I just want to give you people some hope :)

[ALombard]

Hey guys and gals,

 

First let me start off by saying, for those of you still currently dealing with a break-up, ex coming back into your life, loneliness, or any other type of feeling that comes from having a broken heart, stay on this site. Keep posting your stories, your feelings, and your thoughts. Chronicling your struggle to get out of the darkness your in will help you tremendously.

 

For those of you who don't know my story I will keep it basic and short. I was with a girl for five years. We broke up four times during that period and each time I found out she had lied, cheated, and disrespected me. We broke up again almost two months ago. Now until this most current break up I was always a wreck after she left me for a new guy. I would drink constantly, I would stop eating, stop sleeping, have random hook ups, and lose what you could call my "spice" for living. I am obviously in a very different, very new chapter in my life at this point and I am very very happy. This is how I did it...

 

When this last break up happened I was once again lied to. I started going out and following my usual path of depression. It lasted three days.

 

What I noticed about myself after those three days was that I had no reason to be sad. My life was never as bad as I made it out to be, I would just get caught up in my own head that I never really looked at life for what it is. I never realized that there were far more important things to worry about, to be sad about, and to stress out about. My ex wasn't the end all to my life, she was just a speed bump.

 

A lot of you are probably in the same situation. Looking around each day and going through memories of your past relationship. You're probably going through each day with your usual routine and having those routines bring up memories of your ex. That's why you need to switch it up.

 

I don't know what I'm trying to get at but I just want all of you to know that even though you feel like crap right now. Even though you feel hopeless you have to understand that when you are finally ready to be done with the past it will happen. Realize that with every second you spend depressed and thinking about your ex you're losing out on what potential opportunities.

 

So in closing. Force yourself to laugh, put yourself out there even if it makes you uncomfortable at first, keep yourself busy with work, with friends, and with family. Try new things to help switch up your routine, wake up each day and realize how amazing just being alive is, and most of all never let even a slight opportunity pass you by.

 

Two quotes that helped me also were these.

 

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.

and

 

Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.

[yulaw911]

Thanks for your post, It really made me feel like i can feel as happy as i did before my relationship. My story is similar to yours where my ex lied multiple times during our 4 year relationship, she broke up with me and immediately got with another person in a few weeks. Sad to say but i can't stand the fact that she thinks she can go through life using and manipulating people for her own happiness without any sense of regret or remorse for her actions. Only thing getting me through it is thinking that she'll never find a person who cared for her the way i did and that karma will bite her in the ass one day.

[Trovador]

Thanks for sharing... I've doing since my b/u some of what you suggest and I am fine really... actually, I am glad the relationship is over ha ha!

 

I never declared myself dead, not even defeated (despite I accepted I had lost this particular battle) in life... it was just another experience...

 

I also refused to idolize my ex and I now realize she was just another regular woman whom I gave too much importance...

 

So, keep preaching bro!