So I talked to her. Yep, you can guess the outcome!

[joeLove]

I have the feeling you are taking this and yourself too seriously.

You get mad/sad when you ask and someone refuses ...

It simply means, you haven't even asked out enough women.

You really need to read the Players Guide. Seriously ...

It is the best resource for shy men out there. You need some coaching ... on how to approach, talk to women. For some people it comes easy, but for others, it requires a little more work. I think you need lots of work.

The key though, take it in stride ... it is just a game, learn to play it ... and learn to play to win.

 

Then she will think I'm a stalker.

 

This is going to be awkward now. The last month of school since I'm in her group. Not going to be a fun rest of the summer.

 

I wish I could drop the class.

[Cracker Jack]

Nah, don't ignore her. If she texts you about something regarding the assignment, it's only right to reply to her. I'm sure you want to be on good terms with her regarding your assignment.

[PhillyDude]

So I talked to her. Yep, as usual I was denied again!

 

Basically her excuse is she said is that she really doesn't have time for anything right now, and that she is just not looking for a relationship and "sorry."

 

I can understand because she goes to school on the other end of the state, but right now just works part time in the summer and goes to class. Which if she wanted to you know she could make time somehow after class or something as others here suggested.

 

So either she does have a boyfriend, or she just is not interested in me. Me thinks more the not interested, doesn't like me.

 

 

 

I would have been sarscastic and asked her-"Do you have time for a Fck buddy"

 

LOL

[one goal]

Treat her like any other classmate. Don't act weird about the rejection.

 

She doesn't like you enough for a relationship. Does that mean she doesn't like you enough to be friends, good classmates, or amicable acquaintances? Maybe or maybe not. Time will tell but it shouldn't matter. You shouldn't allow it to control your own behavior. She is no longer someone with potential to date. Accept that and act as brusquely or friendly as you would otherwise. I don't recommend becoming her friend. Friendship was never what you wanted from her.

 

Well she goes to school on the other side of the state. She's just taking a summer class for the credit. So I wont see her again. Still why wouldn't she just go out with me for a couple months, or just hangout?

 

I wont get to probably ask anymore girls out rest of the summer. I'll have to wait until fall when I go to the university and taking 5 classes.

[one goal]

The way I said it though it I tried to make it sound like I just wanted to get to know her better, br friendly, not directly asking for a date. Why did she mention relationship then?

[one goal]

Should I apologize to her if I made her uneasy asking her out over the phone? I'm sure she was repulsed by me like all women are.

[one goal]

You should never apologize for your feelings or desires. You should not assume what all women think about you.

 

and no, I'm not ugly, and have never said anything creepy to her in person before. Should I apologize for being shy and not asking her out in person?

[LuckyLady13]

and no, I'm not ugly, and have never said anything creepy to her in person before. Should I apologize for being shy and not asking her out in person?

 

It sounds like you should forget about this girl because you're not her type and move on. Leave her alone. She isn't interested.

 

 

The people who have said you have to ask more women out and move on quickly from rejection are absolutely right!

[somedude81]

I asked her out over the phone. How can she tell my body language over the phone?

 

The way I said it though it I tried to make it sound like I just wanted to get to know her better, br friendly, not directly asking for a date. Why did she mention relationship then?

So you asked her out over the phone, why not in person?

 

What did you say to her?

[Knittress]

It won't be awkward unless you make it awkward. Just pretend it never happened, like some kind of sci-fi memory wipe. That means no apologizing, no clarifying, no further thought or investigation. Please.

[dispatch3d]

tehehe one joke is an improvement in the land of one goal in my book! Good job!

[one goal]

Well we talked for about an hour via text tonight. She wasn't creeped out about me asking her out. She said the reason why she doesn't want to date is because she recently got out of almost a year long relationship and doesn't want to date for awhile. I did mention to her I'm a few years older than her. When I told her I'm 27 she didn't believe it, and thought I was around 20ish, her age.

 

She also added me to facebook too.

 

At least she wasn't repulsed by me, and kept texting me.

[one goal]

Don't get obsessed with her. There are other women even if you are forced to go outside of school for them.

 

I know. I'm just glad at least she doesn't hate me, and at least doesn't mind talking to me.

 

I've seen a lot of others say I don't look my age. Is that a bad thing she thought I was younger?

[one goal]

Be careful. You talk to her too much and you'll focus on her while missing out on actual opportunities.

 

That she thought you were in her age range would have been a good thing if she was interested in you unless she has a preference for younger or much older males.

 

True. I would have thought she been creeped out knowing now I'm 7 years older.

[one goal]

Be careful. You talk to her too much and you'll focus on her while missing out on actual opportunities.

 

That she thought you were in her age range would have been a good thing if she was interested in you unless she has a preference for younger or much older males.

 

I know, but I wont be meeting anymore girls really until school starts back in Aug then.

 

If things are friendly between us and that, would it be alright the end of next month when summer school is out to see if she wants to go do something?

[oaks]

With a person like this you'll never be able to ask out enough girls. You ask out 50 then he'll come back with why didn't you ask out 100? If you ask out 100 then he'll come back with why didn't you ask out 200?

 

Wait, what? No, I'm just calling him out for complaining that he always gets turned down when basically he never asks girls out anyway.

[oaks]

Well we talked for about an hour via text tonight. She wasn't creeped out about me asking her out.

 

Good, so it won't be awkward in class. You're both adults. You asked her out, she said no and she's even explained why. No harm, no foul. Don't dwell on her reasons - just accept them and accept that you're not going to change her mind.

 

Find a new girl.

