Author Kuite09 Posted July 13, 2011 Author Share Posted July 13, 2011 What drives me insane is that no matter what if I call, text or email him he always replies. Like why reply? I know maybe hes just being nice or whatever but damn thats what has me confused. Maybe if he was being an ******* and ignores me I'll get the point but since he doesn't it drives me insane! UGH:o Link to post Share on other sites
dreamscape123 Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 What drives me insane is that no matter what if I call, text or email him he always replies. Like why reply? I know maybe hes just being nice or whatever but damn thats what has me confused. Maybe if he was being an ******* and ignores me I'll get the point but since he doesn't it drives me insane! UGH:o Like i said, he is keeping his options open... There is a thread on here i was reading the other day, I tried to find it again to link to you but i just cant remember which one it was, and it explains this perfectly.... The fact is, like you just said ..... when you text, email or call him !!!!! not when he contacts you... you are doing the chasing, and it does his ego good... and you are always there as a back up plan.... If he really really wanted to be with you right now... HE WOULD BE...... and buy contacting him, you are just stringing out your confusion and upset... I have now gone 100% NC.... yes i am really gutted, but i have had to do it , instead of kidding myself and hanging on to false hope.... you need to heal...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kuite09 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Share Posted July 14, 2011 Like i said, he is keeping his options open... There is a thread on here i was reading the other day, I tried to find it again to link to you but i just cant remember which one it was, and it explains this perfectly.... The fact is, like you just said ..... when you text, email or call him !!!!! not when he contacts you... you are doing the chasing, and it does his ego good... and you are always there as a back up plan.... If he really really wanted to be with you right now... HE WOULD BE...... and buy contacting him, you are just stringing out your confusion and upset... I have now gone 100% NC.... yes i am really gutted, but i have had to do it , instead of kidding myself and hanging on to false hope.... you need to heal...... Yea I told myself after that card I sent I will go completely NC. Its his turn to show something if it ever gets to that point. Its funny cuz when he was telling me I caught him by suprise with the card and that he wasnt expecting it he said " who knows, maybe I'll suprise you with a lil something some day" like whats even the point of saying this....just do it! I will go 100% NC cuz really I need to heal and do me. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamscape123 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 yea i know what you mean.... but seriously, you got to start healing and thinking of you. While you cling on to this , you will never be able to move on, and he will just keep having his cake and eating it .. so to speak..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kuite09 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Share Posted July 14, 2011 yea i know what you mean.... but seriously, you got to start healing and thinking of you. While you cling on to this , you will never be able to move on, and he will just keep having his cake and eating it .. so to speak..... Yea I know. I need to work on me and do this for me. I gotta stick with no contact and lets see if he goes out his way to contact me. It hurts so much cuz 7yrs in each others lives and then bam "its over" Yesterday I was feeling better and just thinking about all the postive things he was telling me like he still had feelings, loved me etc. But this morning I woke up and all I kept thinking about were the negative things he told me months ago. That he's been meeting people and stuff like that. why would he even tell me this? I dont know if he told me just to be honest or cuz I was driving him crazy begging and stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamscape123 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 Yea I know. I need to work on me and do this for me. I gotta stick with no contact and lets see if he goes out his way to contact me. It hurts so much cuz 7yrs in each others lives and then bam "its over" Yesterday I was feeling better and just thinking about all the postive things he was telling me like he still had feelings, loved me etc. But this morning I woke up and all I kept thinking about were the negative things he told me months ago. That he's been meeting people and stuff like that. why would he even tell me this? I dont know if he told me just to be honest or cuz I was driving him crazy begging and stuff. You do need to work on you... With me it was only 19 months, but it still hurts just as bad... and feels like my world was over... I am still completely gutted and miss her like hell, but i can now see that it really is over.... Thats the big thing..... The thought of my girl with someone else still makes me feel ill, but it is her choice.... If she wanted me, she would be here with me... And that is the same in your case.... as the old saying goes... Actions speak louder than words.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kuite09 Posted July 14, 2011 Author Share Posted July 14, 2011 You do need to work on you... With me it was only 19 months, but it still hurts just as bad... and feels like my world was over... I am still completely gutted and miss her like hell, but i can now see that it really is over.... Thats the big thing..... The thought of my girl with someone else still makes me feel ill, but it is her choice.... If she wanted me, she would be here with me... And that is the same in your case.... as the old saying goes... Actions speak louder than words.. You said enough with that old saying. Its true, we both need to work on ourselves. Thanks so much for hearing me out dreamscape. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamscape123 Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 You said enough with that old saying. Its true, we both need to work on ourselves. Thanks so much for hearing me out dreamscape. Hey, your welcome, but you dont need to thank me.... Thats why I am here too , and I do know how you feel, as i am feeling it too, but you just got to try and be strong.... It is so hard, but I find coming on here, talking to people like you helps me... Its good to know that there are people who do understand how I am feeling... Link to post Share on other sites
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