work, and also in this situation I have tried everything, but it has made no difference....

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That is the exact point, in both our cases.. Our ex`s know exactly how we feel, but they have still not reached out, so they cant be that keen. If the roles were reversed, I would do everything I could to make things work, and also in this situation I have tried everything, but it has made no difference....

 

I get what you mean, its true though...they ain't stupid they know exactly how we feel and what we want.

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I get what you mean, its true though...they ain't stupid they know exactly how we feel and what we want.

 

and it gives them power to be in that position.....

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and it gives them power to be in that position.....

 

Yea it sure does.

I can't start thinking thats theres hope when he hasnt done much at all to get in contact with me or anything. I gotta just take it for what it is and continue to do me and focus on me.

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Yea it sure does.

I can't start thinking thats theres hope when he hasnt done much at all to get in contact with me or anything. I gotta just take it for what it is and continue to do me and focus on me.

 

 

Exactly right, and same here too... The painful truth is, that if they really wanted to be here, they would be.... simple as that... It is really hard to accept , but that is how cruel life is sometimes.. I find it almost impossible to believe that my ex is not in my life anymore after all the good times and things we have done and been through together, but I need to face the fact , that is the way it now is....

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Exactly right, and same here too... The painful truth is, that if they really wanted to be here, they would be.... simple as that... It is really hard to accept , but that is how cruel life is sometimes.. I find it almost impossible to believe that my ex is not in my life anymore after all the good times and things we have done and been through together, but I need to face the fact , that is the way it now is....

 

So I texted him again yesterday....I know it wasnt a smart move but I was about to call him but since it was 4th of July I know he had to be out donig something with his friends.

 

I texted him telling him "Happy 4th of July and to give me a call when he gets a chance becuz Ive been wanting to hear his voice"

 

He replied by saying "Happy 4th to you too and I will call you tomorrow"

 

Now I just feel stupid but I wanted him to be the one to contact me but I guess I just couldnt control myself.

 

Now lets see if he calls and what he says if he does.....UGH Im so mad at myself right now.

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why did he not call you when you asked him, why not till the next day ?

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why did he not call you when you asked him, why not till the next day ?

 

 

Thats the thing... I have no clue.

I did just say call me when you get a chance cuz I want to hear your voice but maybe he was out at a 4th of July event or something.

He gets out of work within the next 2 hours so he might call me then but it just made me feel horrible when he told me I'll call you tomorrow.

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Well, let me know how it goes.What ever happens, i hope its what you want and does not set you back at all...

 

I still had no reply after all this time :0(, but my ex does work at sea, so i guess its possible she is away, although that is me just clinging onto false hope i expect...

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It sure is the painful truth . My ex was telling me she would always love me

for ever, and she missed me and that was under 2 weeks ago.... now she wont

reply... and to me, that makes no sense... why talk to me at first, and not

now???. I also dont regret making contact, as it shows I tried ......

 

I was actually going to make a post about this type of stuff, its like the million dollar question. I have always wondered how someone can say those things, and they cut contact, big pet peve of mine is communication so when people use the silent treatment as a point, it really gets to me.

 

This is the discussion between "confliction" and the reality of "if they wanted me they would be with me". Sometimes i think its a fine line. I remember reading a book about dating psych. and the person in the book actually admitted (non fiction) that they had "love" and a "thing" for another person for years, but still married someone else and never reached out to the person they had feelings for. Im not saying that is in your case, and you have to let it go to see if it will come back, but its a crazy thing because i think some people can have feelings and honestly do nothing about it.

 

On the flip side like you guys have been saying, if someone wakes up and thinks "wow i really have feelings for someone", they will move heaven and hell to make it happen, so its kind of hard to look at anything besides a black and white viewpoint of "we are either together or were not".

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I was actually going to make a post about this type of stuff, its like the million dollar question. I have always wondered how someone can say those things, and they cut contact, big pet peve of mine is communication so when people use the silent treatment as a point, it really gets to me.

 

This is the discussion between "confliction" and the reality of "if they wanted me they would be with me". Sometimes i think its a fine line. I remember reading a book about dating psych. and the person in the book actually admitted (non fiction) that they had "love" and a "thing" for another person for years, but still married someone else and never reached out to the person they had feelings for. Im not saying that is in your case, and you have to let it go to see if it will come back, but its a crazy thing because i think some people can have feelings and honestly do nothing about it.

 

On the flip side like you guys have been saying, if someone wakes up and thinks "wow i really have feelings for someone", they will move heaven and hell to make it happen, so its kind of hard to look at anything besides a black and white viewpoint of "we are either together or were not".