[one goal]

Good, so it won't be awkward in class. You're both adults. You asked her out, she said no and she's even explained why. No harm, no foul. Don't dwell on her reasons - just accept them and accept that you're not going to change her mind.

 

Find a new girl.

 

a month from now towards the end of summer classes would it be okay to maybe see if she wants to go hangout then? Since that is a month away, and I wont be seeing her anymore. I mean it wont hurt to ask then.

[SomewhatExperienced]

How many lady-friends (non-romantic female friends) do you have? Are you simply comfortable having a real friendship with a girl where you have no intention of sleeping with them?

 

I ask this because I have a friend who's looks are not his issue (I've had girlfriends who thought he was plenty handsome), but he has no clue how to make girls comfortable. I've seen him try his luck with girls. It's hard for me to watch. He's not overly creepy or anything, but it's so clear that he's just interested in dating/relationship/sex that I think it pushes a lot of girls back.

 

The guys that I see girls more comfortable agreeing to date are guys who clearly are happy just to chat and make conversation with them, as if this would also be a person they'd be happy just to get to know better and be friends with even nothing more developed. They're comfortable just to be with someone who is engaging and interested and not simply thinking about their next move to get closer to sex.

 

So maybe change your gameplan a bit. Think about why it's not working out for you as you wish and I can pretty much guarantee that it's likely not your looks/money/height/car that so many guys on LS like to bitch about.

[oaks]

I know, but I wont be meeting anymore girls really until school starts back in Aug then.

 

Bah! The classroom isn't the only place to meet girls, especially since you're 27. Why don't you go to that cafe that I mentioned and sit somewhere where you can have a good view of the place. Take a newspaper to read, and drink your coffee slowly. See how many girls come in. I'm not even going to say you should talk to any of them (but you get bonus points for a smile and a 'hi')... just prove to yourself that girls inhabit other locations than the classroom! Then come back here and tell us how many of those girls were attractive. Also, I want to know if the ice cream really is good.

 

I've already said that one of your problems is not asking enough girls, but if you're not even meeting enough then that's something you can work on.

 

If things are friendly between us and that, would it be alright the end of next month when summer school is out to see if she wants to go do something?

 

Well, you've had several people including me to tell you to forget about her and move on... so what do you think I'm going to say? But, if you're naturally friends by the end of school then you won't need to ask us... you'll just naturally end up keeping in touch with her. She added you on facebook already, so you can keep in touch, but I very much doubt that she will be interested in being anything more than friends so stop even thinking about it.

[one goal]

Bah! The classroom isn't the only place to meet girls, especially since you're 27. Why don't you go to that cafe that I mentioned and sit somewhere where you can have a good view of the place. Take a newspaper to read, and drink your coffee slowly. See how many girls come in. I'm not even going to say you should talk to any of them (but you get bonus points for a smile and a 'hi')... just prove to yourself that girls inhabit other locations than the classroom! Then come back here and tell us how many of those girls were attractive. Also, I want to know if the ice cream really is good.

 

I've already said that one of your problems is not asking enough girls, but if you're not even meeting enough then that's something you can work on.

 

 

 

Well, you've had several people including me to tell you to forget about her and move on... so what do you think I'm going to say? But, if you're naturally friends by the end of school then you won't need to ask us... you'll just naturally end up keeping in touch with her. She added you on facebook already, so you can keep in touch, but I very much doubt that she will be interested in being anything more than friends so stop even thinking about it.

 

WHy wouldn't she be interested in going out with me during the end of the semester before she goes back to school? I really want to go hangout with her. At least get something out of it. She is really cute.

[RovingReporter]

WHy wouldn't she be interested in going out with me during the end of the semester before she goes back to school? I really want to go hangout with her. At least get something out of it. She is really cute.

 

How can you be this dense? When a woman tells you she doesn't want you hang out with you or date you you can assume this mandate will stand for ALL ETERNITY.

 

There's clearly something wrong with you, mentally or physically that's preventing you from meeting women so uh, work on that instead of stalking the **** out of every woman you fancy.

[Cee]

WHy wouldn't she be interested in going out with me during the end of the semester before she goes back to school? I really want to go hangout with her. At least get something out of it. She is really cute.

 

That is not how it works in the dating world. No means no. Don't look for crumbs when you get more from someone else. You will waste a month of your life waiting for her. Instead, use that time to work on yourself and meet women outside of class.

 

You are afraid of asking someone new out and facing new rejection. That is why you are focusing on her. You know you don't really have a chance. But you think that if you try in a month, you can delay the inevitable-- Asking other women out.

 

I'm sorry, but you must move on. You can move on now or you can obsess about her for a month and move on after she goes back to school. Either way, you will move on. I suggest you move on now.

 

tl;dr - Move on, now

[rafallus]

Well we talked for about an hour via text tonight. She wasn't creeped out about me asking her out. She said the reason why she doesn't want to date is because she recently got out of almost a year long relationship and doesn't want to date for awhile. I did mention to her I'm a few years older than her. When I told her I'm 27 she didn't believe it, and thought I was around 20ish, her age.

 

She also added me to facebook too.

 

At least she wasn't repulsed by me, and kept texting me.

 

She's gonna keep you for attention you give her and validation.

[one goal]

Will I have a better chance when I attend the University in the fall? I'll be going there 5 days a week, 5 classes. Are my chances better at meeting more girls then since it's a university? It's in my town so I wont be living in the dorms, just commuting, but I live in a major city and most of the colleges are commuter schools.

 

 

I'd still like to see if she wants to go do something at the end of the semester. at least I could be friends with her hopefully or maybe she would change her mind and wont mind going out with me.