Floridaman Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 (edited) In sum, what the OP's trying to say is.... She wants to act like the daughter of the devil himself in bed (with her fiance or hubby).... yet remain an Angel in White before... There has to be some committment or love involved, not just sex.. I can see that.... and dated some women like that. I respected keeping their virginity.... A couple were never-married non-virgins who had limited experience but didn't want to go all the way with me bec. of the emotional toll (and guilt) they knew it would take on them if we consummated our relationship.... Will admit (physically I did want to take it to that level..... That didn't mean, however, that we couldn't enjoy "other" things (short of entering) so we both could get some satisfaction. Let's just say neither me nor my future wife "held back" when we started dating in our 30s.... She hadn't had sex since her early 20s with a former fiance and I was a semi-virgin in my 20s.... We didn't begin ML until 3 mos. into our relationship, so I wasn't after just one thing... After all, Christian women can be very hot in bed as well.... Edited June 26, 2011 by Floridaman Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Share Posted June 26, 2011 In sum, what the OP's trying to say is.... She wants to act like the daughter of the devil himself in bed (with her fiance or hubby).... yet remain an Angel in White before... There has to be some committment or love involved, not just sex.. I can see that.... and dated some women like that. I respected keeping their virginity.... A couple were never-married non-virgins who had limited experience but didn't want to go all the way with me bec. of the emotional toll (and guilt) they knew it would take on them if we consummated our relationship.... Will admit (physically I did want to take it to that level..... That didn't mean, however, that we couldn't enjoy "other" things (short of entering) so we both could get some satisfaction. Let's just say neither me nor my future wife "held back" when we started dating in our 30s.... She hadn't had sex since her early 20s with a former fiance and I was a semi-virgin in my 20s.... We didn't begin ML until 3 mos. into our relationship, so I wasn't after just one thing... After all, Christian women can be very hot in bed as well.... OMG, Thank you FloridaMan!! I don't want some Christian goodie goodie who's gonna have us sleeping in separate beds!! I want me my HAWT guy that I'm totally attracted to. But I'm not compromising my values and morals for said guy. Thanks...you summed it up way better than I could. I knew I was trying to say something, I just didn't know how to say it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Share Posted June 26, 2011 After all, Christian women can be very hot in bed as well.... A+ Too many of my male friends I get crushes on see this innocent virgin girl at 26 and see that I've fallen for them and maybe want something serious and then get scared when in honesty, I'm human and have desires just like they do. I think men (and I have read this somewhere) get scared of commitment because they think they're future SO is gonna turn into some prude who never does anything with them. SO NOT TRUE. You can be an honest decent Christian HUMAN being. EMPHASIS ON HUMAN!!!!!!! Now...will my BAD BOY ROCKER GUY PLEASE COME TO ME NOW, I'M GETTING SICK OF WAITING, NOT TO MENTION THERE ARE DUST BUNNIES STARTING TO GROW...PLACES... Link to post Share on other sites
snug.bunny Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Snug, I want to send you a PM but you're not receiving PMs. When you have time, please send me one. Thanks. Hi Floridaman, I've added your profile as a contact so my PM function is enabled now. Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 A+ Too many of my male friends I get crushes on see this innocent virgin girl at 26 and see that I've fallen for them and maybe want something serious and then get scared when in honesty, I'm human and have desires just like they do. I think men (and I have read this somewhere) get scared of commitment because they think they're future SO is gonna turn into some prude who never does anything with them. That could be... but methinks the reason has more to do with some men wanting to "play the field' and sexually "conquer" as many women as possible. I was never like that -- didn't only want to bang as many women as I could. Of course, I had sexual desires, but I truly did care more about finding a relationship than satisfying my sexual lusts. That didn't mean I didn't "try" things and get a little sexually involved, as I posted. So there are guys out there like me. Trust me, I wasn't scared of committment. As I got into my mid-20s, realized how lonely I was and wanted someone.... OMG, Thank you FloridaMan!! I don't want some Christian goodie goodie who's gonna have us sleeping in separate beds!! Would think that would be rather rare. Most guys want sex. I don't think you'll have any problem dating a Christian man. Most aren't prudes.... Many have had sex before and regret it so they may (understandably) take things slower than some others (my experience in my 20s after HS sex), but they're humans just like others and likely will crave you sexually as much as other guys... When I dated, I wanted the woman I would marry to have some type of Christian belief. She didn't have to be super-devout or anything, as I once was, but to have some kind of faith... And she didn't have to be a virgin, but I wanted someone who had limited experience, like me. To make sure you two are on the same page, once you get serious and begin talking getting engaged, ask him his views on sex and what he thinks your sex life will be life after you get married... That could help you decide if he says he doesn't like sex or something... I want me my HAWT guy that I'm totally attracted to. But I'm not compromising my values and morals for said guy. As you've stated your boundaries on remaining a virgin until marriage or at least engagement, you may find yourself keeping them off you on the couch.... You may gauge some of his sexual interest on how he makes moves on you... Thanks...you summed it up way better than I could. I knew I was trying to say something, I just didn't know how to say it. The quote was from a big 1970s Eagles song... "One of These Nights..." Recalled that line and immediately thought of you. And yes, I have personal experience with a woman who treats you well in bed yet wasn't promiscous..... Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Hi Floridaman, I've added your profile as a contact so my PM function is enabled now. Still doesn't work. Not sure why. I PM other posters here.... so it shouldn't be anything on my end. And you're an Established Member, so sure we'll get it to work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 That could be... but methinks the reason has more to do with some men wanting to "play the field' and sexually "conquer" as many women as possible. I was never like that -- didn't only want to bang as many women as I could. Of course, I had sexual desires, but I truly did care more about finding a relationship than satisfying my sexual lusts. That didn't mean I didn't "try" things and get a little sexually involved, as I posted. So there are guys out there like me. Trust me, I wasn't scared of committment. As I got into my mid-20s, realized how lonely I was and wanted someone.... Would think that would be rather rare. Most guys want sex. I don't think you'll have any problem dating a Christian man. Most aren't prudes.... Many have had sex before and regret it so they may (understandably) take things slower than some others (my experience in my 20s after HS sex), but they're humans just like others and likely will crave you sexually as much as other guys... When I dated, I wanted the woman I would marry to have some type of Christian belief. She didn't have to be super-devout or anything, as I once was, but to have some kind of faith... And she didn't have to be a virgin, but I wanted someone who had limited experience, like me. To make sure you two are on the same page, once you get serious and begin talking getting engaged, ask him his views on sex and what he thinks your sex life will be life after you get married... That could help you decide if he says he doesn't like sex or something... As you've stated your boundaries on remaining a virgin until marriage or at least engagement, you may find yourself keeping them off you on the couch.... You may gauge some of his sexual interest on how he makes moves on you... The quote was from a big 1970s Eagles song... "One of These Nights..." Recalled that line and immediately thought of you. And yes, I have personal experience with a woman who treats you well in bed yet wasn't promiscous..... Well, I like a guy who isn't a Christian. Like, big time, major like. Link to post Share on other sites
snug.bunny Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Still doesn't work. Not sure why. I PM other posters here.... so it shouldn't be anything on my end. And you're an Established Member, so sure we'll get it to work out. It should work now, I didn't realize you had to check both boxes in the options section. Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Well, I like a guy who isn't a Christian. Like, big time, major like. That may be your problem. He may know you're a Christian and he's not. Maybe he's shy about dating Christians. Like many people, he may have some misperceptions about Christians. Thinking they're prudes, not interested in enjoying life, etc. This less or inexperienced guy has an interesting take on dating women of faith. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3465389&postcount=32 Sure. Christians generally view life differently than non-believers but that doesn't mean they're not human (and have needs) too !! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Well, I finally figured out my problem and it is really simple, actually. Yes, I'm a Christian, but I'm also a girl. And A LOT of girls are notorious for liking ***holes. I'm that type of girl. (So is my best friend). We want some ***hole creep to get serious with us and only us, but still be the ***hole creep to everyone else (but us). It's a never ending cycle. "Nice" guys turn me off. I want the bad boy, ***hole. I always use the analogy of the movie A Walk To Remember. Where the good Christian girl gets the boy who puts down her bible the first time they talk and then he winds up "seeing a better way" and marries her (no sex first) and giving her everything she wants. It's convoluted and makes absolutely no sense. But that's what girls who like ***holes do. I'm the type of girl that likes those type of guys and it hasn't and probably isn't going to change for awhile. If a guy is being super nice and seems to be more in love with me than I him and wants to go out of his way to be a gentlemen...naturally, I run for the hills. It's something I will probably always struggle with. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 You're living in fantasy land. Is there even such a thing as a bad boy rocker anymore? Last time I saw one was probably back in the 80's, and even then they seemed corny. Link to post Share on other sites
TheLawmaker Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 You're living in fantasy land. Is there even such a thing as a bad boy rocker anymore? Last time I saw one was probably back in the 80's, and even then they seemed corny. Get your jiggy on, OP! http://www.4tnz.com/files/Picture%204_2.png Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Hang on a minute, you say you like bad boy rockers and not nice guys. Yet you're really attracted to Hanson. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 Hang on a minute, you say you like bad boy rockers and not nice guys. Yet you're really attracted to Hanson. No, I'm not attracted to Hanson. They are married and they are too nice. They couldn't handle a girl like me. I'm a Christian bad ass. I'm a walking contradiction. That's why I want a bad boy/good guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 Hang on a minute, you say you like bad boy rockers and not nice guys. Yet you're really attracted to Hanson. let me rephrase...I find hanson attractive, yes. But just because you find somebody attractive doesn't mean want to be with them. I just acknoweldge the fact that they are very decent, attractive looking young men. That's not what attracts me, though. Much heavier looking guys is what I'm attracted to and what I wanna be with. A guy like Sid Glover from Heaven's Basement. If you don't know who he is, look him up. Link to post Share on other sites
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