 

 

That is an interesting read. I think you are right about the fine line. The problem I also have is that my ex got into a rebound relationship within a week of us breaking up.. That also effects how she is behaving and possibly the choices she is currently making. I am not sure if she is still with this guy or not, as she has gone NC on me. She does spend some of her time away, as this is part of her job, and it is possible she simply has not recieved or been able to reply to my last message.. I wish i still had the text messages she sent me a couple of weeks ago to read to you so you could see what she was saying... I really do believe she does have feelings for me still, and i think she was being honest about saying she loved me and always would , and missed me. But i she also admits her head is a mess... so time will tell. I dont want to keep on at her, as it would push her away , and it is time that she needs.... For me, its a fine line between going 100% NC with her, or now and again letting her know i am there and thinking of her...

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Well, let me know how it goes.What ever happens, i hope its what you want and does not set you back at all...

 

I still had no reply after all this time :0(, but my ex does work at sea, so i guess its possible she is away, although that is me just clinging onto false hope i expect...

 

Hey Dreamscape,

 

Well yea he did call it was kinda of strange talking to him though.

He acutally sounded a lil down but he said he was really happy to hear my voice. He stated that hes been wanting to call me but he figured I didn't want to talk to him and I told him if I didn't want to talk to you I would've never messaged you.

He also stated that he saved the message I last sent him stated that no matter what I will always love him. I told him that this time apart as made me realize how much I turly care for him and now I understand his point of even though we are not together he wanted us to get along and he stated Im glad you see why I wanted that and as long as their is communication and understanding then its good.

He also stated that he never wanted to be at odds with me cuz life is too short and you never know what happens tomorrow.

I did tell him a few things that Ive been wanting to tell him and I know he already knew I cared but I just wanted to remind him and he was interested in knowing what else I was feeling.

He said he'll call me sometime so thats about it, it felt weird cuz he didn't sound like himself he actually sounded a little down.

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Hey, Well i am pleased you got to talk, and it seemed to go well... I guess time will tell here and you will just have to see what happens eh ? Hope it goes well, and keep us posted

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I spoke to him a couple of days ago again because I decided to send him a card by mail since it was 7 yrs ago that we met.

He called me as soon as he got the card in the mail and was really happy to receive it.

 

We spoke for a good 30 min, he stated he loves me and cares for me alot and that just becuz he doesnt call doesnt mean he don't care anymore he just respects me and doesnt want to lead me on or hurt me.

 

He stated he doesnt want to burn his bridges and with his previous ex girlfriends he never cared to speak to them again but with me its different becuz I am a very important part of his life.

 

He said you never know what happens and yes the though of getting back together has crossed my mind before so who knows what the future holds.

 

So I don't know what to expect, he was being very sweet but of course I am not hearing what I want to hear.

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I spoke to him a couple of days ago again because I decided to send him a card by mail since it was 7 yrs ago that we met.

He called me as soon as he got the card in the mail and was really happy to receive it.

 

We spoke for a good 30 min, he stated he loves me and cares for me alot and that just becuz he doesnt call doesnt mean he don't care anymore he just respects me and doesnt want to lead me on or hurt me.

 

He stated he doesnt want to burn his bridges and with his previous ex girlfriends he never cared to speak to them again but with me its different becuz I am a very important part of his life.

 

He said you never know what happens and yes the though of getting back together has crossed my mind before so who knows what the future holds.

 

So I don't know what to expect, he was being very sweet but of course I am not hearing what I want to hear.

 

 

He is keeping his options open.... keeping dangling the carrot in front of you.... so he has something to fall back on.... From the outside looking in, which i am here, it is so clear and obvious.... I know its hard as we both know only too well, but you really need to not be so " available " to him....

 

If he really wanted to be with you .. He would be !!!!!

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I think he is keeping his options open too. Keeping you around as someone to fall back on. Your best option at this point would be NC, improve yourself and show him how highly you value yourself, that your not gonna wait around. Just my opinion. I hope things ultimately work out in your favor, I know you love the guy alot.

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I think he is keeping his options open too. Keeping you around as someone to fall back on. Your best option at this point would be NC, improve yourself and show him how highly you value yourself, that your not gonna wait around. Just my opinion. I hope things ultimately work out in your favor, I know you love the guy alot.

 

Hey Calibabe,

 

As you can tell in my threads, yes this man means a lot to me.

We have 7 yrs of history together and of course I still want to have hope that one day we'll be together again but for now I know that is not happening.

 

I love him and I know he loves me but I guess not enough to be with me at this point.

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He is keeping his options open.... keeping dangling the carrot in front of you.... so he has something to fall back on.... From the outside looking in, which i am here, it is so clear and obvious.... I know its hard as we both know only too well, but you really need to not be so " available " to him....

 

If he really wanted to be with you .. He would be !!!!!

 

 

Hey Dreamscape,

I know exactly what your saying......in addition to the above he did tell me a lot of nice, positive things and thats what keeps me holding on to hope.

I really don't consider myself available but I guess by going out my way and doing lil things for him pretty much shows him that I am available.

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